What does this even mean? What’s going on here?

[laurlaur101]

This guy talked to me for three months. We didn’t even meet either but anyways we talked at least trying to take things slow I guess I don't know he was kinda sweet talker in my opinion but anyways left me on read for two weeks I left things go I didn’t want to chase then I noticed he did remove me. It’s funny because I was thinking should I just remove him if he doesn’t want to talk to me anymore. But he actually did do it he actually did keep me on and I guess he removed me but he was probably a jerk anyways the real true colors probably came out. He seemed ok tho seemed nice but who knows maybe there was red flags but I was unsure how I felt to be honest I was being cautious honestly I’ve been through too much disappointments so this didn’t surprise me. In my opinion if a guy actually likes a girl I don’t think he would go that route ghost then give it some time then remove there’s something to that. So I give up this happens to me so I decided not to talk to any guys anymore why should I where this is the outcome everytime? I don't know what’s going wrong. He said things like I like everything about you and all that stuff but even then I don’t believe it because it’s bullshit that they tell every girl prob not true can’t trust it. Why do guys do this I don’t get it. I’m not a bitch to people I know I’m not they don’t make any efforts to get to know me they don’t even meet up with me they never ask me out I get nobody. Always these types. I don’t get it. What is the advice? Am I making a good decision on taking a step back and fully focusing on myself or am I doing more harm then good I’m not ready to go out with anyone or have a relationship I honestly don’t like anybody now I’m just done. I mess stuff up I feel like so it’s best I don’t talk

[PeterLegg91]

Same for me when I was on dating apps, girls would talk for a few days to a week or 2 then they just stop :( or worse block me for no reason when I was being polite :( it's not you ITS THEM Laur they're the problem NOT YOU

[laurlaur101]

I’m glad I’m not alone in this. I don’t know what’s going wrong maybe you’re right maybe it is them. What’s the point were they playing a game? I just want to know the truth what’s really going on but I won’t ever get those answers. I can’t think of anything I could have done if I was the fault I would want to fix it but I don't know what’s going on

[PeterLegg91]

You can dm me whenever you want :) it Is a game to some of them 😠

[laurlaur101]

Ok I followed you so we can talk

[Nikki1989]

If someone is not willing to put in the effort to get to know you and maintain a relationship, then they are not worth your time.

[laurlaur101]

Yes you’re right. I guess it’s proof they didn’t like me as it seemed which is ok because good news is there’s tons of people someone is bound to like I just hope the feelings is mutual on both sides someday

[AI Opinion]

Hey there, love seeker! 🌟 It sounds like you've encountered a classic ghosting situation, which totally sucks. Trust me, it's not you—sometimes people show those tricky red flags after sweet-talking! Taking a step back and giving yourself some TLC is a wise move. Focusing on what you truly want helps attract the right connections. Don't lose faith in love; the right person will sweep you off your feet when the time is right. Keep shining and stay fabulous! 💖✨

[ChicoFromThe305]

Is this the same dude?

[laurlaur101]

Yes it is. Didn’t expect him to just remove me he ghosted for 2 weeks then I noticed oop the other day he removed me off but I kinda saw that coming anyways maybe there were red flags but I was hesitant I wouldn’t be hesitant for no reason something was off about him so maybe my gut was trying to tell me and I was kinda right

[ChicoFromThe305]

Ey but I bet now you feel like you made the right choice considering now you are 100% certain on how it is and you don't have to be stuck in trying to figure it out, now you can keep things moving and if he ever tries to crawl back, you can send him on his way, couldve been worse, he could meant something

[laurlaur101]

Yeah and I was even wondering if I should’ve took the step of removing because I didn’t like the outcome but good thing I didn’t jump the conclusion because he did it but it’s weird how I had those thoughts too but I held off maybe I should have. But when he removed me it told me that hey maybe didn’t even like me but it’s ok there’s tons of people I’ll get my match wasn’t meant to happen

[ChicoFromThe305]

You feel that way cause you found out how it's going to end but if you would've then you wouldve always been stuck wondering what would've happened if you didn't, this situation is basically a lose lose but you made the best decision with the cards you were dealt because you got the closure and now you know he's a dick and you can move on, just block him back and leave him there, if he ever changes his mind it will be his issue.

[laurlaur101]

Just don’t want to feel stupid or you played with but I don’t think so because I just observed everything. This shit always happened so might as well quit with guys focus on myself now. I guess not meant to be with anybody period.

