How do you know your in love not in lust?

[Crimsyjo]

[OlderAndWiser]

How long have you known the object of your desire? Is the relationship also sexual?

[FreyaRed]

Lust is like appetite. It disappears when you got the dish you wanted. Love is when you want someone by your side all the time, not just in certain moments.

[SweetJoyGirl]

When you are both able to get through the rough patches.

[SweetJoyGirl]

That is love.

If you can’t get through patches, then it was probably lust.

[Crimsyjo]

Awww that is sweet! And yh. Like when u could end it and walk away but somehow you just can't? You don't wanna give up on that person or the relationship?

[SweetJoyGirl]

Exactly!

[Crimsyjo]

This guy and I... we can't seem to part ways. Even tho he's got a girlfriend now... 🙈. And no we not having sex. But there's a bond we just can't seem to let go off. Well. I presume it's same for him as he is one who reaches out to me from morning to night and doesn't want me to stop talking to him even tho we both literally falling asleep!
It's bad tho. I need to not be in love with him...

[exitseven]

If you are in lust , after you have sex you want to leave and go home. You do not want to see her again until you are horny again.

[Crimsyjo]

Sooo... if after sex he still wants to message me every day and talk random stuff not just horny stuff? And not let me go sleep cos he wants me to stay talking to him even tho he's really tired too and not even saying much?

[SweetJoyGirl]

Wait a minute…did they start dating before he met you or after he met you? 🤔

[Crimsyjo]

@SweetJoyGirl we started as FB... so sex first lol.

[SweetJoyGirl]

Oh, ew…😭

[exitseven]

Thanks for the MHO😎

[AI Opinion]

Diving into the sizzling waters of love versus lust, it's all about depth over dazzle, my friend. When you're struck by Cupid’s arrow, you're in for the rollercoaster of fondness, admiration, and the irresistible urge to share your Doritos. It’s the slow burn, the late-night talks about whether pineapple belongs on pizza, and the comfort of silence that whispers, "Yep, this is the real deal."

Lust, on the flip side, is like a fireworks show – explosive, thrilling, but fades faster than your enthusiasm for joining that 6 AM gym class. It's all about the physical magnetism, the heart racing, and the temperature rising, but deep conversations? Not so much.

So, if your heart skips a beat not just for their killer smile but for their killer personality, you're not just catching feelings; you're falling deep into the love pit. And there’s no better place to be! 😘

[Nikki1989]

Lust is a short-term high.

Love gets in your blood.

[Crimsyjo]

If your in the early phase how do u know the difference? Tho it's been like nearly 9 months for me now that I feel connected on a sexual, emotional and spiritual level to this guy...

[boggboss]

Because their is a difference in the feelings lust tending to only be that physical need and focus

[Crimsyjo]

Oh fuck. I think km on love

[Crimsyjo]

Oops traffic and texting. I said I think I'm in love lol. But he's a dick. Lol

[boggboss]

Oh congratulations

[boggboss]

Oh shit sorry that's not good

[Crimsyjo]

I know. i can't have him haha. Tho we were FWBs for 3 months so physically I know we are on fire with our mutual passion. It's complicated.

[boggboss]

Maybe it would be best to detach yourself from him as if u know all of this yet u still fell for him I only see u getting hurt here

[Angelo75]

Well for starters, the feeling you're feeling, did they come very quickly, like love at first sight? Then it's "lust".

[Nerdvana]

I will want to spend time with her and do things with her, without always wanting sex. I want her to know my family, my job, my friends and my finances.

[jahaims]

If you remove everything sexual from the relationship would you still feel the same passion and appeal

[nawtee_me]

If I want to be with you for the sex then it is probably lust but if I want to be with you even if we don’t have sex the n it is probably love. I am sure the sex is good either way…. lol

[bowenw]

Love will last. See how you feel about the person after a year or two.

[KittygosMeoWW]

When I actually want someone around after sex or let them stay over… currently celibate but that’s how I’d know I liked them

[bananathunder]

you want to hang out with them after having sex...

[Crimsyjo]

What about wanting to talk to eachother all day everyday, getting tingles just knowing the person messaged you.. Feeling a connection? Caring. but also just daydreaming about wanting to kiss them...

[bananathunder]

well that too... but you know it's not just lust if you're not horny and you still want/think/dream about them ;)

[Crimsyjo]

Oh yh. I love it when he talks to me everyday and I love being horny with him but I love even more if we just talking normal too. I wish i knew if he felt same or if it's all in my head. Cos we were both at work today and not horny but he still kept reaching out to say hey. Even tho he's driving and can't text anything meaningful either. He's not most text-chatty but he will send me regular pics of where he is and what's he doing and his beloved project too (his car lol). I'd like to think if he just wanted sex he wd just message me in the evening when frisky.

