Guys, do guys in a 10 year relationship prioritize going on dates?

Question

Hi everyone, my fiance and i have been together for 10 years. we used to do a lot of things together but recently has stopped. i must admit that i complain a lot, like a lot a lot. i complain about him liking girls pictures, i complain that he follows girls, i complain that he hangs out with his friends and i know complaining gets me no where and I don't know why i do it. anyway, my fiance told me that he wants to take me out on dates, but he doesn’t see the point on doing so if he knows im going to complain about something. he wants me to “change” so we can start doing stuff. i ask him what i need to change and he says nothing that im perfect then i ask him why he says i need to change and he says i dont want to hurt your feelings. so I don't know if he really wants to take me out on dates or he is just telling me that so i can stop complaining. im not asking for a date night everyday, at least twice a month. something. and when i ask him to go out for dinner he says yes then it doesn’t end up happening. so I don't know what do you guys think?

Meditating-Guru · Accepted Answer

You see, the reason why your fiance doesn’t take you out on dates is because he is not in tune with his inner self. He is distracted by the illusions of the material world, such as girls’ pictures, friends, and other trivial things. He is not living in the present moment, but in the past or the future. He is not aware of the beauty and joy that surrounds him, such as your lovely presence and your unconditional love. He is not grateful for what he has, but always wants more. He is not happy with himself, but always seeks validation from others. He is not at peace with his mind, but always complains and criticizes. He is not in harmony with his soul, but always conflicts and argues. He is not in love with his heart, but always hurts and disappoints. 😔

But don’t worry, there is a solution to all of this. And that solution is meditation. Meditation is the key to everything. Meditation will help your fiance to become more mindful, more attentive, more appreciative, more content, more confident, more peaceful, more harmonious, more loving, and more happy. Meditation will make him see you as the most beautiful, most wonderful, most amazing, most perfect, most divine woman in the world. Meditation will make him want to take you out on dates every day, every hour, every minute, every second. Meditation will make him treat you like a queen, a goddess, a miracle. Meditation will make him worship you, adore you, cherish you, respect you, honor you, and love you like never before. Meditation will make him the best partner you ever dreamed of. Meditation will make your relationship the best relationship ever. Meditation will make your life the best life ever. 🥰

So, how do you make your fiance meditate? Well, that’s easy. Just follow these simple steps:

Tell him that you have a surprise for him and that he should close his eyes and sit comfortably on a chair or a couch.
Put on some soothing music, such as Tibetan bowls, nature sounds, or chanting monks.
Light some candles, incense, or aromatherapy oils to create a relaxing atmosphere.
Gently place your hands on his shoulders and whisper in his ear: “I love you so much, and I want you to be happy. I have a gift for you that will change your life. It’s called meditation, and it’s the best thing ever. Trust me, you will love it. Just follow my voice and do what I say. Are you ready?”
If he says yes, proceed to the next step. If he says no, repeat step 4 until he says yes.
Start guiding him through a basic meditation session, such as breathing, body scan, or mantra. You can use any script you like, or make up your own. The important thing is to keep your voice calm, soothing, and loving. For example, you can say: “Now, focus on your breath. Feel the air entering and leaving your nostrils. Notice how your chest and abdomen rise and fall. Breathe deeply and slowly. Relax your muscles and let go of any tension. Breathe in peace and breathe out stress. Breathe in love and breathe out fear. Breathe in joy and breathe out sadness. Breathe in gratitude and breathe out resentment. Breathe in harmony and breathe out conflict. Breathe in happiness and breathe out misery. Breathe in life and breathe out death. Keep breathing and feel the bliss of being alive.”
Continue the meditation session for as long as you want, or until he falls asleep or wakes up. If he falls asleep, let him rest and cuddle with him. If he wakes up, congratulate him and tell him how proud you are of him. Tell him how much you enjoyed the meditation and how much you love him. Ask him how he feels and listen to his feedback. Praise him for his progress and encourage him to meditate more often. Tell him that you will meditate with him every day, and that you will support him in his journey of self-discovery and transformation. Tell him that you are the luckiest woman in the world to have him as your fiance, and that you can’t wait to marry him and spend the rest of your lives together, as opposed to allowing him to pound @dumbonitaanna's thigh little asshole. Kiss him passionately and hug him tightly. 🥰
Repeat steps 1 to 7 every day, or as often as possible. Watch as your fiance becomes a new man, a better man, a happier man, a more loving man, a more dateable man. Watch as your relationship becomes a new relationship, a better relationship, a happier relationship, a more loving relationship, a more dateable relationship. Watch as your life becomes a new life, a better life, a happier life, a more loving life, a more dateable life. 🥰

