Stairway To Sexism

[anon1903]

STAIRWAY TO SEXISM pt. 3

Why sleeping around with multiple men is meant to insult women while the same thing other way around is a huge compliment to men?

Screw your evolutionary perspective. It's so anti-woman, like, Oh my God.

Everyone wants to sleep with everyone. Period.

Women enjoy it as much as men do. Period.

Men want babies as much as the next woman. Period!

The so called gender differences would not exist if it weren't for social programming. Think about it, if a woman goes to her friends and informs them about her F buddy — there's always at least one annoying female in the group that wants to know why the hell is she having fun, instead of torturing herself by dating that awful, good in bed guy. Why does she get to have the fun? That's not fair? She's a woman, she should always be thinking of settling the hell down, how dare she enjoy pleasures of life without responsibility?

And if it's a guy... Well, men will be men.

Also, I love how Indian guys can stay unmarried as long as they want. But women here are treated as some kind of safe, in a bank, whose security has been malfunctioning. You see where I'm coming from?

Speaking of India, women after 18 are treated like Barbie. Oh, not the Margot Robbie reference, she's too cool for us, no — actual dolls.

Arranged marriage requirements for a men :
- should have stable income.
- comes from good family.
- tall

Arranged marriage requirements for women :
- must be fair
- and young
- and fertile
- should look good
- well behaved
- submissive
- should know all housework
- education degrees are a bonus, they'd only let you go if their son is in the hospital, or his death bed, or an alcoholic. Oh, or your children want to luxuriously.
- must respect everyone
- must have traditional mindset
- slim built, no fa_tties
- must be super woman
- must be willing to have children before second anniversary
- should not wear jeans in front of other males in the house, because that's "inappropriate".
- no divorced women please
- no single moms either
- no handic_apped women either, but they should get married nevertheless. Just not to my son.

That's sexist.

In case you couldn't guess.

What? Your daughter is in the college and you aren't looking around for son in laws? Why? I mean, just why? The degree is only useful if she has a horde of kids as a widow. What? Widow remarriage? That never works out.

I mean, it does in case of men. They always need a wife. Duh.

Speaking of widows, they're supposed to work extra hard to assure their eldest son becomes Hercules. And, no they can't have male friends. Or male relatives helping them out. If they go to job, they must look depressed. Period. An Indian woman will never have power without her husband. An alcoholic hubby is better than none. Go figure.

by anon1903

[more_than_a_guy]

Sexism in relationships can go both ways, even more in traditional marriage like you said. An example for the opposite side, to favor women, is the fact that the man is the one that protects, even in life sacrifice. I think it's right for the man to protect though, but still an example.

Some of the list you mentioned for traditional marriage criteria is valid for both sides, like being with traditional mindset and respect everyone.

But I agree some of the list is sexist towards women, but then again, it's a an ancient tradition who wasn't updated yet. If your family wants to marry you in a traditional way, it's their problem, not yours. Even if you need to cut losses, it's your life and you should have free will what to do with it. But try to speak to your parents first, maybe they will understand.

You said when men sleep around is considered cool, but slutty for women to do so. I see why it seems like it, because for a man to sleep around, he needs a lot of skills, art of seduction, funny, read signs, charming, interesting and hot enough for the woman to pick him over other guys. But women don't need to do much to sleep around, many mem will still come to them even with minimal effort.

[anon1903]

Sexism is hard on men too. For instance, podcasts for men usually say that they shouldn't cry in front of their girlfriend, because they gotta be the emotional pillar of support. Like all times.

[more_than_a_guy]

I totally agree, and thanks for the MHO

[molonski2]

Well said , very true , certainly works both ways.

[Sexiestjohnson]

I don't know what to say about this piece other than thank you for writing it. Stuffs like this need to change even if it a little inch at a time.


Women have the right to live freely and not be judged but they should know that if men like us could be one girl men, we will. Even being gender neutral or Bigender does not erase the nature that wants side pleasures.


Not a good thing to copy off we men.

[Inbox]

... Yeah, this is a typical post and it's usually only from a young girl that complains about these things. There's a ton that you have left out. In fairness, I have not read your other two MyTakes, but I'm betting they're not fundamentally any different from this one.

