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I met this girl start of last year at work (ages 21, 22). We immediately connected, and became friends. A month ish later we ended up hooking up, naturally transitioned to a situationship.

we used to hang out after work, do *ahem* stuff, play Fortnite, deep talk, and fell asleep cuddling tightly. She said didn’t want commitment, that she had fears. said she does like me and would’ve pursued something with me if it wasn’t for where she was in life right now.

Life happened, and we stopped, tho we kept being friends. Few months later I invite her to hang out and the next day, she tells me tbh she wants to resume (the casual stuff) and that she feels a type of something but was too shy to reinitiate. So we did.

After that didn’t see her for a few weeks cos went to see family in Italy. when I came back we hung out and she mentioned that our mutual friend/coworker mentioned to her I still had feelings for my ex… tbh back then time I was going through a confusing time. I was honest and admitted I still had feelings for my ex and that we met up right after I came back. She seemed uncomfortable, said go she’s glad for me for me but later on she said it felt weird. Few days after that she was fine, but then she stopped replying to my messages completely. Heard from the coworker that snitched that she was going through a rough time.

Heard she had her yearly visit to her hometown around then. she came back to work around January this year. she seemed open and cold at the same time. When our shift ended the same time I said I went to get food and she followed me. Convo was pretty good, but when I suggested getting ice cream she said “I’m not just gonna go wherever you go”. ? she's still replying to my messages in good time and isn’t dry. It’s been a while since then and it’s all still similar.

I guess I liked her more than I thought, and I feel really bad how all this unfolded. I still care about her a lot.

Do you think I hurt her and she’s salty, and that I played her?

There is big difference between arguing and debating. Arguing involves emotion and it’s usually predominately anger. Arguing is often about BEING right vs WHAT is right. While it’s possible argue to figure out what is right but requires incredible self control.

Debating is very different. Debating rarely has any negative emotions. It might be something you feel passionate about it. You might be angry at someone or something but you are not typically angry at the person you are debating. You often welcome the opposing viewpoint because you want to challenge your own. The opposing viewpoint forces you to think harder. Challenges you.

If you “win” the debate and get the other person to agree with you then you don’t feel any type of “victory” over that person. They might of reinforced your belief in the end but that doesn’t create any source of pride of “winning a fight”’. Also if you “lose” a debate it doesn’t make you feel ashamed. You often feel more enlightened and grateful for the person to engaged with you.

Anyway if the hundreds of logical debates I’ve gotten in with women I’ve only had at most 1 out of 50 change my mind with factual reasoning. I have won a few debates with women. But a larger percentage often give up because they are too egotistical to admit they were proven wrong. Or worse they get angry and start throwing out insults (a minority of idiot men to this too). At that point I DEFINITELY know I‘m right.