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You know what you are not into and don’t want to do. You know what and when you want certain things in your future. However someone seemingly great comes along, you fall in love, and although everyone else failed to change you, this one person has talked you into disregarding your dealbreakers and so much more. Its almost scary to no longer be set in your ways. Deep down you don’t want to change but you also don’t want to lose everything you two have become

28F & I haven’t ever been in a LTR, I saw someone for a few months when I was 23 & that felt like settling. The bar is set even higher now & I’d rather be single than in a mediocre relationship. Ever since I was a teen I always felt like a lot of the girls were boy crazy & were so hyped about sex I thought they were overreacting. I thought I was a late bloomer & figured that feeling would happen to me eventually but it still hasn’t. I never really felt the pressure to date until I was close to graduating HS/ starting college & even then I had this feeling that felt kind of ick. I still do & the fact that I don’t care about sex at all to this day makes me think about asexuality. But I battle between wondering if I want companionship, hence I use the dating apps casually. Overthinking it & deep down does it just sound like I haven’t found the right person?

28F & I haven’t ever been in a LTR, I saw someone for a few months when I was 23 & that felt like settling. The bar is set even higher now & I’d rather be single than in a mediocre relationship. Ever since I was a teen I always felt like a lot of the girls were boy crazy & were so hyped about sex I thought they were overreacting. I thought I was a late bloomer & figured that feeling would happen to me eventually but it still hasn’t. I never really felt the pressure to date until I was close to graduating HS/ starting college & even then I had this feeling that felt kind of ick. I still do & the fact that I don’t care about sex at all to this day makes me think about asexuality. But I battle between not being sure if I actually want companionship, hence I use the dating apps very casually. Overthinking it & deep down does it just sound like I haven’t found the right person?

When I’m on YouTube especially, I run into videos talking about how people should not be single because they will be lonely, depressed and that they will regret being life long singles and that the purpose of humanity is to marry and have kids.

They say women who are single are being lied to by feminism which is toxic because it tells women to focus on working hard and not on settling down and having a family.

Personally I feel like we all have a choice and also we all have different fates some of us were born to be single for the long haul, others were born to marry or having kids etc. Also, science has literally debunked the myth that single people are depressed and unhappy by proving that it is very possible to be happy and healthy as a single person.

Anyone can be happy it has nothing to do with your relationship status or if whether you have kids or not. Also if you listen to other people instead of doing what you want you’ll definitely be unhappy.

You will be happy though if you go after what you want in life and accept your fate with open arms and see the bright side of it be it single-hood, marriage or having kids. Because everything has a bright side in life, even though there are cons in every situation there are also pros in every situation.