Why do I hate my mother for absolutely no reason?

[Anonymous]

I show my mom this cruelty and she doesn’t deserve it.

My mom is good. She goes above and beyond all the time, even when I don’t need. she always stands by me, defends me from harm. My mom is absolutely amazing.
The only 2 things I’d rant about her would be that she can be sometimes insensitive to my feelings due to her own abusive upbringing, and she does the same with extreme social media monitoring and extreme fear that someone will hack into our info, or that every teen online is a pedo. Currently, I can only have little social media, frequent checks, and badgering about my past actions- another problem that has led me to this query.

I’ve been bad since I was little. My dad passed away when I was 4, and we moved away when I was 5. I can’t remember almost anything about him to this day. As a human, I have my bad flaws. I am lazy, stubborn, and selfish. I’ve never been obedient, had a small problem with authority since I was young by not wanting to pay attention and disrespect.

My mother tries to not compare me to others, claims she doesn’t but she does. She always points out my flaws to hold me accountable, or help me improve, but it’s always like she words it with mean intent, never ends up helping. I also have a major interupting habit, I can’t go through a conversation without interjecting to correct something, or attempt to defend myself. This drives my mom to rage, where she yells, gets verbally abusive when I don’t stop.

I think she has some form of anger problem. Whenever I bring up something she dislikes, she raises her tone and starts to become mean. I feel like this hurts me, but my mom complains how dramatic I can be, so I’m afraid i’m just being dramatic and need to grow up. Others have told me my mom’s like a wolf in sheep’s clothing when it comes to anger, and I agree.

this is my point of view. I need advice on how to change. It’s really hurting my mental health since kindergarten whenever we fight, so I need answers.

[Cutegirl06]

Let me say at the beginning that you sound very intelligent and seem to have a good grasp of your emotions. Sounds like your mom is a typical mother that loves you and is looking to protect you on social media. Having said that you sound like a typical teen honestly I had similar problems with my mom growing up. Maybe it would help if you both went for counseling it might help you both understand each other and resolve conflicts. Sorry about the loss of your Dad it sounds like the fact that you can't remember anything about him is bothering you a lot and counseling could help you work through your emotions. Remember that your behavior doesn't make you a bad person and that you can always change 💯 I hope this helps you, I wish you the best 💯

[Nikki1989]

You are obviously experiencing unresolved emotions or underlying issues that are contributing to your feelings of anger and resentment. It might be time to see a therapist or counselor.

[HelpfulWoman]

therapy then. you're not going to get change here.