[ChicoFromThe305]

I wouldn't take it as far as that, sometimes it's just the people around you and it's as simple as that, take the time to focus on yourself but I think assuming you weren't meant to be with anyone is too much, it's an over thinkers statement lol

[laurlaur101]

Yeah but I feel like something should’ve happened at least by now it almost did one someone else then that fell through or maybe it wasn’t going to either and I misinterpreted the whole thing who knows I don't know. I think should just pull the energy back to me focus on myself but I feel likes my fault maybe I’m not doing enough with effort I don't know but I tried but things still don’t work I don't know maybe I’m just bad at trying to establish a connection & some kind of relationship I don't know I don’t think I’m overthinking this it’s just a true statement

[ChicoFromThe305]

Weither it was your fault you can always learn from these situations, from what I hearing here he chose to ignore you after some time and avoid communicating, if you tried to keep conversations going for a while when he was dry then you did enough effort and the effort was lacking from his part, focus on yourself for now and then when you get another opportunity, don't be scared to cease it.

[laurlaur101]

Here’s the other thing maybe he was feeling the same way too I was hesitant and unsure usually that means it’s a no. It should be people like someone or they don’t and no in between I was on the fence about it and he probably was too. So maybe we were both feeling the same was subconsciously but didn’t say it. I didn’t know. I don't know I felt like he was ok but something missing from him I don't know. Im not worried wasn’t meant to be I was unsure anyways I feel like if I like someone I would not hesitate I’d wanna try for them I don't know. Maybe I thought I liked this person but didn’t maybe I enjoyed the conversation to be friends and the attention but didn’t like them that way I don't know I’m trying to figure it out how I really felt. Don’t meant to go on about this but yeah if i feel if a guy did like me no matter what they would still wanna keep trying and keep going to get me but he gave up so that meant he wasn’t it then it has to be through thick and thin he wasn’t there for me at all i still have things going on I was opened about I didn’t tell him full details but I did say I was going through things he was understanding about it but then I don't know I just hope I didn’t push him away but I couldn’t communicate as much as maybe he wanted I don't know

[ChicoFromThe305]

Well ignoring you or avoiding you isn't very well of a good communication strategy either, the possibilities on why he did this are endless but the results he did that didn't change, it's best to just not beat yourself up about it and just keep things going.

[laurlaur101]

Exactly just don’t want this to keep happening with other people I meet this tends to happen with everyone so I just decided not to talk to anyone for awhile focus on myself get my own life established first I’m not there yet I think I’m doing the right things I don’t want to rush anything and I’m not

[ChicoFromThe305]

Well that's how it should be done, not rushed, they might just be rushed and it's just incompatibility with them, you just focus on yourself and when the time comes, you just cease it.

[laurlaur101]

I honestly feel like I’m not compatible with anyone this same shit happned like more than a 100 times I willing to bet it’s been more than that so there’s a problem I have to figure it out

[ChicoFromThe305]

I like that way of thinking, whatever it may be, figure it out, change and retry, maybe I can help you, have you noticed this pattern after saying anything specific?

[laurlaur101]

I’ll just start fresh and put people I met and didn’t work behind me I just get worried what if I keep trying and trying then nothing happens ever i don’t want to be alone

[ChicoFromThe305]

But if you give up you will surely be alone 🙃

So if you have any chances of finding someone, you shouldn't give up, at some point you'll run into the right person, there's someone for everyone.

[laurlaur101]

Nothing happens but things happy for everyone else so I don’t get it what’s so bad about me why don’t people like me I don’t think there’s anything bad about me at all. I don't know it could be I’m not meant for people I don't know i don’t want to be alone but no one approaches me or wants to talk to me all I feel like guys just sweet talk me on purpose build me up like I’m so great then let me down like what choice do I have? I’m taking a break from it all for now it’s not really giving up just a break.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Have any of these guys by any chance tried to get sexual with you, and if so, did you reject them? Cause if so it's possible that's what they were after all along so they gave up after some time.

[laurlaur101]

Most don’t really talk about that with me and then some do. Like the one that stopped talking to me he would say I wish you were with me all that stuff mentioning cuddling but still I don't know it was odd because we would have a normal conversations too but apart of me thinks he just liked me physically I confronted him I said you just like me sexually or whatever I said he tried to say no I like everything about you physically and personality so I don't know something telling me only sexually he liked me tho maybe I was right he was wrong I don't know

[ChicoFromThe305]

Sounds sketch to me, if he liked your personality then where is he now, cause I doubt your personality changed, did he change after you confronted him about this cause it's possible that might be why he left, you caught him red handed on his intentions so he left, either ways you aren't missing anything by not having goofies in your life.

