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I've been talking to this guy and we're not a couple yet but were just getting to know each other. We both seem to really like each other and we talk about the future a lot together and how excited we both are. He would consider this a romantic relationship.

Anyways he's been telling me things like:
Lets not jinx things and be realistic (im the same way)
Don't set your expectations high on me , you may not like how i am in person
Im sure I'd really like you in person
Compliments me a lot
Asks me questions
Tells me he really likes me

He seems to be insecure with himself and worries i might not like him in person. He also doesn't want to get his hopes up with us just incase it doesn't work out. One minute he comes off as cocky the next he comes off as shy. He isn't use to so much praise i give him. We both seem to be really realistic about things. he's just not use to some of the things. He hasn't had a real relationship in person before. he's had online relationships

So I’m in my mid twenties and never had an actual relationship. I’m told I’m cute so I don’t know why I never get attention from guys. If I do get attention, it’s typically from the guys that I don’t find attractive. And when they are attractive, they end up ghosting/have shitty personalities/ only want sex. I hear of men going for women and these women have them wrapped around their finger. The one guy I dated was not romantic, he knew he was the first guy I dated and only took me to dinner for Valentine’s Day. Considering the shit that some women put men through, I want to see what I can do to have these men wrapped around my finger and control them to see how much influence I have on them. In other words, the more they are able to do for me, that shows how much they truly care for me. I need someone that would bend backwards for me.