Do you ever double text when someone ghosts you?

[Anonymous]

So I started dating a girl I matched on an app about 2 weeks ago. The dates have been really great, we have been on 4 in total. We’ve kissed goodbye at the end of each date and it’s been really nice, but there hasn’t been much progression with regard to physical intimacy, even when I’ve been suggestive of it. I noticed a small switch in energy after the 3rd date over text. We haven’t been messaging loads but it’s been a steady back and forth all day, teasing each other and mostly to organise the dates, but her replies definitely got longer after the 3rd date. She then asked if we could go to dinner on Monday to which I obliged, and I walked her home, we said we’d see eachother again, and we had a long kiss goodbye. She’s been very honest that she isn’t “easy”, and rarely goes on dates and said I should be happy I got to the 4th date (weird?). She’s described herself as hyper independent and said she struggled to let people in. Since our date on Monday, we haven’t had any contact. I messaged her saying I was back, to which she sent a joking reply. I replied to her Tuesday morning and I’ve had nothing since. I’m not normally an anxious guy but I thought it’d be a good opportunity to ask friends about the situation, and I have had varied answers from “she’s not interested” to “she wants you to pursue her until she feels comfortable”. I don’t want to smother the girl. I’ve never really been ghosted but if something fizzles out I never force it. This doesn’t feel like it’s fizzled out, more just stopped abruptly. Should I perhaps leave it a few days and reach out? Or is this seen as clingy and desperate? I’m a massive advocate for being yourself, which makes me want to double text. However, my pride and ego is telling me no, she isn’t interested.

thoughts?

[Screenwriter]

You know, there's this "people have sex after the third date" rumor that's been floated around forever. This woman has stated that she "Isn't easy," which means, she doesn't want to be pressured about sex.

Until SHE brings it up, I wouldn't broach the subject. You've only known this woman for TWO WEEKS!!! What do you even know about someone in two weeks? Nothing. You have a hint about personality and tastes. That's it.

You've suggested sex and there hasn't been much progression with regard to anything physical other than kisses. But you've been subtly pushing that envelope. She has SAID she hasn't been on many dates. She has SAID she doesn't usually let people in.

She let you in, and you're pushing for sex. Maybe she's thought it over and has decided, "No." Stopped abruptly sound like a death knell.

You can try to reach out again. If there's no reply. You've been "Boo-ed". Literally and figuratively.

[InknKink]

When a girl says "she's not easy", it does not mean she doesn't want sex. It means she doesn't want to feel like a slut.

My honest take? You missed a beat and plateaued. The excitement and edge fizzled out. The spark is gone. You cannot recover.

If you kissed on the first date, you need to escalate further on the second. Do not repeat dates. Always move forward.

And to have done it 4 times in a row? You fucked up.

Do not text. Learn from your mistake.

Start spending your energy on someone else.

[In_Trance]

Nope