Is it virtually always a negative characteristic when a women brings up a man being short?

[blueonblack22]

I noticed over the years that women bring up height excessively more then men do. They not only talk about height in romantic scenarios but with platonic / professional interactions with men as well.

But every time women mentions a man being short, it’s almost always a negative connotation. Even if they like the short guy they will say something like “well he’s not very tall but he’s really cute or funny” or something.

But if a girl doesn’t something else about the short guy (his personality, looks, etc.) they virtually always bring up his height. Especially if they reject the man romantically.

But at the same time guys are less prone to say “well she’s really sweet & cool despite being overweight” out loud. We might be thinking that but we are not allowed by modern culture to say that because it’s “too mean” or something.

I am 6ft so fortunately height isn’t an issue for me. Like anyone I notice other people’s heights in most situations but I don’t immediately factor that into my judgment of people.

I once dated a girl who was 5’ 11’’. Despite my favorite female body type being cute, petite and athletic, her being tall and skinny was virtually a non issue for me. It did make things slightly more complex in bed (shorter girls are more versatile) But I didn’t really care that much. It was like factor number 37 out of 50 for me.

Also I don’t notice height at all in platonic and professional interactions with women or men. I don’t asume a really short guy or a really tall girl might have a negative personality right away. Some short guys do have napoleon syndromes. I’ve met a few short loud mouthed dbags. But overall that stereotype is often exaggerated.

I guess height judgment is evolutionary for females. But women need to understand that men have no control over their height whatsoever.

If you are more attracted to taller men then fine. But if you don’t like a shorter guy than don’t throw out his height as one of his “faults” like he had a choice in the matter.

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[genericname85]

no. it's the same as a man noticing a girl is flat. it's just an observaiton of a generally not very appealing superficial feature. there's nothing inherently negative about this unless you are somehow butthurt cause you have either of these things and feel bad about it.

[blueonblack22]

Sure men notice but we aren’t allowed to be vocal about the same way many women are.

[genericname85]

Of course we are allowed to. If they're butthurt, you know they have small tits and that's why they react negatively to it. Someone not liking what you're saying doesn't mean you're not allowed to say it.

[LiamJHayden]

Someone who is not interested will always find faults. I'm 6'2 and have been called too tall or, yes, even too short by some who are not interested. I just accept it and move on.

[blueonblack22]

Right. But I notice women bring up height often even in non romantic scenarios (colleagues, friends, etc).

[mistixs]

I don’t view “short” as a negative description but as a neutral one, along the lines of blue-eyed vs brown-eyed. No value judgment. I don’t really care about height. I think short and tall can both be sexy.

[blueonblack22]

Fair enough. But look at prettycruble’s response to this. She’s exactly what I am talking about when it comes to this female prejudice.

And again I am 6ft. Not very tall but I’ve never been called “short” either. Not a problem for me.

But what bothers me the most about this female prejudice is that many women have no problem openly insult men over characteristics guys have no control over.

Fair or not I don’t have a problem with women rejecting men romantically as long as they are respectful about it. Attraction isn’t a choice.

But from my experience women more openly unfairly criticize short men like the guy made a voluntary choice to be short or something. It’s ridículos.

[mistixs]

You’re right, it’s ridiculous and shallow. I think it’s like the guys who insist a woman have big boobs even if she’s thin. I don’t think most men believe that but the ones who do are the most vocal so it can seem like a majority. Same with women who insist on guys being 6’0 or taller - they seem common since they’re so vocal but I don’t think most women really care that much.

At least, I like to think most people are rational and reasonable enough to not judge people on trivial factors such as height or bra size. Plenty of people are trash, so 🤷‍♀️ dump their opinion in the landfill where it belongs!

[blueonblack22]

I agree totally. But I just recently noticed my own grandma talking about a relative she didn’t like and she kept describing him as short. I can’t get away with saying I don’t like this about this woman and “she’s so fat”.

I just noticed women get more societal leeway nowadays to openly trash guys about characteristics they can’t control. Not all women of course. But just saying.

[mistixs]

I’m sorry your own grandma said stuff like that!

I honestly think the main thing that’s deemed socially unacceptable is fat shaming. It’s often considered acceptable to shame women for being too thin, saying they are flatchested and childlike and look like little boys.

Not sure why the double standard exists. Maybe it’s because most women are overweight/obese and therefore they advocated against fat shaming more aggressively, whereas a smaller percentage of guys are short and a smaller percentage of women are skinny, so there’s less pushback.

