My girlfriend is Chinese. I know that I love her. Obviously, if I hear myself telling her "Wǒ ài nǐ," or "I love you," then I am reminded that I am in love. But I also find myself being protective of her, nurturing, wanting to do things for her, wanting to keep her safe and secure. I want to hold her close sometimes and I feel better just being close to her. And I know that some guys will want to call me names for showing my feelings in that way, telling me that I shouldn't treat any woman like a queen, but you should also know that she treats me like a king. Before I come to visit her, she makes sure that she has my preferred foods and beverages, she wants to do things because she knows those things will make me happy, and she comes to visit me (we live 80 miles apart) as often as I come to visit her. At each house, we have an identical set of coffee cups:Mine. . .and hers.Aside from hearing "I love you" coming from your lips, how do you know (or what do you do that serves to remind you) that you are in love?
@nella965 Very Good Chance he has decades. He’s healthy well off and no major health issues with a positive disposition. There is no good reason on this earth why exactly je should not be dating if that is his wish. He has no less a right to it than you or anyone else. I don’t know where you get this nonsense even less how it can make sense to you and least of all how it is you have crowned yourself gatekeeper to relationships. This is garbage. People date in all stages of life for all reasons and it is the wise person who Is willing to question throughout life as we all change constantly and no one ever knows anything 💯
Furthermore perhaps you have not noticed but his posts are well liked on here he is a fantastic contributor and I think it is extremely inspiring and a positive influence the way he continues to grab life fully.
Just like OP I am sorry if you are going through some personal trauma that caused you to lash out in this ridiculous fashion but this was incredibly gross. If you had difference of opinion there are so many adult ways you could have approached this. If you are 26 you are way — way too old to be acting like an entitled snot. 🤧
He probably “ liked” your post bc some of us on principle, support contributions even if we disagree. Tho in this case there was no contribution- just a bigoted attack & not even veiled. Shameful.
Oh I didn’t realize the post had been removed which makes perfect sense to me. Dejected this too as it will call up that post for no good reason. I’m sorry she was so distorted. Probably very troubled. I have never seen anything like that exactly. literally nothing said was applicable in any rational way.
I’m very happy for you this sounds really beautiful. And hmm to me it’s hard to put into words. There’s no specific thing or feeling it’s more just like becoming one with someone good or bad. It creeps up turn suddenly bam it’s undeniable. It doesn’t always feel good lol I find it quite stressful at times but there’s just a constant inextricable connection.
In love is diff than to love of course. U can love people I’m not in love with snd Vice versa. I think of falling in love as happening to me. To love is a decision and an obligation once declared..
Of course! I hope you can easily dismiss her ramblings. And as I said if you want to delete this it’s ok I feel bad for calling attention. I write it before I realized her post was gone.
I've only been really in love once, and I've told u about Mitchell and my relationship. For me I think I knew I was in love with him when all I wanted was to see him, and see him happy. He's someone I wanna protect so much, and I'd do anything to be with him. I've been beaten by my dad for it and called racist names but I still stay because Mitchell makes me feel happy. He's the reason I've been going to therapy and getting better and help for my mental illnesses and past abuse. Everyday I try to be a better person for him. And ik my explanation sucks but I'm not very good with explaining things lol
Your actions and words are a reflection of what's in your heart. If you do genuinely love someone then the way you treat them, talk to them/tell them reflect the love you have for them in your heart, the feelings coming from it and all 3-4 are synchronized.
Which is the case for me. But you know you love them because you just having that feeling of knowing that undeniable feeling that tells you, you love them you moron.
But it's more then that you want to protect them, care for them, nurture them. You want to make them happy and you want them to be happy, you want what's best for them.
They make you want to be a better person ( or at least improve ) it's painful when they are gone and blissful when they're around. And there's that pull almost like a magnet being drawn to another magnet that sense of being drawn towards pulled towards them.
Always wanting to talk to them, be around them. But also important is that they make you happy.
I remember i was in love with these three guys (not at the same time) because i was willing to die for them. One told me, i was nuts and he wouldn't do the same for anybody no matter who. The other told me that he's glad i’d be the one to die because he could do more for his world anyways. And the third didn't know i’d die for him lmao but i knew it in my heart. Either way, i regret having loved all 3 🤣
When I was 11 years old my grandpa sat me down on the back porch in Tennessee and said, "Son, you can't help who you love you just do." He was married to my then grandma for 35 years at that point.
When you're young, with precious little life experience falling in love is a very strong emotional experience. Arbitrary decision making based on the emotional tsunami that characterises this experience, usually has negative reprecussions throughout the relationship. Unfortunately, manytimes it can also become the catalyst which irrevicably poisons the relationship. If I could imprint the importance of having a pragmatic perspective, then if used correctly it could alleviate a great deal of heartache.