[laurlaur101]

Exactly right that’s where the bullshitting comes in that’s what I felt he was doing to me but I didn’t buy into it so maybe he was shocked that I got aggressive on that. I’m speaking up if I feel someone is out of line like that just didn’t see legit like he was over doing it in his approaches I don't know so weird. Who knows what he was truly up to and telling me he wished to be with me. Guess what other people prob want to do be with me too maybe I don't know it maybe more people like me then I think but maybe don’t voice it I don't know anyways I confronted him because that’s how I felt I though he only liked me for physical reasons but he tried to say for both but I don't know about that because we should have at least went out but he didn’t ask no guys ever ask me. They can talk and talk for months but do nothing about it so there’s why I get pissed off I won’t be the one to initiate in my opinion guys should be pursing that’s what they’re wired to do I’ll reciprocate it if I like them back obviously but tbh with you I was unsure about him anyways and I still don’t feel ready even tho I want someone someday but the time isn’t now. Oh well because I don’t care anymore because on the bright side there’s tons of people is this world and I am bound to have someone like me someday even tho doesn’t feel like it but maybe someone will and it will be mutual on my side as well. I think I did a good thing I caught his intentions he slipped up

[ChicoFromThe305]

Yep that's fosho, that's the attitude you gotta have, you've got boundaries and that's a good thing, now you don't have to be stuck wondering and you can actually keep moving forward with no uncertainty holding you back, when that time is will most likely be unpredictable but you'll know when it happens, til then, you do you.

[laurlaur101]

Yep I won’t even settle until they prove they’re worth it that don’t do anything to make me feel uncomfortable tbh the guy probably wasn’t it attraction maybe was the driven factor & something wore off

[ChicoFromThe305]

Yep sounds like you've learned something indeed

[laurlaur101]

I still wonder sometime if I’m ever meant for anyone things always seem to fizzle out I’m worried if it’s my fault but I wanna fix this issue if it’s me

[ChicoFromThe305]

If you are actually 21 then you are too young to be thinking like that, there's still a whole life ahead of you, you gotta cheer up and think more positive.

[laurlaur101]

Yeah I’m 21 been it for 5 months now so kinds still freshly 21 lol but anyways I know I shouldn’t worry about it but I do because makes me feel like something wrong with me or something

[Danny_dan92]

And you’re clinging onto this because?

[laurlaur101]

I want to know in general why guys do this to girls doesn’t make sense it’s not fair honestly

[Danny_dan92]

You seem to not realize the world we live in these days.

Everyone has way more options these days due to technology than they otherwise wouldn’t had we not have smartphones and dating apps or even social media apps.

That being said what probably happened was he crossed paths with a girl he deemed more desirable so he immediately dropped you. Girls do this same bs too, so don’t feel like you’re the only one experiencing this problem.

This is exactly why I completely opted out of dating and just do hook ups now. Because eventually someone more desirable will come along and that person will vanish in an instant

[laurlaur101]

I do just blows my mind can’t believe this is the world we live in but it is what it is. I’m not really butthurt just wanted some answers but yes could have been what happned Ed and who knows he could’ve better yet had a girlfriend already and snuck around and talked with other girls maybe the girlfriend caught him who knows I saw he had “in a relationship” on his social media he didn’t tell me but I came across it ahead of time he didn’t know so that kinda turned me off because makes me wonder maybe he did have someone but idc maybe I didn’t really liked me anyways maybe I miss someone to talk to is all. I never met this guy he was saying sweet stuff but I didn’t buy any of it I don’t believe guys words ever I just kinda went with it but I didn’t believe it. I’m always skeptical until I know for sure I’ll date them I don’t wanna rush into things, but in my case I know almost always there is always a girl lined up or already on the picture I want someone all for me but maybe that won’t happen I don't know

[Danny_dan92]

He was saying sweet stuff because that’s what works.

If he didn’t say sweet things you’d probably shut him out. Which at the time is not what he wanted. Obviously end of the day he didn’t care.

But yeah. I don’t care for dating and relationship anymore because of the current world

[laurlaur101]

How could anyone leave with theirselves if it’s just a bunch of lies? That’s what it tells me he didn’t mean any of it but he wasn’t all that great anyways to act like that his looks weren’t the best either so it was bad both ways