[blueonblack22]

Just saw this comment. You are EXACTLY right about the so called “fat shaming” double standard. Spot on. I also notice big girls are often loud mouthed and / or bullies.

Men are generally not attracted to big girls. Men aren’t allowed to say anything so these women are still attention starved. They get angry, depressed and naturally gravitate to radical feminism. They find other likeminded miserable obese women (misery loves company) and they organized all these stupid ass movements. Through their determination (they spend more time doing activist bs then taking care of their bodies) they successfully blasted men and manipulated society to mute out criticism / fat jokes.

But they’re still miserable. You can NOT force a man or anybody to change their preferences. Attraction isn’t a choice.

But what’s worse is being overweight isn’t just unsightly but it leads to health complications and a shorter lifespan. It was buried by the mass media but obesity was the number one co-morbidity factor for Covid deaths during the epidemic. But it was too politically incorrect to point out hard scientific fact. It’s insane.

But one thing about being overweight vs being short is a person CAN change their physique. It’s very hard but it’s possible with discipline and drive. But they rather blame society and live in denial. Rather seek out feel good lies vs the hard truth.

[PrettyCrumblBb]

Tbh I'm not attracted to short guys. I'm 5'1 and I like really tall guys. 6'4

Most short guys have Napoleon complex. No thanks.

[blueonblack22]

And you are EXACTLY what I am talking about when it comes to this female prejudice. I wrote this question because of women like you. There are many women like you.

Now I don’t fault you at all for being attracted tall guys. Right or wrong that’s biological. Attraction isn’t a choice.

But you assuming that all short men have napoleon complexes is like me saying all overweight women are “attention starved angry loud mouthed bully prone fat asses.”

I’ve definitely come across a few angry and loud fat girls. But I know they’re not all like that. I might not be attracted to them but I won’t automatically assume the worst about them like you do for short guys.

I’m a 6ft. Too “short” for your tastes I guess.

[PrettyCrumblBb]

I said 'most' short guys have Napoleon complex not 'all'! Learn to read.

[blackeagle007]

6’4? Isn’t that a little too demanding being your height? Why not expand your mind a little? I feel you’re missing out

[PrettyCrumblBb]

@blackeagle007 Too demanding? I never said he had to be 6'4. You guys don't pay attention

[Anonymous]

For me personally I’d only say it to friends or family, if I’m not close to the person I will not say it. If I don’t know the person I keep my comment to myself, and usually that’s not what goes through my head when I see a guy.

Now I personally have dated someone that was the same height as me (5’7), but he was called short. He wasn’t short to me at all. That being said I’d date someone my height or a few inches taller than me.

[msc545]

Women always try t find things they dn't like abuta guy in order to use those thing as ways of manipulatiing him. Height is an important one since there is really nothing a guy can do about it short of dangerous expensive and painful leg surgery - which a few pathetic guys actually do...

[aceleon]

pathetic? why? wanting to be taller is a crime?
if for girls yes it is pathetic but if they want to be taller than they are why are they pathetic?

[qwerty2469]

Im short and have been relatively successful in love. I dated a girl that was 5 foot 11. Im 5 foot 5. We dated for like 4 weeks until I went to kiss her good night amd stepped of the first step of her front porch and face planted into her tits instead of her lips. Thats when she realized I was short. She loved it doggy style. Said slit hit the angles. right but I was the one struggling like a chihuahua humping a great Dane.

[aceleon]

i just loved the symbolization you made there.
am i weird if i wanna see a chihuahua humping a great dane and laugh like crazy?

[qwerty2469]

No. Shit was hilarious. I wish I was cool enough to have had mirrors so I could have seen it. Or that cellphone videos were common back then.

[aceleon]

dude if you are able to see the hillariousness of this situation you are cool as fuck.

[DamianSTG]

I'm 177/178cm (not sure) and my girlfriend is 176cm.
We both don't care and the hugs feel nice, she isn't petite but has more body to love. I had skinny girls and honestly I like them with a little belly more 😍
I just love to lie down face down on her belly and just zone out like this, can't imagine this on a skinny girl with a sixpack

[i_Jedi]

All I can say is never judge someone based only on appearance. Looks may fade but a person’s character, values, and attitude will always matter the most. Outer beauty can catch your eye, but it’s the inner qualities that truly keep your heart.

[Anonymous]

for some reason most of my fellow women believe that the most important path to a happy and successful marriage is for a man to be tall, dark and handsome.

[Anonymous]

Very often, but not always.