Usually when i’m fully compromising or willing to sacrifice things i really want. As well as when i can't go a day without talking to them or when i take their side over my family. And of course when i see myself marrying them, building a fam together and dont want to live a life without eachother. But ig all of this can be confused with being naive and stupidly infatuated as well. So who knows
I can tell someone i love them but not be in love with them so I don't know if saying it really counts. But its nice to know. Also, ig i’ll know im truly in love when no one else crosses my mind. The three times i thought i was in love, i pretty much got frustrated that they didn't change for the better for long and then i started craving a better option. So the fact i was ready to leave because they wouldn't get their shit together within a certain time limit shows that i prob wasn't in love like i thought
That is really deep @DizzyDesii I have always just realized that I was in love when I actually cared about him more than I cared about myself... Yet, you to took it to levels I never considered... That is a very "feel good" way to see it... I really like your perspective on this!
@BethanYou thank you! and i agree with you as well that i used to look at it like “who would i die for?” But after what i wrote in phoenix98s opinion about the response i got from two exes i wouldve died for, i’d no longer die for anyone other than my future kids
Man look here to hell with what any dudes Say negatively about you displaying your love for you girl, hell i do it and care less what Sabine thinks, just because you a man what you can't show how you feel, that's why those dudes are at home alone with a case of beer and stack of porn dvds, it puts s smile on my face to hear you say what you did don't ever compromise that it feel any other way but proud and your girl is also and yes brother that's love your feeling showing experiencing and it only gets better with time as you both grow understand each other better it enhances you, your lives, so don't ever worry over what anyone thinks you doing just fine isn't love wonderful when somebody loves you back, wasn't that a Song,
Ur sooo sweet. Ur feelings for her are pure and I wish u the best. It's hard to know exactly if ur in love, but u should know it. Like ur heart pounds, and u can stare at her photos forever, u think about her before u sleep and when u wake up. Those are some examples, but u should know it
Glad for you both. Sounds like you've done well laying a good foundation and vision. Curious if you had much exposure to chinese people as a child and/or were drawn to anyone chinese in early life... like movie star, etc?
I think when get to see them as a human being, differences, and accept and protect, then that's love. The challenge there is putting oneself aside for the other. Being open to change and communicate patiently, and with consideration, that's love. Being willing to put my wants aside for her, that's love. And looking forward to being with, talking, life with a joyful heart, that's love.
I used to think it is a feeling, maybe that is part of it, the rest is choice.
For you... when you sit down for "dim sum" and dine with a smile of Buddah, then that's true love. <sarc>
I have been open and honest of living in a rural area. That I have been in 3 LDR, giving each guy a chance and compromising in the relationship. What has hurt me from the previous LDR’s is that I was judged and criticized. They also rushed things waaay too quickly and didn’t want to get a chance to know me. They had this fantasy of us moving in together and having children. I would tell them to slow down for a bit and get to know me. But they would roll their eyes and get annoyed with me. Then over time I could sense them getting bored with me and I have caught them flirting with other women.
I thought I was in love with somebody. We even talked about getting married. I was pretty settled about it but things sort of fell apart. I met my future wife a few months later and it was love an a whole different level. I just knew from date #3 that we were going to end up together. It was exciting and comfortable at the same time. We lived 300 miles apart and could not get enough of each other. Even today 27 years later I still look forward to coming home to her.
can't stop thinking about them, you put them 1st before anyone else, you text them 1st thing when you wake up. You make them a PRIORITY not an OPTION. You spend every waking moment thinking about them, thinking about marriage (if you want it) or just being with them.
I'm reminded because I do things now that I wasn't confident enough to try before, like showing my feelings. I was always a very guarded person so I surprise myself speaking my mind without expecting anything in return or afraid of the fall.
I don't fall in love, but people I"ve known who fell in love said it usually feels like you're sick or something, or you feel a lot of pressure and nerves regarding it, lol I'm glad I'm missing out on that
@nataliekeller95 @Jamie05rhs Perhaps that is the experience you or your friends have had so far, but I can assure you that being in love is a wonderfully grand feeling!
My mum knows that feeling. Although she has a new partner now, she still thinks about dad every day. Been nearly 16 years now. I don't think it will ever fade.
You are in love man. Also when i think of love and wNt to know if i love someone or not i just think if i can live without their presence from tomorrow? If that scenario looks too scary i know i love them. Also do i look forward for their calls, messages, chats, or anything that comes from their side. I eagerly wait and reply in seconds
You two are doing most of it and I am happy that you are willing to put more effort into it. You can learn about 5 love languages if you already don't know. Use those languages. Both of you seems to be using that already. You will get to label love languages if you haven't already done so and pay little more attention to it. Spend more and more time with each other. Don't be long distance for long. You feel exactly what you are feeling when you are in love.