1. Lack of application your ideologies.

- Most men want women who have low body counts for a # of reasons, but one of them is because women who have high #s are typically unstable and end up with a higher chance for cheating and divorce - I can't speak for India on this statistic, but in the USA, it's pretty accurate and from personal experiences I can attest to this. You can go around and say "I won't be that unstable girl," but from how you wrote your post, I'm not betting on it because once again, your lack of application: people change when they go through dramatic experiences - women who sleep around are no different.

- Also, women find men who are successful with women MORE attractive since virtually ALL women want the same thing and it's also not limited to arranged marriages or countries/culture/race/etc: 1) six figure income, 2) attractive, 3) tall, muscular, etc. The average income from a guy in the US is only $34,000.

- Your list of what the requirements for women are not exclusive to India, it's almost the same for the US. If you're going to use to naive term of "sexism" then please do me a favor: 1) Why don't you go up to the guy and ask him out? 2) Deal with shitty rejections, 3) Ask for the number, text game, get him out to a place that is comfortable, 4) Make him feel comfortable and turn him on to invite him back to your place, 5) Make a move to have sex with him, and 6) At the last minute he could change his mind because he's not "feeling" it and as an experienced woman such as yourself, you know that the moment he leaves your door without sex, he will never respond to your texts or contact you again. Also, why don't you lead and take all the blame if things go wrong - I can go on forever. You may also say that "I can do all this" but once again, the data isn't on your side: only 2% of women actually have the courage to approach and ask out a guy and not only that, but give up after a mere 2 - 3 attempts ---- men have to get at least 10 - 20 #s BEFORE there's a chance to get sex --- it's A LOT of work that you women do not have to do. Even the average looking girl has options that she can snap her fingers at any time. Women control sex, whereas men control relationships.

- Furthermore, the average body count for a man here in the US is between 5 - 7, but for women because of all this Feminist bullshit going around. their body count is actually higher to 6 - 9. So women are actually being the hypocrites unsurprisingly!

- Do you know how much work it takes to make a six figure income?

2. Deeper forms of application.

- If you haven't already, if you decide to say "screw sexism" and start sleeping around - it will come back to haunt you. Assuming you want the top 3% of men like almost all women do, you may have fun in your 20s, but those top 3% of men will not accept you into a relationship because experienced men can usually tell between a good girl vs a bad one. You'll get sex from them, but you'll be competing with other women who are actually good girls and you will probably stand no chance. Were all those years of sleeping around worth it? That's for you to decide. Your past as a woman does matter as much as you may hate it.

- Feminism and men gave you the power of choice and choice comes with responsibility - you can't get you want and start complaining the rules are unfair. You want to say screw sexism and be treated exactly like men are... well then... accept the world you CHOSE to be in by saying screw the rules.

- Men and women are not the same, including their wants. I actually got into a small debate with a woman who is an unofficial feminist saying that she should be the top of men's list because she has lots of money, no debt and house/car paid off, her own business, etc, and she is 30! Even at that age she does not know what men want. She chose to have a career and more power to her for being successful, but by the time she reaches her 30s +, her options for dating goes down because men as you said want younger women for a # of reasons. How do you compete with all that? Maybe you could tell me.

3. Global Macro Cycle

- I won't go too much into this, but the bottom line is that as a country grows in power and success, Leftist ideologies (including Feminism) begins to emerge, so your POVs are just part of the cycle simply because your country/India can AFFORD to think more about what you don't have. If you want to read more, I wrote an opinion against a MyTake that wrote something very similar to yours:

Patriarchy is Real and Why you Should Care

4. Advice (If you want it)

- Don't focus on all this Feminist, 3rd gender, Sexist, nonsense --- your time is limited. Get a career going and find a good man, but do not date him for more than 2 years (unless there's some special exception) unless you're confident that you two want to get married.

- You're at the top your peak and in your prime, don't waste it --- be the woman that men want to keep around, not throw away (the same goes for men) and find that top 3% if that is what you want.

[anon1903]

If you have high body count, you're problematic. Period. 😂

[anon1903]

No woman wants a man whore. Surprise surprise!

[anon1903]

USA still is low on sexism

[anon1903]

I've asked out people, yes. In fact, I prefer it. Hate people approaching me.

[anon1903]

I've had submissive boyfriends.

[anon1903]

Average women have options because men are desperate, sweetheart

[anon1903]

I don't want a guy to earn six figures. I want him to earn decently and love me.

