Would you forgive your partner if they made one mistake of kissing someone else, regretted it immediately and told you soon after?

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OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

People use the word "mistake" in conjunction with cheating to minimize the moral culpability of their conduct. "It was a mistake" which generally means "I didn't intend to do what I did."

WRONG! If we are talking about kissing, it is unusual for someone to sneak up and surprise kiss you without you having any advance notice. Usually, you look in their eyes, you feel attracted, and you move in for the kiss. And, if you are married or in a "committed" relationship, why did you even put yourself in that position in the first place.

I work with an office full of women and some of them are cute, desirable, and friendly. I am friendly with them in the office but I don't go out to lunch with any of them unless it is in a large group. If you are really committed, you avoid temptation.

And, of course, if we are talking about sex, you can try to say, "I don't know. I was walking down the street and I must have blacked out because I woke up a few hours later naked, in bed with this girl who was on top of me and she wouldn't stop until I came in her. It was disgusting and as soon as I could, I jumped out of bed, got dressed, and left." Does ANYBODY believe that story? If you have sex with somebody, it was intentional and consensual unless it was a sexual assault (in which case it should have been reported to law enforcement.)

D_Bone_Steak · Accepted Answer

No... first of all that's not a mistake. I've been kissed by random girls and my partner took her anger out on the chick. She kissed me... I didn't go up to her and kiss her.

If you think about it... I was the victim. I didn't stand in front of the bathroom waiting for my woman to piss with hopes of getting kiss-raped while she was in there. Sure it gave me a boner... but I wasn't asking for it.

Think about this though if you're being a chuckle fuck about this...

Roles reversed.

You have to use the bathroom and your girl waits outside the bathroom for you. A group of guys come out and force a kiss upon her, they all laugh and carry on. You come out of the bathroom and she tells you what happens. She's not telling you it made her pussy wet, but you can tell.

So are you a cuck or sort of pissed off?

So with that all said... I don't blame my girl for being pissed off about it, but she did direct her anger in the right direction. That's 4D chess compared to 2D.

But damn I enjoyed that kiss, it gave me a boner.

Violetcity · Accepted Answer

I need a bit more context. Maybe I need to know exactly how in love with and committed to this partner I am. They didn't just trip and fall and kiss someone by accident, and they have to have known it was wrong, so they'll need a pretty good excuse for me to not hold it against them in any way.

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Accepted Answer

I cannot imagine being in a relationship and making a mistake of kissing someone. How’s that even a mistake?

Imagine now, me going out and mistakenly kissing a stranger on lips, that’s not happening right?

There must have been some backstory, which means he cheated.

Sonorous · Answer

Yeah, I'd forgive them. But that doesn't mean we're gonna still be together. 🤣🤣

NathanDavis · Answer

to me, it would be about much more than that really...

forget about wrong or right and forgiving... I would want to know, I would want to understand, I would want to see why did that happen, how did that happen

how come things ended up, or lead to something like this... these things would just not happen out of nowhere, for no reason, it is never that simple, so... that's what I would want to focus on first, and work on that

to me, personally... forgiving is the easy part, I can always let go of the negative emotions and feels, but for me to forgive it doesn't mean that you just forget or ignore consequences, I quit on any resentment, but the problem remains and has to be addressed, things do change invariably and something has to be done... differently as well, as you move on

BeetleBro2000 · Answer

Probably, one kiss isn't the end of the world, but it is serious and it would depend on if they understood that. If they think it was "just a kiss" and that's all, then I don't think I can trust them.

There's always buildup to something like that. If they can't tell me what happened, or even that something happened that got them to the point of wanting to kiss someone else, and then to thinking about it, and then to actually doing it... how am I supposed to believe they won't "make one mistake" and do it again tomorrow?

There needs to be space. There needs to be at least a couple of mistakes room on both our ends before they end up kissing someone else—and I'm willing to work on getting back to that spot. But if they're not, then sorry, I can't trust someone always only one step away from that.