Love is a two-way street. My guy treats me like a queen. I try and treat him like a king. We do things for each other. We have got to know the little things that we like. The little things that say silently, "I do this because I love you".
Love for me is just being comfortable in presence of that person.
Even if not talking but just being there seeing them smile.
And looking at there face in total awe and being mesmerised like every time you see them there is a calmness you get or feel when you look at them just doing normal things.
You know it when you get the comfortable and cozy feeling. Doing any type of activity together makes you feel happy in that moment and the days after you don't see each other.
People seem to separate infatuation/lust from love a lot but I don't see the difference, because the women I lusted after were also ones I wanted to protect and care about. So I don't see the difference and don't think it matters.
This is very crude but one of the signs that they seemed special is that I wanted them even more after the first time sleeping with them. I wanted them, even more, the second time, and the third time, and so forth, up to a point. Whereas with some other women, it's like I sleep with them the first time and my thought (although I did not ditch them like some ass) was like, "Been there, done that."
I know it when I stop worrying about the future. I had it a few times and it was a great relief that I know this person is gonna be a part of my life and every hardship I'll face will be worth it when I get to see her every day.
When you finally realize that it's not if you can live with that person, but if you can't live without them. Until that happens you are just passing time.
Can I just say that’s so cute!!’ You and your girlfriend are the cutest and carry on treating her like the queen she is and she will keep treating you like the king you are! I LOVE love 🙂🙂🙂 stay happy forever x
You know she really got you when you're willing to go through the biggest lengths for her compared to anyone else but somehow you rationalize it all perfectly in your head
1st thing you think about when you wake up, last thing you think about before going to bed, you can't wait to talk to them, and you'll do anything just to see them smile. cute story by the way!
I don't even know anymore. Every time I think I'm in love (or even potentially getting close to love), it always ends in a dead end and a feeling of letdown and wasted time. People in my life try to explain it by saying that I'm chasing after the wrong women, and I know they mean well and they're trying to be helpful; but, to be honest, it usually just feels like gaslighting.
according to the bible, 'For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.' you can tell if he or she spend their money for their partners if he or she loves someone.
I can tell that you’re really in love you’ll probably be married before you hit the age of 68 and I want you to invite all of gag to your wedding through a MyTake and break everything down for us. Make sure your mother is able to attend in person.
Just think of all the Chinese dinners you’re going to eat. Honey garlic chicken yummy, orange chicken awesome, Kung pao chicken, chicken lo mein, beef lo mein. Pork fried rice special fried rice Don’t forget the green scallions and crunchy noodles it’s a must along with duck sauce and soy sauce. Etc Etc
I’ve lived all over Asia. Asian men have small Dicks is not a stereotype. So they demand their girls to look like Children. So unless those girls had Weston male influence. Asian girls especially north Asian girls will look skinny and eat like rabbits and dress like men. When I lived in Asia I didn’t even notice girls walking past me.
Oh the province in China lol. Of course not! Women primal age is between 16 to 28/29. Their p**sies expires after age 30. After 30, they hit kryptonite.
Good question. I've always dismissed the feeling of being in love as a biological response to my desire to procreate and have instead always focused on cosmic consciousness. But I suppose there are many paths to contentment.
Its nice to hear someone else say “everything i do, he's considered.” One of my exes hated that i asked for his input before making big decisions. He kept saying it made me seem to dependent. Pissed me off because the bastard was lucky i was nice enough to ask for his opinion. Its not like i was gonna do as he said anyways. Welp that goes to show i was not in love with him like i thought
If she makes you feel that way, and you don't believe she's working you, don't ever let her go. You won't get that from an American girl these days. I'm always suspicious of hypergamy.
I feel the need to protect and make things right for the other the other person (a woman). When I feel like I need to do it to be happy, then I know I'm in love.
I guess when I realize I never want to leave that person alone and can see myself with them for the rest of my life. This type of realization usually happens when I'm laying in bed late at night and can't stop thinking about the person.
Ur heart beats in a different way.. there is a constant feeling of happiness for no reason.. u just keep thinking about the person all the time.. and smile alone many times
I assume that you are unfamiliar with the Socratic method of teaching. I already have an answer to this question, as well as my other current question about virginity. I quite often post questions for the sole purpose of prompting discussion with younger users, and many of them are eager to have such discussions. Occasionally, someone comments that the discussion has given them a different perspective, and THAT is the point of posting such questions.
If you don't wish to be exposed to that, then your wish will be respected.
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