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For instance let's say you wanted to have kids (within a timeframe) as one of your goals. This is just an example, though. It can be many. What would be worse:

- Settling for someone you're not passionately in love with but they're compatible with your goals, values, lifestyle, etc. They've been vetted in the dating process and you have come to loving and respecting them. It's just that you're infatuated with him, nor crazily lusting over them and it's not their fault. That person gave you kids at your timeframe and everything you ever wanted.

- Falling in love, being in love with them but realizing you've done a poor selection and didn't even do a vetting process. Either you aren't on the same page on goals, values, lifestyles, etc or they keep on making excuses. For instance you might want kids at a certain time and they keep filling your mind with ''maybe, one day it'll happen'' and they're wasting your time. Ok so you're in love with them but what else? Besides the dates, romance and intimacy, you find yourself unhappy upon realizing you'll never get what you want out of them.