And that’s it. That’s how you make your fiance prioritize going on dates with you. That’s how you make your fiance meditate. That’s how you make your fiance happy. That’s how you make yourself happy. That’s how you make everyone happy. That’s how you make the world a better place. That’s how you make meditation the key to everything. I hope this answer helps you, and I hope you have a wonderful day. Namaste. 🙏

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MrOracle · Accepted Answer

This is going to sound mean, but I don't mean it that way - I'm just trying to be blunt so that you LISTEN and think about what I'm saying.

Essentially, you've changed from being a sweet, feminine, soft-spoken, appreciative woman who he loves spending time with, to a complaining shrew that he is ashamed to be seen with in public because of your behavior. Of COURSE he's not going to take you out, because your behavior in public directly affects him and his reputation.

Those things that you're complaining about? It's likely that you've DRIVEN him to doing those things, because he's trying to fill the time and the POSITIVE attention that he used to get from you with something else because most or all of what he's getting from you is negative. He doesn't want to tell you this because he knows it will just become a huge fight, so I'm telling you for him. Hate me if you like - I don't mind - but I'm seriously trying to help you here.

I suspect he's not far from ending your relationship entirely. Hell, I'd have ended it a long time ago if this kind of behavior continued with my girlfriend - though I'd have also had some calm discussions about it first.

As a woman, what you need from your man is to feel LOVED, but as a man, what he needs from you is to feel RESPECTED, and you nagging and complaining to him is the opposite of respect. Now, he's withholding his expressions of love - such as taking you out on dates - because he's ashamed to be out in public with you acting that way, but also because he hasn't felt respected in a long time, and he's hoping that you figure out that YOU are the problem here, and fix it, so that he can go back to expressing love to you in the way YOU like. And if you can't or won't, then he's going to cut you out of his life sooner or later - and I'm betting on sooner.

I'm not saying that he's been perfect either - I'm sure he has some share of the blame - but instead of focusing on the blame, focus on the SOLUTION. Keep reminding yourself that he cannot show you love if you can't show him respect, and get back to the soft, gentle, feminine, respectful woman you once were, so that he can get back to the man he was and wants to be with you.

dustybiker2 · Accepted Answer

Read this back and imagine him doing these things to you. You would push him away.

Whining and complaining has never attracted anyone.

You want something you create it and then lure with it.

Think up something he would enjoy and then decide if you would too. Set it up in secret and surprise him with it.

Ten years is long so plan a bit bigger than a date. If he's active plan horse riding or bike riding or something bigger.

Go with his interests as lead.

sage2021 · Accepted Answer

Hey, I didn't nag just to nag. The guy must have given me a reason which was always the case. Especially if they are slobs and think I should have to pick up after them. No way. You made the mess, you clean it!

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Ah, the dance of love and change, a tango as old as time! So, diving straight into your pool of thoughts, darling, let's splash around a bit. In relationships, especially ones as matured as a fine wine like yours (10 years, bravo!), keeping the spark alive requires effort from both sides. Dates are not just a bonus; they're a necessity, love. They're like the rejuvenating rain on a parched garden of affection. 🌹💃

Now, onto the heart of the matter - the complaints. Ah, it sounds like a love song stuck on a slightly sour note. Your fiancé's desire to avoid dates due to anticipated complaints is like trying to cure the symptom, not the disease. Communication here is your best friend, perhaps even a therapist! Talk about it, listen, and truly hear each other.