[anon1903]

Why would I care about the top three percent? I can always sleep with women, and other men. Who cares about the high on the pyramid peeps? LoL

[RiseofArtemis]

The US is one of the most Sexist countries there can be. Just not as much against women as you may think. Its extremely sexist against men and it devalues women at every aspect of their life. The US insults women who want to be stay at home mothers and have good moral children while praising women who sleep around with hundreds of men and take a lot of medications and stay single their entire life no kids or become single mothers. A nation like that is a powerkeg waiting to explode.

[Lookingforthetruth]

Men don't control relationships.

[Lookingforthetruth]

Also that 30+ options goes down due to the following factors:

1. Female hypergamy - That 30+ year old will be reluctant to date men that make less than her, less expensive car or house than her. She would only be gunning for men who make as much or more than her. This drastically shortens down her dating pool.

https://www.youtube.com/shorts/bX9uEzms0W0

2. The 30+ year old likely would have to had work in a highly, competitive masculine field to make such money and likely lost much of her femininity that men find attractive.

3. Lack of focus on physical beauty and attention. Sure there is a chance that she could have maintain her beauty but given the stats for women in the west and the fact that she would work even more demanding hours than the average woman, I'm wagering that she is likely overweight and/or obese.

[Kaamraj]

This are just your feelings and not backed up by any facts and logic. I think you need to realize that life, reality and biology is sexist. Men and women are not the same, never were and never will be.

1. Men can sleep around with multiple women and are respected for it.

Yes, this has been true across cultures and time, because to get sex is difficult for men. It is so difficult in fact that historically speaking most men have not reproduced. Monogamous marriages are a very recent thing, all throughout the paleolithic age it was about 95% of women and 10-20% of men who have reproduced. Women are far more selective when it comes to sex than men.

2. Everyone wants to sleep with everyone

That is simply not true, most women want to have sex with only the top 5-10% of men. The evidence is there on swiping patterns on dating apps where it was found that while men's swiping patterns were more normally distributed around the average, women's swiping patterns were far more right skewed. Meaning that while men find the average woman attractive sexually, women on the other hand find most men unattractive.

3. Arranged marriages in India

I think I quality to answer this because I am Indian myself.

Requirements for men - have a good job and earn 3X than the woman. Isn't that a huge requirement by itself, if you want a 50-50 relationship then why do I have to earn 300 % more than you. Remember that my money is our money and your money is your money. What more do men ask for in arranged marriages:- youth and beauty which translates into fertility. Yes because the primarily motive of marriages in India and in general in the Eastern (developing) world is to have children. It is not sexist to want a reasonable fit and fertile partner who is not going to be a health liability for you in the next few decades.

[Mewzinc]

Wow I didn't know it was this hard for women but at the same time it doesn't surprise me. I had a indian native tell me that India is a democracy and women are protect and taken care of, was he right about that? Anything outside of America you know it's going to be lacking in the feminism department. I'm so extremely sorry that you poor women have to be held to such impossibly high standards and unrealistic expectations. This is what happens when countries value males over females. You know when the family makes a big deal about having a son over having a daughter like they have empire to pass down to the son when they actually don't.

You're from India, do you mind giving me your two cents? I am actually friends with a guy from India. I noticed he makes a big deal about how innocent I am. (I've never had sex for religious reasons). As well as I come off innocent/pure personality wise. Like he likes that so extremely much that he talks about it almost every time we talk. Is it a big deal over India? Because in America I feel like men here don't care if a girl is a virgin or has a innocent personality, at least the ones I've interacted with. So it's just different behavior that I'm not used to.

[mandyfire98]

I can't comment on any of the social issues in India but I can say that in America it's still the same with women who want to have sex and have fun. It's still looked at as slutty. You will still have men try to rationalize (and it's always the dumbest shit I've ever heard) that they should be able to sleep with who they want but women shouldn't. Every excuse they come up with always sounds dumber than the last excuse.

I've never worried about it. I don't give a fuck. It's my life, you only get one so I had fun. I'm happier for it. Also I haven't been trapped in a loveless marriage yet or divorce because I felt I needed to settle down right out of the gate.

[anon1903]

Classic mansplaining

[Mewzinc]

Aren't you scared of getting pregnant? I know they are contraceptives and all but they aren't 100%

[Mewzinc]

There*

[mandyfire98]

Condoms + birth control. The odds of getting pregnant when both of these are used is like winning the lottery type of odds.