[bananathunder]

sounds like he really likes you :)

[Crimsyjo]

🥰 really? It messes with my head cos he won't ever verbally say anything so I have to try read his behaviour to tell his feelings. Other night I kept trying to say goodbye and goodnight but he didn't want me to stop talking to him. Even tho it was late late and we both tired! He won't say he misses me or anything nice tho. Closest I ever got from him was after I was upset and said he would just say fine it I said I'm not going to talk to him he said he wouldn't just say fine. And another time he said he will talk to me as long as I keep talking him. Despite also saying he's never stayed friends with anyone he's slept with before (outside of his two relationships).

[bananathunder]

well, I'm sure he wouldn't continue talking to you if he wasn't into you. And if it was only lust, he would keep the conversation sexual in my opinion

[Crimsyjo]

See thank you!! But then for as many who say he is into me, others keep saying he's playing games!! So I'm still confused.
I did ask chatbot... and AI reckons he definitely is into me if we look at all the non verbal cues! 🙈

[bananathunder]

lol yess always confirm with AI chatbot ;)

[LiamJHayden]

With love I want the best for her. With lust I want what I want.

[Anonymous]

You still REALLY want her around even after the load has been blown!

[Crimsyjo]

Haha! Cute lol. But I guess some guys might hang around a bit to not seem rude? 😄

[Anonymous]

It’s easy to tell Lust is like masturbating love is with the heart

[NathanDavis]

lust just doesn't move me like that

[Crimsyjo]

I'm so emotionally tied to one guy. Just hearing a ping from recieving a text from him sends tingles like electric through my body. I wanna slap him for being annoying and poor at expressing himself (which he freely confesses) , but also grab him and take care of him and make sure he's ok. Give him a massage after a tough day at work. Cheer him if down. Entertain him if bored. And of course jump his bones! Oh yes. Lots of that! But it's been so long since i was inlove I just can't remember what it's supposed to feel like!

[NathanDavis]

oh, yes... I do remember notification sounds just like that, such good times...

[HawkPerception]

Would you die for the person? Case closed.

[MrGSpotHer]

Probably because love is rare

[Wise4myage]

Lust is fleeting, love is more sincere.

[Luopio27]

When you want way more than sex!

[Jennz6]

I really don’t know

[Bklynbadboy12]

You don't only time will tell

[Crimsyjo]

But you can be in love then fall out of love? So doesn't mean the love wasn't real? Just that if it's not reciprocated or able to be? It might go?

[Bklynbadboy12]

Yes you can but I wouldn't say the love wasn't real. Love is different for everyone so it's safe to say it depends on the person and how they interpret love and also how well they handle being in love

[Crimsyjo]

I'm in love and I like it and hate it at the same time lol. It's taking away my sexiness as it makes me soppy instead urgh! Help! How do I stop it lol

[Bklynbadboy12]

Love your profile pic and I know sometimes it's a blessing and a curse and trust me when I tell you that nothing will take away from your sexiness

[Crimsyjo]

Awww sweet. I just want to channel my sexiness into my guy lol.
Tho... as I can't have him... I did go jump a guys bones last night. It was hot... but still lacking my usual vibrancy! I'm gonna work on getting it back lol

[Bklynbadboy12]

You don't have to work on it I'm sure he was more than satisfied. Why can't you have the guy that you want

[Crimsyjo]

I could DM u lol

[Bklynbadboy12]

Sure you can

[Twalli]

You want more than sexual connections

[noohair]

Lust doen not last when times are hard.

[OddBeMe]

When you want to spend most your time with them.

[Ladsin2]

Time

[Crimsyjo]

But time can also kill love? Doesn't mean there was no love though?

[Ladsin2]

There are 4 types of love. Eros, Philos, Sorge, and Agape. Erotic love hits hard and fast, but slowly dies. Women find out there man isn’t as smart as they though he was. He’s not the best provider because she sees friends with more affluent partners etc. Men fine that his woman is more of a harpy than he thought she’d be. He doesn’t get to do why he wants to do all the time, and she dries up. If you work at it and have a sense of duty your erotic love should evolve into agape or sacrificial love where you’re willing to sacrifice happiness for fulfillment building a family with this person.

[Crimsyjo]

What about after you have had a family? So that is no longer the driving force for a partnership?
I love the wild sex stage. But I am realising that has to be sacrificed if you want a loving, loyal, intimate and trusting bond over the long term.

[Ladsin2]

You never lose your family. Even when your kids leave you still have your husband you built a home with. Your children are still your children. Hopefully your parents are still involved in your life. You’ll have grandkids, etc.

[Pterodon]

Time will tell