SongBird3 · Answer

Although I would respect the fact that he was honest and came to me right away. I would most likely forgive but end the relationship anyways. At the end of the day I am a strong woman who would not do that, and I require a strong man. The fact he was in a position to do it and gave into temptation to do it just shows he is weak. I would wish him well and tell him to seek therapy for himself

AaronKrieger · Answer

Good reference. Anyway, I would not likely forgive them, but I do not know if I would stay either like Mike did.

I know it is easy to get caught up in emotions and cheating is not always one sided. However, it still is a choice at the end of the day and a selfish one even if they stopped it.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

I would. It all depends on what the guy provides in my life. If he gives me everything and we trust each other completely, I wouldn't actually care. It also depends on if i feel my spot in his life is secure, like if I felt he could or would want to leave me then that is a different thing. Then I probably would not forgive, because at that point he is just wasting my time.

IslaTheWitch · Answer

To kiss someone, you have to come very close and be sure the other person wants it, also... there is a lot of effort needed.

I don't believe in accidental kisses made by mistake.

If it happened, it means he wanted it... and it would say something about his commitment to our relationship

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

Like she left her shoes in the middle of the floor, tripped on them and landed on the repairman's mouth? How do you kiss someone by mistake? Blindfolded for pinata time and thought it was your S. O?

Phoenix98 · Answer

How would you even make that mistake? That's not accidental that's purposeful your lips don't just find their way to another dudes mouth accidentally.

Only way this would be fine is if a guy snuck a kiss in on the girl against her consent and she pulled away immediately.

GuyAnswersGirls123 · Answer

Yeah, it's not the type of thing I see worth breaking a marriage of 14 years over if it hypothetically happened.

Minahh · Answer

I wouldn't forgive he should have break up with me before kissing someone else therefore he's an idiot as for Jack Sparrow he's a genius ofc one of my my fav characters

katiesmuff · Answer

Yes I imagine I would! Big difference between a lip to lip kiss and a very romantic kiss including some tongue swapping. That second one would sound some alarms yes!

aceleon · Answer

mistake? let's accept it that is actually the case, i'm still not kissing the lips that got kissed by another dude, accidental or intentional is not my problem.

EmmaMary · Answer

Just how the hell can you possibly make a "mistake" in kissing someone?  Personally there would be no forgiving, forgetting and certainly no more us.

bobalife · Answer

Nah, cheating is cheating. They knew what they were doing and it’s no excuses.

Squatting_Slav · Answer

I would probably make my friends with benefits stay for the sex and see other women. I'm okay with that. Her kissing someone else would imply that she's not as into me as I thought. I would break off the mutual exclusivity and just see other women

JacobJordan · Answer

Nope. It wasn't a mistake and they rationalized it once they will do so again. I don't spend time or money on trash

rosemilk · Answer

nope. that's not a mistake, that is a conscious decisions that they knew was wrong.

fantasticass · Answer

Nothing is a mistake, maybe an excuse, but not a mistake 😏

Unycorn · Answer

He wants to ease his conscience and puts a strain on the relationship. So no. Once someone has crossed the inhibition threshold, it's easier to cross it again. That's the second reason. I don't trust anyone who has cheated before

Jessica405 · Answer

It is no mistake. It is a deliberate act. Even being drunk or high is no excuse.  It is finished.

JHAYES317 · Answer

Only if there was evidence that it was non-consensual. Otherwise no.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Forgive, yes. Keep a romantic relationship, no.

DizzyDesii · Answer

We’re breaking up

HelpfulWoman · Answer

rip i voted yes by accident. easy no

KrakenAttackin · Answer

If she says they "kissed", it's likely more happened.

CoolCatMar1 · Answer

Never in million years

Starrrboy · Answer

Still , we're so totally over lol..

EnergyDad · Answer

No, that is not a mistake.

slatyb · Answer

I would forgive a lot more than that.

exitseven · Answer

yes but dont mske it twice.

Sameone · Answer

We are not angel everyone can make mistake

Pohjolan · Answer

No harm, no foul.

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