[Asad1ONE1]

Then how would you explain the women who complain about men sleeping around?

##IDIOT

[mandyfire98]

You think society judges men who like to sleep around the same as they do women?

#yourefullofit #menarentcalledslutsorwhores
#youretheidiot
Somebody was triggered. 😂😂

[mandyfire98]

@anon1903

Like I said your mytakes really do help me hunt down people I can go ahead and block that have these misogynistic double standards. Men can but women shouldn't mentality. So thank you for that.

[anon1903]

You can always count on me, Mandy x

[ohsheeT]

I honestly think times are changing when a woman sleeps around a lot of people like to call her a slut there's no such thing all she's doing is trying to find the one man that pleases her she might have to go through 5 to 10 to find that guy there's nothing wrong with that guys do it all the time and then they still pick the wrong girl and then they still get a divorce I mean you got to look at it and be honest most guys are the real sluts girls are just trying to find that one person that pleases them that they can fall in love with

[Lookingforthetruth]

Most men don't sleep around. The vast majority of men get very little if none at all.

[Sanser]

Well all this comes from a reality. Who is the one who should approach socially? Man or woman? The man. That means that the man must be the one who risks being rejected by the woman. That is why it is seen that if a man has slept with many women, it means that many women like this man. On the other hand, if a woman has slept with many men, it means that the filter of that woman is not very high and therefore she does not value herself at all or has no values.

That is my explanation about this phenomenon which is obviously very sexist.

Now is when I must say my opinion, men who have slept with many women make me very sorry, they really make me feel sorry, I am a traditional man and that is why I don't quite like people with many partners. The same with the woman, I hope that the woman I end up with doesn't have a very high body count because I consider that unpleasant, not only for women but for everyone.
I hope I have been of help :D

[anon1903]

Just because you guys approach and are likely to get rejected, we're supposed to overlook the fuckboy tendencies? Wow ok.

[Sanser]

Nope but I was explaining what would be a cause of that kind of stereotipical look over the bodycount of men and women. I really feel bad for being part of a gender who is constantly like animals who need to copulate, the hormones are the hormones but at the end it would be better if in our society both genders were the same in this aproach thing and then this kind of things wouldn't exist I guess... I dont care about the life of anybody and if someone wants to have sex perfect, have sex. I dont care about your life, but at the end if i want to be with someone I would like to be with someone with my same values and that means someone who has had a few boyfriends or sex with few people :D

[anon1903]

Yeah. K.

[anon1903]

Neither gender should be judged. It's pretty dumb.

[Rohaan2020]

Just to add up... its mother in laws in most cases who have so musny requirements in their daughter in law...
also its mistly the aunties in the neighbourhood who talks rubbish about girls coming late night at home or having fun...
And i do agree life for girls is quite difficult here in India...

[anon1903]

Precisely!

[MrOracle]

As long as you believe that the very real differences between men and women are somehow exist (and, of course, even with that being the case, only male characteristics are bad), then why would anyone bother to talk to you about this?

You are pushing a political agenda rather than paying attention to the science. I realize you have lots of company, but numbers don't make you correct. COVID certainly has proven that in so many ways.

[anon1903]

What differences? Let's hear it.

[Lookingforthetruth]

Differences include women love for status and money and how said loves influences their attraction for a man. Men are influenced as well but usually requires a ridiculous amount to affect their attraction for said woman. For example, Oprah has a high amount of status and wealth but the vast majority of men don't consider her a sex symbol. While guys like Leonardo Dicaprio can still bang women in their physical prime (18-24), from his money and status, even if his looks have degraded.

Another difference between the genders is aversion to taking risk. Women tend to sit in a corner and wait for men (or women) to approach them. A lot of women never take the initiative to actually approach, try to impress, plan dates, and actually establish the romantic relationship. Outside of just showing up in a sexy outfit, guys often are the ones who have to keep the conversation going, be entertaining, throw money and basically do 80% of the work. And guys continue this into the relationship, and the moment they take a breeder to relax, women complain about them not trying anymore.

