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But Love and Hate are opposite emotions we all know. So what similarities do they really possess?

*Both are Extreme emotions

*Both are felt about someone because of who they are and how we feel about them

*Both have strong desires for a finite end result. We wish those we love to thrive and greatly succeed at all that they do. We wish for all their dreams to come true. While we wish pain and failure for those that we hate and for all their dreams to end in nightmares.

Let's say that you really love someone but find out they cheated on you. At first you are left in shock and disbelief. Next the shock turns to hurt and pain. Then the emotion starts to switch to anger. Finally a hatred sets in and grows deeper as you realize what a fool you have been taken for... you know I'm right!

Love and hate are related emotions because they are both strong and intense and directed towards someone in particular and many times that same someone is on the receiving end of both, and maybe by their own doing.

Please take my Poll and let me know what your opinion or experience has been with Love and hate, both on the giving and receiving ends... PLEASE!

Wouldn't it be nice if all hatred could be eliminated from the planet and we could just say...

The first to apologize is the bravest
The first to forgive is the strongest
The first to forget is the happiest

... I LOVE YOU!

Example:

Your best friend A caught you (B) stealing their money and talking bad behind their back.

A forgives you, giving you a 2nd chance. You learned and never did it again.

Years later, it's A that stole money from you. Same offense you got forgiven for. So now you have to forgive right? It's only fair.

Same thing if cheating happens. If your partner forgave then you're suppose to be forgiving too if they do the same?

I've read this infidelity story before. I'll refer the names as Jane and Tom.

Jane was 19 and Tom was 20 at the time. They've been dating for 8 months or so when she got caught cheating. She cheated with Tom's good friend. Both got caught falling alseep in Tom's house, on his couch in a compromised position with the TV still running, an empty bottle of rum and empty snack bags. They had already finished the deed when Tom arrived. His friend was only in boxers and she dressed up with jeans but only had bra. Alcohol was involved and the cheating went on for nearly 3 months.

Tom somehow forgives that, reconciles and still marries her 5 years later. Jane changed for the better though, by her own admission never cheated again. Then 15 years into their marriage (and 20 years since her cheating took place) and with 3 kids, Tom begins coming home drunk and cheats for other reasons; midlife crisis. Tom briefly fell in love with the other woman, stole some of his wife's money to spend it on his affair, secretly gave his wife's meals to the other woman and was thinking about setting up a trip to France just to be with her for a bit, away from responsiblities, away from the kids, out of reality. Their ages by then are 39 and 40.