What is your opinion of my very controversial views?

[Factualobserver]

More of an open discussion but I've always struggled to find someone to meet my standards. The views I possess are not abnormal, most men just won't say it to keep their reputation.

. I need someone who has no more than 2 previous partners. The thought of my partner sleeping around on 1 night stands is a massive turn off.. it replaces the love element in our sex, and I view as just a means to have sex. It interrupts every nice thought I have, and replaces it with ill thoughts.. it literally disgusts me.

. I need someone who doesn't post bikini and ass shots all over social media... I have had this in the past and made to look like a bad person for my views.. often with women I find they tend to argue against a logical point because they "feel" a particular way. I'm trying to respect you, but how can I do that if you don't respect my opinion or respect my knowledge of how it is perceived by at least 50 percent of the population. Men want to see your bodies, and you're giving that to them.

. I need someone with grace and class. I can't respect a girl falling around in the street with her breasts half out, swearing in the street with a dress or skirt that barely covers her bum. I need someone that wears shorts under skirts and is aware of their bodies. Modesty is very attractive.

These are things I need for me to even begin having a healthy relationship with someone. I can't respect you otherwise.. women say a lot that sex doesn't matter, and it's all just fun. But everything matters. Everything we do matters.. I can't have meaningful sex with someone if they've given it to every other person that wants it. Or shown their body to every guy more than happy to see it.

Controversial opinion I know. Would be interesting to hear people's thoughts.

[RebelinSteel]

You sound like someone destined to remain single.

[Factualobserver]

Currently in a relationship but I agree with you.. my views are not European. definitely Asian and African views. Maybe the western woman is not for me..

Any opinions on the actual topic though or?
Slutty clothing? Multiple sexual partners? Social media becoming a pool of half naked women?

[RebelinSteel]

No more than 2 partners does not equate with slutty, that means to you anyone with 3 or more is a slut, are you marrying your current partner? The same rule applies to guys as well. Not controversial just a bit 6th century. Also I guess you do not sleep around etc, as that would be hypocritical.

[Factualobserver]

I dont think someone that has more than 3 partners is slutty.. maybe over 5, then i might call a spade a spade, but obviously age comes into play..

its physiological with me, it makes me feel gross and not want to be intimate with that person. I have a body count of close to 40, and that's exactly the reason I don't like it.. not hypocritical, I don't sleep around anymore. I slept around, realised these girls are not the kind I want to be around and I want someone a bit better than who I am. Someone I can respect and who respects themselves.. someone with good values. I've been a massive gross slut. I don't want the same of my partner. It's disgusting to me.

I'm my partners 3rd, but she posted a load of bikini pics and stuff online and left it there months after I had explained my reasonings for not wanting them on there.. she also acted differently just before we got together. I didn't think she was like that so I don't know if I'm going to marry this one. I'm in a bit of a weird place with it all hence the post I made. I can't respect someone that posts half naked pictures of themselves for all to see. I'm from the uk but I don't enjoy this western lifestyle and culture. It's no surprise relationship success is massively on the decline.

[smashleyy]

As long as you yourself fit the criteria you expect potential partners to live up to I see no issue.

[slatyb]

No more than two previous partners? And you are 30? That's absurdly unrealistic.

[Factualobserver]

Travel more

[Anonymous]

No offense but you sound about as much fun as a box of rocks.

[Factualobserver]

That's ok I'm not offended.. I travel a lot, go to festivals, scuba dive, rock climb.. own a motor home, surf. Play guitar and make music in my spare time. I have a great job working with animals.. Id say im very far from boring but thank you for your concern.
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I'm simply asking for opinions on sleeping around, dressing like a prostitute, and posting half naked photos on the Internet for everyone to see.

I could have guessed my first comment from a woman would be insulting, vacant, and have nothing to do with what is actually asked.

[Walksbehindtherows]

Are you a Yankee?

[Factualobserver]

No I'm British/irish