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Personally I don't have a bad opinion on plastic surgery, as a lot of people have. I just think that if a person doesn't feel good or secure of parts of her/his body, s/he should undergo surgery, if that help s/he feeling better.

Excessive plastic surgery is something I am against, because it results unrealistic and also because it can be dangerous for people who undergo it several times.

At the same time it can be dangerous given the fact that some people to pay less go to "surgeon" who are cheap and in those cases surgery could be letal, because the surgeon is not a real one or it is a bad one, so be careful to where you go.

However, I am pro surgery if it can help people in changing their image, of course if they want to undergo it, because sometimes plastic surgery can give a big boost to people's confidence, and at the same time I find it good because there are some people who unfortunately had accidents or people who were born with some peculiar features that today are seen as ugly or unaesthetic and surgery can help them. In m y opinion what is important is to not exaggerate.

I have never thought to undergo surgery, I think I should accept me for how I look, and if I want to improve there are other ways to do it. The only thing I would try is lip filler, because it is not a surgery, it is not invasive and most of all the result is not permanent, so if I don't like the result I could dissolve the filler or wait for it to dissolve alone.

What is your opinion on this matter? Would you undergo surgery? Did you undergo surgery in the past? Do you like extreme plastic surgery or is it something you dislike?

I will share with you some pic and in a poll, you can vote if you find that well made or not and you can reply by stating your opinion.

Personally I find extreme surgery scary more than well made or badly done ( image 1 and 2), but cases like pic 3 are very natural and feel good in my opinion.

So I was kicked out of a group for exposing a man and people felt that I was “bitter” and called me “crazy” for speaking my truth on this man. It was a very invalidating experience.

Let me be clear on why I’m exposing him…

1. He did not respect my boundaries when it came to having sex and ended trying to use manipulation. I made it clear to him before we exchanged numbers that I wasn’t in a space to have sex or be in a relationship. He kind of wanted to know why etc and he wasn’t pushy.. but he said things he felt I NEEDED to hear… and at first I’m thinking wow maybe he is genuine and understanding. Looking back it was hard to see his “coercive behavior…” to get what he wanted and wanted to gain my trust. Even saying how can I make you feel safe

2. Subtle changes in behavior after telling him that I wanted to take things slow with him and gaslighting.. I did end up liking him and when I said that… that’s when it started taking hours for him to respond and then it went to days… only to get a “sorry really busy”…. But it kept happening and I confronted him and he tried to say that I needed to “heal”….. but it was strange behavior coming from a man who was trying to make me feel “safe” initially…

3. Disrespect… (devalue/discard) everything was cool on the date at first but then he became disrespectful and rude… he started asking when I last had sex, dildos, negging behavior and some insults.

4. Not being honest about his real name even on the date.. I asked him if “Craig” was his real name and he said yes… I get you want to protect yourself but he really did not want to tell me his name and seemed annoyed when I asked. It was very fishy

5. After the “date” i tried finding a “gf”…. Bc i felt like he was talking to someone.. he has no social media presence and keeps things private

6. He is possibly bisexual or closeted based on some things I found

So I heard a lot that Russian make fun of American for going to the store in pajamas.

I never actually went to the store in pajamas before but as I get older if I find comfortable pajamas that don’t look too “pajama’ish” , I wouldn’t change just to to go grab some milk and eggs etc.

so I’ll be going to Russia soon and it’s so cold there during this time, if I actually went in my pajamas to the store, would I be harshly judged?

would my Russian boyfriend be embarrassed? Disappointed? Or think bad or less of me if I were to do this?

if someone is Russian here your opinion would be great but anyone else just imagine in our culture people never do this and then someone comes and does this, would it really bother you? To what extent or how would you view this person?

If I look not so awful and rather cute in doing this, could I possibly be encouraging others to start doing the same, therefore creating something that is not so pleasant in a different country with different standards?

what don you guys think?