Too much sex in a relationship?

[Anonymous]

I recently reconnected with my current boyfriend after almost 7 years. We couldn't be together before but it was love at first sight back in 2017. Things did not progress to a relationship as circumstances got in the way. However, I met him again and we realised we still had feelings for each other. And decided to start our relationship. He is really caring and he does treat me very nicely.

We went on numerous dates etc and then he took me to Portsmouth for a 2 week getaway. He had booked a house there and we stayed there in a really nice place. The experience was simple. It was just eating, hanging out in the afternoons and sex. Loads of sex which was almost everyday. He wouldn't stay away from me even when driving back to London.

We didn't have sex before this trip. We were simply going on dates, getting to know each other and kissing etc for a month.

He does stare at me quite a lot and frequently compliments etc.

But I have a hard time trusting men as I have been hurt and objectified before and I don't know if this is love or lust.

What do you think?

He's 29 and I'm 33.

[zayndan]

He is at the stage of life where his sexual desire is at its peak. And clearly he's giving full reign to his desires and making the most of it. Eventually he will slow down as he gets used to having sex, plus it will eventually take a toll on the body (talking from experience, and I recommend self control). Definitely should not be having sex everyday. Does he love you? There's no way anyone can know that for certain but yourself. What I'll say is to not let your past cause you to doubt and mistrust him. If he does things that are red flags, then use wisdom. If all is going well, thank God and enjoy each moment

[Asker]

Separation story in short

story began amidst the backdrop of university life, where he and I first crossed paths during a period of student protests. it was love at first sight (we first saw each other a week before the protests). I saw him looking at me whilst standing in front of the cash machine and he stood totally transfixed, staring at me. His presence was magnetic, his gaze drawn to my face and he always made fierce eye contact. it became clear that he harbored a deep infatuation, often lingering nearby and finding reasons to engage, yet struggling to articulate his feelings directly. Our connection, however, was tumultuous; miscommunications and external peer pressures led to a heartbreaking separation marked by his defensive demeanor, he struggled to approach and talk to me on his own (all our previous conversations were initiated by me and he alwats expected me to start the conversation first). He would simply say hi and walk away which made me feel like he didn't want to talk more. However, he became bitter and angry (gave me angry looks) so I went to talk things out and he told me that he was hoping i would start a conversation. I had offered to talk things out further but he didn't agree, leaving our bond fractured and unresolved.

Over the years, our paths would sporadically intersect, each meeting was unresolved emotions and unspoken words. He tried to greet me twice in 2019 and 2020 but I was hurt and didn't acknowledge. He had also started dating someone else so i didn't want to talk at all during those years. However in 2022 we crossed paths again and I ended up greeting him and later on he was blatantly staring at me in front of his then girlfriend (now ex).

We met again this year and he greeted me which lead to talking and he asked to go out for coffee. We exchanged numbers and he expressed everything about what happened in the past, how regretful he was and how he was unable to forget and move on and that he was always in love with me.

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[zayndan]

Love is a very deep word, not the cheap trash people often say to each other but fail to show in trying times. Therefore, I will not venture to say yes or no, because I don't know him personally. Besides, love and lust have many things on common so it's sometimes tricky to tell. But if I may ask, do you love him?

[Nirmroth]

Are you already exclusive/official? For me personally this is a little marriage. Less likely to bolt away and more determined to stick trough than if its loose in the dating phase.

Having lots of intimacy and sex at the beginning of a new rl is pretty normal. Im not a big fan of playing games if you feel comfortable with the pace.

[Asker]

Separation story in short

story began amidst the backdrop of university life, where he and I first crossed paths during a period of student protests. it was love at first sight (we first saw each other a week before the protests). I saw him looking at me whilst standing in front of the cash machine and he stood totally transfixed, staring at me. His presence was magnetic, his gaze drawn to my face and he always made fierce eye contact. it became clear that he harbored a deep infatuation, often lingering nearby and finding reasons to engage, yet struggling to articulate his feelings directly. Our connection, however, was tumultuous; miscommunications and external peer pressures led to a heartbreaking separation marked by his defensive demeanor, he struggled to approach and talk to me on his own (all our previous conversations were initiated by me and he alwats expected me to start the conversation first). He would simply say hi and walk away which made me feel like he didn't want to talk more. However, he became bitter and angry (gave me angry looks) so I went to talk things out and he told me that he was hoping i would start a conversation. I had offered to talk things out further but he didn't agree, leaving our bond fractured and unresolved.

Over the years, our paths would sporadically intersect, each meeting was unresolved emotions and unspoken words. He tried to greet me twice in 2019 and 2020 but I was hurt and didn't acknowledge. He had also started dating someone else so i didn't want to talk at all during those years. However in 2022 we crossed paths again and I ended up greeting him and later on he was blatantly staring at me in front of his then girlfriend (now ex).

We met again this year and he greeted me which lead to talking and he asked to go out for coffee. We exchanged numbers and he expressed everything about what happened in the past, how regretful he was and how he was unable to forget and move on and that he was always in love with me.

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[Nirmroth]

His past behaviour seems kinda toxic and childish but people can change.

I would chill a bit, you're only dating for a few weeks by now. Give it 3 months and if everything is still fine you can let yourself fall

[Max_Space]

Sex is 70% of the relationship. It made him fall in love with you even more. It means he is very happy with you in bed

[Asker]

Separation story in short

story began amidst the backdrop of university life, where he and I first crossed paths during a period of student protests. it was love at first sight (we first saw each other a week before the protests). I saw him looking at me whilst standing in front of the cash machine and he stood totally transfixed, staring at me. His presence was magnetic, his gaze drawn to my face and he always made fierce eye contact. it became clear that he harbored a deep infatuation, often lingering nearby and finding reasons to engage, yet struggling to articulate his feelings directly. Our connection, however, was tumultuous; miscommunications and external peer pressures led to a heartbreaking separation marked by his defensive demeanor, he struggled to approach and talk to me on his own (all our previous conversations were initiated by me and he alwats expected me to start the conversation first). He would simply say hi and walk away which made me feel like he didn't want to talk more. However, he became bitter and angry (gave me angry looks) so I went to talk things out and he told me that he was hoping i would start a conversation. I had offered to talk things out further but he didn't agree, leaving our bond fractured and unresolved.

Over the years, our paths would sporadically intersect, each meeting was unresolved emotions and unspoken words. He tried to greet me twice in 2019 and 2020 but I was hurt and didn't acknowledge. He had also started dating someone else so i didn't want to talk at all during those years. However in 2022 we crossed paths again and I ended up greeting him and later on he was blatantly staring at me in front of his then girlfriend (now ex).

We met again this year and he greeted me which lead to talking and he asked to go out for coffee. We exchanged numbers and he expressed everything about what happened in the past, how regretful he was and how he was unable to forget and move on and that he was always in love with me.

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[woahhh152]

In that case go a little slow with sex and not have a lot and see hoe it goes

[woahhh152]

how*

[shortster]

Once a day isn't too much.

[woahhh152]

how*

[woahhh152]

Sorry I didn't mean to comment it here