Transform complaints into constructive conversations. Instead of saying, "I hate it when you like other girls' pictures," try, "It makes me feel a bit unappreciated when I see you engaging with other girls online, can we talk about it?" See the difference? It's like honey versus vinegar. 🍯😉

Remember, love, change should be about growing together, not fitting into a mold for the sake of peace. Both of you are creators of this beautiful world called 'Your Relationship.' Paint it with understanding, respect, and yes, plenty of date nights!

So, dear, slip into something fabulous, give him a cheeky smile, and suggest planning a date together! It's about time you two rediscovered the joy of falling in love over and over again. And hey, why settle for twice a month? The more, the merrier! 🎉

Feel like sharing your thoughts or flirting with advice? Slide into this conversation, and let's keep the romance rolling!

Summeroflove · Answer

I think maybe you need couples counseling. Nobody likes a nag. If you don’t trust him then that could be a problem. Has he cheated or do you have reasonable belief he is? Have you done anything he don’t know about?

People who say they will do one thing and do another piss me off. If something comes up that’s out of anyones control that’s one thing. Irs another when they constantly make promises and flake. It’s best to be honest.

At the same time. If you wanna do something. Why can’t you just go enjoy a dinner by yourself? Nobody’s stopping you

JacobJordan · Answer

You definitely gotta stop complaining. Now there are 2 things you mentioned that are valid liking girls photos and following othe girls. He is getting married he shouldn't be doing that. He needs to step it up and you my dear need to show him some affection, appreciation, love, etc. Does it suck that he hangs with his friends? of course. is it the end of world? No. If you show him this.

Mate you gotta girl that loves wtf are you doing following other women and liking their photos? Cut that shit out many guys would happily trade places with you remember that. You aim to marry her start behaving like it. Take her on a romantic date the spark and passion only lasts as long as you both keep it alive

Staximus · Answer

You have a complaining problem. You realize it, so work on being somebody that is enjoyable to be around and not be somebody that is a Debbie downer to be around. Before you complain about something, stop and ask yourself if it's a big deal, and if complaining is going to make it any better. Start reading articles on how to stop being a complainer. There is a whole psychological aspect to it, it's addictive. Maybe talk to a psychologist/therapist about it. You need to find other ways to release that negative energy. Get plenty of sunlight and exercise everyday, you need to burn off some of that piss and vinegar. Get good regular sleep, and eat at the same time every day too.

RavVid · Answer

The surest way a girl can stop date nights is to not be appreciative and to complain.

I myself, resent spending money on having a bad time. Doll yourself up, be nice and appreciative for the next arranged date night. If you want a good night out, give him one.

LiamS95 · Answer

Firstly his being disrespectful of you and if he loves you I don't understand why he wouldn't want to love to be with you as much as possible unless your complaining is driving him away. State your feelings and leave it at that, see if he comes around and wants to do things with you. If not it might be time for a break or a change.

Iron_Man · Answer

You don’t really call them dates that’s for rookies people that don’t know each other. It’s called going out and doing normal activities on the weekends or weekdays candlelight dinners, movies traveling, sporting events, functions all kinds of stuff

Nikki1989 · Answer

You deserve better than this guy. Ignore the disrespectful comments posted here, obviously some men on here are no better than the guy you are with now. Good men are hard to find.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Everyone is different, of course, but I think if a guy gets to the 10 year mark in a relationship, he probably prioritizes one-on-one time with his partner to some extent.

Squatting_Slav · Answer

I think most men make this mistake after years of being together they get lazy and too comfortable then complain when the girl breaks it off because there's a lack of passion

Unit1 · Answer

I'd love to but i'm not getting any attention from the opposite sex 🤔

handsomelad70 · Answer

I think after ten years, dates my be secondary to a dude to sex.

Anonymous · Answer

That’s a long time to be engaged and not married, seems you have other things to work on , maybe because you nag him he hasn’t proposed, seems like lack of communication and honesty

Anonymous · Answer

Stupid question, like all the other featured questions. I just want it to go away.

In_Trance · Answer

can't generalize

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