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I've been having some stressful things happen due to being single. I don't want to date or put time into finding a girlfriend, but people around me have been antagonizing me because of that.
For example, I have been putting money into my parents' house for the past decade. I cleaned out my savings when my mom lost her job and have continued to stay at home and pay the bills since then. They said that because I have spent pretty much my entire life after high school paying off the house, I can have it once it's paid off and they need to move out to a smaller home. Partially due to this, and mostly due to my own faults, I have never had a girlfriend. My parents have been demanding me to go out and find someone for a while now, but I just don't have much interest or motivation to do so. It has gotten to the point where my parents said they might not give me the house unless I find a wife..
Even my friends have been antagonizing me over me being single. I know this one guy from elementary school, and we've been friends for damn near 20 years. I've seen his life worsen over time because of his poor choice in partners. There was one girl in particular that drove his mental state and finances into the ground, and she ended up leaving him on a whim. I tried to tell him on multiple occasions that she was no good, but he just snapped at me and said I wouldn't know because I'm single... and now just recently he went through a mental health crisis and cut off contact with me.. he told all of my friends that I was trying to have sex with his exes because I am jealous of him.. and they're believing him despite knowing that he's been under the influence of drugs.. one of our friends messaged me directly saying he doesn't want creepy vibes around and to stop messaging "his friends."
I told my other close friend all of this and that I'm becoming distressed and that I was going to make some time to see a therapist, and he said I'm overreacting.. is this really not that bad?
For example, I have been putting money into my parents' house for the past decade. I cleaned out my savings when my mom lost her job and have continued to stay at home and pay the bills since then. They said that because I have spent pretty much my entire life after high school paying off the house, I can have it once it's paid off and they need to move out to a smaller home. Partially due to this, and mostly due to my own faults, I have never had a girlfriend. My parents have been demanding me to go out and find someone for a while now, but I just don't have much interest or motivation to do so. It has gotten to the point where my parents said they might not give me the house unless I find a wife..
Even my friends have been antagonizing me over me being single. I know this one guy from elementary school, and we've been friends for damn near 20 years. I've seen his life worsen over time because of his poor choice in partners. There was one girl in particular that drove his mental state and finances into the ground, and she ended up leaving him on a whim. I tried to tell him on multiple occasions that she was no good, but he just snapped at me and said I wouldn't know because I'm single... and now just recently he went through a mental health crisis and cut off contact with me.. he told all of my friends that I was trying to have sex with his exes because I am jealous of him.. and they're believing him despite knowing that he's been under the influence of drugs.. one of our friends messaged me directly saying he doesn't want creepy vibes around and to stop messaging "his friends."
I told my other close friend all of this and that I'm becoming distressed and that I was going to make some time to see a therapist, and he said I'm overreacting.. is this really not that bad?
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Man, that's rough what you've been dealing with from your parents and so-called friends recently. I don't blame you for feeling stressed at all.
It's not cool of your parents to threaten to take away the house like that just because you haven't had a relationship yet. After all you've done for them over the years too - super ungrateful. And that one "friend" is being a total douche acting like you're the problem after he's the one who's messed up. Drugs or not, it's messed up to spread lies about you.
I'd be pissed too if it was me. That therapist idea is a good one - it's always good to have an impartial person to talk things out with. And if your other friend isn't backing you up, maybe start distancing yourself from him too. You don't need more negativity right now.
Don't listen to the haters who act like you HAVE to be coupled up. Live your life for you, not just to please others. Stay strong and keep investing in yourself. You seem like a genuinely loyal dude, and real ones will recognize that in time. You've got this, bro - hang in there!
You do sound immature and dysfunctional.
I can see why you'd say immature. I won't lie and say I'm above that, but I do have my own life together. What part makes you say dysfunctional?