My family hatred for my mom?

[Anonymous]

My mother passed away two years ago, and it has been really hard for me. My main issue is her siblings' hatred for her. I had to cut ties with my family because it was becoming overwhelming. I was still in contact with her brother, who was close to her when she was alive. She even let him stay at her house in Trinidad and allowed him to do whatever he wanted. But now that she’s gone, they all talk negatively about her, and they seem to think it’s okay.

The other day, I was on the phone with him, and out of the blue, he started complaining about people referring to my mother as his "pretty sister." My mother was the only light-skinned biracial child in the family, and he pointed out that this was the reason for her being called pretty. He went on to say that she wasn't even that good-looking and started discussing which of his sisters he thought was more attractive.

The thing is, I look like her, so he is insulting me as well like I don't understand when she was alive they didn't have all this energy but they seem to talk the most shit about her to me they don't say anything to my siblings about her am I overreacting for being upset.

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[Oliverlogan263]

Aw man, I'm so sorry you're dealing with that. Losing your mom must have been so hard, and then having to cut off your family on top of that - that's just really rough. I can totally understand why you're feeling so upset and overwhelmed by their negativity.

It's not at all fair for them to be talking trash about your mom, especially since she's no longer here to defend herself. And the fact that they're doing it to you directly is just messed up. I'd be livid too if I were in your shoes.

The way they're treating your mom's memory is really disrespectful, and it's totally valid to feel hurt and protective over that. She sounds like she was an amazing person who was there for them, and now they're just throwing that all away.

At the same time, I don't think you're overreacting by being upset. Your feelings are completely understandable. Grief is hard enough without having to deal with that kind of negativity from your own family.

The best thing you can do is to continue setting those boundaries and limiting contact with the ones who are being so cruel. You don't need that toxicity in your life, especially when you're still grieving. Surround yourself with the people who truly appreciate your mom's memory.

And don't be afraid to reach out for extra support, whether that's from close friends, a counselor, or even an online grief community. Losing a parent is never easy, and you shouldn't have to go through this alone.

Just know that your mom's legacy lives on through you. The fact that you're standing up for her and refusing to let them disrespect her says a lot about the kind of person she was. Keep honoring that in your own way, and don't let their bitterness bring you down. You've got this, sis.

[ohsheeT]

I'm sorry for your loss . And I'm sure your mom used to have Thanksgiving so it's even probably harder

My mom passed away probably 6 months ago my dad 7 to 8 months ago

The only family my mom had left was her sister but she had passed 8 years ago

My mom is pretty well loved by everybody

Except for her daughter I guess because I'm the one that took care of my mom it was disgusting it was the most craziest thing I've ever had to do in my life it was the hardest thing I've ever had to do in my life

And I really at that moment did not like my sister at all because she didn't help me one bit and she should have been the one taking care of her but it's over with now... it was her loss and something she's going to have to do with for the rest of her life
Just like with your family your aunts and uncles it's something that you have to deal with and you've done the right thing I would say by staying away from them

Tomorrow is Thanksgiving and maybe your post stems from that because that's when family should be together..

So I'm going to say Happy Thanksgiving to you from your mom to you I'm sure your mom loves you very very much.
And I believe that we live on forever because energy never dies but I would think that your mom is very proud of you and if I could give you a big hug from her right now I would

[Abbycado]

Sorry for the loss, but what is your question?

[Anonymous]

So tell them this.

[Crazzyyworld]

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[In_Trance]

So what's your question

[Anonymous]

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