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So there's a girl at work who for one week straight until a Saturday I noticed has been staring at me even when I notice and take a quick look back to see if she's still staring. I couldn't really tell if she smiled back or what because I would look for one second and look away and saw she would keep her gaze until I was gone plus she had a mask on a few times. She wears glasses but I notice sometimes she takes her glasses off and puts them on and I tried to to notice or take a guess when and I don't want to say she is but she might be copying me. Finally a week after she was staring at me and I didn't say anything to her I finally go up to her and ask her for her name which she tells me, I introduce myself to her and tell I'm probably interested in getting to know her more she says okay and after that she kinda ignores me. She didn't tell me she had a boyfriend when I said I wanted to get to know her but deep down I have a feeling she has a boyfriend and she was playing with me the whole time. Before moving on I'm going to give a few things about her, one of them being I notice she kind of keeps to herself so that kind of gives me hints she either keeps to herself or she doesn't want to be bothered by anyone. Not sure but sometimes she goes home early which gives me hints of her having a child. She's a light skin Spanish girl which gives me hints that she is playing with me since Spanish women don't date dark skin men and I'm what you would call a black American, she's not exotic hot Spanish woman but moreso homely cute, and her work clothes isn't something that makes her stand out it's more loose fit baggy jeans. The reason I didn't go over to her and went a week later is because I wasn't and still not sure if she actually is interested in me because I'm old (41) and she looks young, she's Spanish and I'm black, and this is a first for me. Is she playing me or am I being to BP'ed.

I noticed over the years that women bring up height excessively more then men do. They not only talk about height in romantic scenarios but with platonic / professional interactions with men as well.

But every time women mentions a man being short, it’s almost always a negative connotation. Even if they like the short guy they will say something like “well he’s not very tall but he’s really cute or funny” or something.

But if a girl doesn’t something else about the short guy (his personality, looks, etc.) they virtually always bring up his height. Especially if they reject the man romantically.

But at the same time guys are less prone to say “well she’s really sweet & cool despite being overweight” out loud. We might be thinking that but we are not allowed by modern culture to say that because it’s “too mean” or something.

I am 6ft so fortunately height isn’t an issue for me. Like anyone I notice other people’s heights in most situations but I don’t immediately factor that into my judgment of people.

I once dated a girl who was 5’ 11’’. Despite my favorite female body type being cute, petite and athletic, her being tall and skinny was virtually a non issue for me. It did make things slightly more complex in bed (shorter girls are more versatile) But I didn’t really care that much. It was like factor number 37 out of 50 for me.

Also I don’t notice height at all in platonic and professional interactions with women or men. I don’t asume a really short guy or a really tall girl might have a negative personality right away. Some short guys do have napoleon syndromes. I’ve met a few short loud mouthed dbags. But overall that stereotype is often exaggerated.

I guess height judgment is evolutionary for females. But women need to understand that men have no control over their height whatsoever.

If you are more attracted to taller men then fine. But if you don’t like a shorter guy than don’t throw out his height as one of his “faults” like he had a choice in the matter.