Should I forgive?

[Anonymous]

Should I forgive him for sleeping with someone before we became official? We went on a few dates, but we was very on and off for around 7 months. He then slept with someone else & he told me as soon as and he said he felt awful and really now wants to commit to a relationship. What’s the deal here I know his in the wrong but has he done anything like cheating etc ovbs there was no commitment

[Oliverlogan263]

Yo this is definitely a tricky situation. On one hand, I get why you'd be pissed he slept with someone else since you guys had been kinda talking for so long. But technically you weren't official yet.

A few things to think about:

- At least he told you right away and didn't try to hide it. That shows he wants to be honest going forward.

- He seems genuinely remorseful about messing things up. People make dumb mistakes sometimes.

- If he's committed to only you now, is this something you can eventually get past? Or will it always bug you deep down?

- You've gotta decide if you can really trust him going forward or if that little seed of doubt will always be there.

My advice - take some time to think on it without any pressure from him. Let him know you need space to process. See how you feel in a week or so.

If you do want to try again, take it super slow and set clear expectations up front this time. And ditch him fast the second he slips up. You deserve to feel 100% about someone, ya know?

Hope this helps some, let me know if any other thoughts come up! You know what's best for you in the end.

[Being_a_good_Indian]

Deciding whether to forgive is a personal choice. Consider the level of commitment during that period, your feelings, and his sincerity in wanting a committed relationship now. It may be helpful to communicate openly about your concerns and expectations moving forward.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

There's just as much risk going in now as if he never told you. Lots of people do that before a relationship gets serious. And in my experience, a lot of the strongest relationships I've seen are with a guy who used to be a player.

[Asker]

Thanks for your advice

[boggboss]

How is he in the wrong sorry u guys where not together

[Anonymous]

Yes, because you weren't officially dating.

[Asker]

What does officially dating mean like it terms

[Opinion Owner]

He asks you to be is girlfriend and you agree.

[Luckycharms12]

Forgive he didn't to anything wrong