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I spent 2 years with a guy who initially said he didn’t want a relationship, but we eventually fell in love. He treated me like his girlfriend—introducing me to friends and family, celebrating birthdays with surprises, traveling together, being deeply intimate, and talking every day. He listened to my problems and helped me through tough times. I truly believed we had something real, and from the outside, it seemed like the perfect relationship.

But over time, he started pulling away, prioritizing friends and family over me. He bluntly told me, “I won’t marry you,” and then left for Iraq, saying he’d been honest from the start about going back to his country. When I asked about trying long-distance, he called me a burden, criticized me for my family issues, and even said he had to tell me what to do about a cockroach in my condo. He claimed I should have understood when he said he wouldn’t marry me. I begged him to reconsider, but he quickly moved on, even saying we could still be “friends on Facebook.”

He’s already back on dating apps, seemingly unaffected by our breakup. Now I’m wondering—was I being used? Was I wrong to think we had something real? What kind of person moves on so easily?

I met a guy on a forum a couple of years ago and we barely ever talked. We’ve probably only texted 12 times. Randomly he texted me insinuating I want him to meet him. He phrased his sentence as if I was in love with him and needed him to come to where I am and like get a house in my city. Then, not too long after that, he texted me saying he wanted to fly over to my country and take me out. I know that if someone’s a weirdo I can block them. Especially if they are so far away. But I just need to know if that’s odd or suspicious or if they were just trying to be nice? I don’t want this question to make me seem dumb it’s just the fact they one day said something to me making it seem like they thought I needed to be dependent on them and have them move here and assumed I needed to be taken on a date by them that threw me off and I need to know if that’s eerie or if I’m crazy.