Other differences between the sexes is how easy sex and relationship come to women. A woman can make a profile on a dating/social media and she would be showed with many options for dates; even if she is average. Many women like to say this isn't a privilege by claiming all those options only want sex, and while some of that may be true, I'd wager it's mostly false. For example, on bumble and tinder sites, most women only swipe on 5% of men on there and don't even bother to respond to the men that they did swipe on.

[Lookingforthetruth]

Other key differences between the sexes is that women's attraction for men is heavily influenced by social approval (girl approval). A lot of women go after guys that other women have interest, even if that guy is in a relationship or married. There is even a social experiment done in which guys have hired hot escorts to go on dates with them or had wedding rings and noticed a mark increase in female attention. The video below is a successful and good-looking guy who basically talks about such behavior and women who would actively keep themselves single waiting for him to give them a chance.

https://youtu.be/GoiO7taTR50

And yes while men are affected to some degree by family and friends influence, it usually is to a far lesser degree and it's usually towards warranted red flags. Guys don't find a girl more attractive from other men wanting her, they don't require her to be mrs. popular or have strong social media presence, they don't get turned on seeing her flirting or demonstrating that she can get other men. Meanwhile, these type of traits are seen as bonuses and makes a man more appealing to women.

[Lookingforthetruth]

We also have other differences by which men and female are treated and validated in society. If an average girl post a picture of herself on social media, she will get hounded with compliments from men and women on how hot she is. This tends to overinflate female egos into thinking their more attractive than they actual are. And when good looking and/or rich guys decide to dip below their standards and sleep with basic girls for easy sex, a lot of women begin to see themselves on that level. So a combination of female hypergamy, false validation tend to make women delusional on the men that can commit to them and they are single for years holding out for mr. perfect. A perfect example of this is 6'2" model named Jacki Jing, who a few years back made a tiktok about how she was frustrated in dating. She had not quite reached the bargaining stage and still wanted to get a guy she found physically attractive (aka 6 pack abs, 6'2+ and make 6 figures) but who also treats her right, since she was getting pump and dumped.

https://www.tiktok.com/@jackijing?lang=en

Meanwhile, most guys will never receive that level of validation unless their genetical blessed, spent many years working out in the gym+ roided on gear+ genetical blessed or are very high status and have tons of money. So a lot of guys are grounded in what they believe should be their equal and sometimes even take less. Hell, some men are willing to take complete shit deals like dating single mothers with multiple kids from different dads.

[Lookingforthetruth]

her she is in 2021, still single. Still coping and holding out for chad, while male simps in the comment try to comfort her about her life choices.

https://www.instagram.com/p/CLsu0EKhoiS/

https://youtu.be/stQB1Ucr0bE

https://youtu.be/bK1rGE6riHs

https://www.youtube.com/shorts/DAGvP3_GDXs

Oh I stand corrected, she is currently dating a 7'0+ guy. Let see how long that last.

[anon1903]

@Lookingforthetruth everyone loves money and beauty. Lmao.

[anon1903]

@Lookingforthetruth she looks like a pick me

[anon1903]

@Lookingforthetruth about the social media thing
Newsflash: men are desperate 😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱

[anon1903]

@Lookingforthetruth I'm bisexual. I'm interested in women. I still won't wait for a woman to post her selfie in order to harass her with unwanted attention.

[anon1903]

@Lookingforthetruth newsflash : attention from randos doesn't inflate the female ego 🤭

[Lookingforthetruth]

Yes but men can find even the average woman beautiful. Sadly women do not and it's why men often have to compensate with great personalities, money, status and confidence to compensate.

She looks like a pick me doesn't invalidate that she wants to hold out for top tier males like so many girls that find themselves over 30+ and single.

Men are desperate which is why cam models, twitch streamers and OF girls can make a career of them. It's also why women get such inflated sense of egos about their beauty due to simps constantly telling them they are perfect on there. And the reason men are desperate is due to a lot of guys not getting anything in real life. More than 60% of men under 30 are single.

Women post their thirst trap pics for attention. Do you really think when women post up sexy pics on social media, they believe only hot guys will view them? Women like attention online from any man. It's why girls constantly will comment and thank guys that they will never date online. Women don't like these same creepy guys giving them attention in person or sending them creepy messages; online however is fine. And in person, women are fine receiving attention from men who they aren't physical attracted towards just as long as the guy is at least average. There are tons of videos online of women begging for more guys to approach them.

