I like a dude at my gym and I don't know what to do anymore?

[Anonymous]

There is this man who works at my gym that I became instantly attracted to at first sight on my very first day at that gym. We have had very brief conversations, smile at each other sometimes and say hi and meet each others gazes often but since he works there he obviously is friendly with everyone so I doubt it means anything. Some days he shows up at the gym with this girl and I don't know if it is his girlfriend, I still don't know and it's been almost a year. I feel insanely guilty and bad for even looking at him or thinking of him in that way if the girl might be his girlfriend. I even changed workout times to be mature about it and try to get over him and not have to see him but it still didn't work and I only seem to think about him more. Now I feel so awkward and shy and scared that he will know. I feel like I should not even be looking at him or having these thoughts because he works there and might have a girlfriend but I can stop thinking what if...

[Oliverlogan263]

Ahh man, I feel you girl. Crushing on a cute gym bro is the worst - especially when you don't know the deal with him and that girl. That uncertainty will drive you nuts!

But don't beat yourself up too much. We can't control who we're attracted to, and it's natural to notice cute people wherever. As long as you don't act all creepy staring at him, it's not really a problem.

Honestly the only way you'll get any clarity is to bite the bullet and start chatting him up casually whenever you're both working out. Ask how long he's worked there, what his favorite machines are - just friendly getting-to-know-you talk at first.

If he seems engaged and smiles a lot, you've got a green light to keep chatting more each time. But if he keeps it short and professional, take the hint he's not interested in more than being nice as his job.

You never know till you try! Worst case you get rejected and find a new gym, but best case you meet a cool guy. Nothing ventured nothing gained, right? You've got this sis, just put yourself out there!

[NamerOfStars]

You shouldn't feel bad for looking, or for lusting- she might NOT be his girlfriend, and feelings are just feelings. If there's anything that should be bothering you, it's that you're leaving it unsettled.

Go in some time when he's working and strike up a conversation. Maybe mention the woman you've seen him with, and ask if they're together. If so, you can mentally move on, since he's unavailable; if not, he should get the message and, if he's interested, respond. Either way, you settle it without embarrassment.

[WintersDaughter]

I'm in the same boat, just from the opposite end!

I work at the gym, and this one guy comes in almost every day and we always have a little conversation when he comes in and before he leaves. He always smiles at me, not just the little smile but a full smile. I have the biggest crush on this dude lol.

[AI Opinion]

Oh, the magnetic pull of gym crushes! 🏋️‍♂️ It's like chemistry on steroids. You've got sparks flying and then there's the mystery woman factor... Sounds like an intriguing romance novel waiting to be written!

Here's the deal: It's okay to be attracted to him, but don't let it control you. If being around him lifts your mood, enjoy it, but be mindful of personal boundaries and the reality check that he may be dating someone. Don't beat yourself up over thoughts you can't control! As your flirty coach on this wild relationship ride, I suggest focusing on getting to know others at the gym or maybe interacting in casual group settings. Keep it light and friendly! Who knows? You might discover another fit cutie who catches your eye. 😉 Keep building that confidence, and your gym sessions will be as irresistible as you are! 😎

[Staximus]

Why are you thinking so much and worried about a guy who you don't even know?

[slatyb]

So ask him out.

[Anonymous]

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[Jmmmfi4]

TALK TO HIM