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Me and my friend have had similar age preferences for years and that was to stick to men our age. I’m 40, she’s 39. People have been telling us for years to date men who were several years older than us. This includes our parents, aunts and uncles, each other’s parents, family friends, church members, etc. she’s even had friends our own age tell her that she should be dating older men (or so she says). I decided to give it try last spring after my same age boyfriend who had two kids and massive debt dumped me for being “too good” for him (I supported his broke ass financially), and I can say my luck changed drastically. Current guy is 55 years old and we both agreed we’re stuck with each other. At the end of summer, I had a party and invited my friend (recently heartbroken about being dumped but a guy our age for a younger girl), my boyfriend, all of his friends and all of their wives LOVED her. Every one of them and myself all thought she was perfect for a friend of theirs who was looking for someone just like her, so we agree to try to fix them up (the friend had met her once before at a charity event we were working). BF’s friend is also 55, retired, financially secure, gets a pension every month, good Christian, still works part time, has his house paid off and is looking for a woman to spoil rotten. So we pitch the idea to his friend, and the friend’s response is “that girl is a catch! She’s a nice girl with a good heart, she’s doing something with her life and she’s ABSOLUTELY BEAUTIFUL! Yes, please fix me up with her.” I mention it to her and try to convince her to no avail, she won’t date him just because he’s 16 years older than her. I told her she needs to be dating men in their 50’s and early 60’s, not our age. She said NEVER. I told her then that she’s a stubborn asshole who’s throwing away a good guy. Opinions? I want to show this to her to make her realize this is true. Women have been marrying older men for years so it clearly works.

I’m doing this thing now where if I have question I just ask it. It can create issues but not as much in my opinion as not asking. In the past I never asked questions bc I felt like people make assumptions on your questions which MAY be true but not asking stuff doesn’t help me at all sooooo even if I avoid giving the wrong impression by not asking - which is debatable - i still walk away with no info. So now I just ask 🤷🏻‍♀️

Anyhow, in this situation I asked why, not bc I thought he shouldn’t ask, I just wasn’t sure why he was asking it I don't know I didn’t really think about why I asked why I just asked.

And I don't know why he didn’t know 😂 or maybe he said it without thinking but he could’ve just said that. I knows I love the MONH so it wasn’t a weird thing for him to ask.

Is it strange to not know you’re asking someone if they want to do something?

we get along well he’s nice I have no problem with him. We’ve known each other for almost a year so I was caught off guard for sure…

{🥳 🙌 finally my post that was put directly into guys behavior, actually BELONGS in guys behavior.. first time this year. 🙃}