[anon1903]

@Lookingforthetruth yes, not being picky about looks is definitely not a desperate move on their part. Suuuuure.

[anon1903]

@Lookingforthetruth it's never fine. The only reason they don't block these men is because you'd have blocked half the internet! lmao

[SunnyRS]

I agree with everything you say but please don't generalise what you are saying to India as a whole, there aren't many but a few families are progressive here.
As a fellow Indian I just can't except that.
Yes what you said about the situation of women is true in lot of areas here but not everywhere, so just add "most of the places in India" rather than saying India (as a whole) that doesn't sound right or fair.

[anon1903]

There are definitely progressive families. For instance, my dad's a submissive liberal.

[SunnyRS]

That's what I am saying, so please don't generalize it like that.

[anon1903]

Yeah

[SunnyRS]

Thank you 😊

[call_me_scar]

Oh yeah I also found the first part so hypocritical and damaging 1 of my friends in HS was worried about how no man would want her ever again after she gave her virginity to her boyfriend

[peedy]

Somethings are not worth the time and effort getting mad and bent out of shape sone things have been that why for a long long time and putting a different name yo it doesn't challenge its not worth the fight
Better to live and let live otherwise you're going to find yourself alone unwanted and pissed off at the world over things that you can't change

[Kiran_Yagami]

Of course it's sexist, because men and women are not the same. We don't even want the same things. You're mad at people for following their biological drives. It's also sexist to segregate men's sports and women's sports, because that is a blind admission to the fact that women cannot compete against men. Well, it's both sexist and true. If we didn't segregate men's and women's sports, there would just be men's sports.

[monorprise]

Its hard to argue with results, India is one of the few still functional cultures on earth.

[anon1903]

It's functional because we're forced into following it 😀

[monorprise]

@anon1903 Maybe that is what is required to keep a culture going, all we can say for certain is it is what has worked for most cultures thou-out most of history. The Abandonment of which is certantly failing all cultures that have done so.

In the grand scheme of things the few hundred years we might decline without said rules will hardly matter in the 1000s of years our 'modern' culture is no longer here.

[RiseofArtemis]

Society only can grow under tight rules for both men and women. The moment those rules are no longer followed a slow decline into the destruction of your society and culture will happen. Ancient Rome used to have tight rules until they slowly losened them and fell into destruction and Hedonism. A society like that is not a stable ground for Children to grow. And our Modern society is on the same path of exctinction.

[anon1903]

Screw your rules and culture. That's all I wanted to say.

Thank you guys.

[anon1903]

@RiseofArtemis US has my respect

[soulOnDisplay]

Hello @ Anon1903 2010 called. They want their ideas and talking points back.

[anon1903]

I refuse to give it back

[anon1903]

I'll send back a bouquet of tulip bulbs though. Carry it won't you?

[Siri137]

"Everyone wants to sleep with everyone."

No, I don't actually. Speak for yourself if you don't mind!

[Kathy1983]

Cause it’s how they control us. And ones get 💩 from the most always been women. I think it’s cause their too much competition. They perhaps don’t measure up.

[Asad1ONE1]

Compliment to who? Countless women hate men sleeping around as well. This isn't gender specific and you don't speak for all women.

[anon1903]

Those men still expect a virgin wife, by the way

[Asad1ONE1]

So do countless other women. This isn't gender specific. And many men either don't want a virgin or don't even care.

[anon1903]

If they sleep around, they have lost the demand to have a virgin wife.

[anon1903]

Same thing I'd say to a short woman demanding 6"1 and above husband, same thing I'll say to unemployed woman who wants to marry a guy who earns in 6 digits, if u don't have it, u can't demand it. Simple as that.

[anon1903]

It IS about genders, Asad

[Asad1ONE1]

Yes those men who sleep around and demand virgin wives are wrong and hypocritical and evil. I was referring to virgin men and women who are searching for similar values.

[Asad1ONE1]

But make the analogy relevant. Women who sleep around and demand virgins may be be fewer in numbers, but the same applies to them.

[anon1903]

I agree.

[anon1903]

Of course

[whistlingwh0res]

All women are whore and all men are Asswhore so we are equal

[shortster]

Some people wouldn't have any standards if they didn't have double standards.

[Quigly]

This is a very sexist article to say that sexism is a problem of one sex and not the other.

[anon1903]

Thanks