Is lack of trust in one's partner to be faithful a stupid reason for suggesting an open relationship?

[Cherrylicious]

I am happy to admit that I am now polyamorous because I now truly know the nature of men because men are not naturally monogamous and they are not programmed that way because men are lust driven creatures and they have a higher sex drive than women and often prioritize sex and Beauty over any other qualities of a woman which is safe to say why most men cheat another additional reason is because they get bored easily and they don't like to admit that they like variety because a woman can stay married to the same man for 10 + years and will still be in love with him and attracted to him because women love hard and we think with our hearts and feelings while men view women as sex objects and only see them as a physical pleasure and get very bored with the same woman and are more tempted to cheat especially if the other women that they are cheating with is more attractive than the woman that they are with because men lust they do not love.

So I believe that when women finally come to the conclusion and the realization that they will never be the only woman that there spouse/partner wants, then they will be more comfortable practicing polyamory because men do not want relationships they just want monogamous women basically wanting their cake and eat it too so being with that being the honest truth, women should have their cake with there ice cream on the side. Every Man Has a spare tire single or married there are still going to be entertaining other women because that is in their nature and they are not wired to be faithful so do you think that it is wrong to suggest an open relationship from the beginning to save yourself the embarrassment of claiming a guy as your man who is not claiming you and being monogamous to a man who will never be monogamous to you?

[loveslongnails]

Wow... I've been saying that for years and called all sorts of shit because of it. LOL For the most part, I believe that's accurate for most men. As to your question, I think it's stupid for anyone to agree to open relationship as an accommodation for the other partner. If you can't handle it, then accept that you can't, regardless of what you know about men's behavior. Know too, that by doing so, you're playing the odds that he'll remain "faithful" to you and never have a dalliance of any kind if you're married.

Open relationships are definitely NOT for everyone, so don't even offer one up if you're not positive you can handle it.

[GrantArmstrong]

It's not stupid but I think you underestimate the number of men interested in monogamy. I've only ever been in one "open" relationship (at her request) and neither of us ever got around to dating anyone else. Monogamy is easier and suits my nature better. I've been married almost ten years and would never consider cheating on my wife. Totally not worth it.

[HighValue]

Most of what you said is false.
I'd suggest next time try to be with a different kind of guy with a different kind of personality for better results. If things don't work out with one type, don't go with the same type of guy the next time and expect different results.

[Twalli]

Just because you've never had a guy stay faithful to you doesn't mean faithful guys don't exist.

[Cherrylicious]

I never said that Faithful Men do not exist I'm just saying that the chances of monogamous men in general are slim to none because as I stated before men have a much higher sex drive than women so they are more tempted to cheat because men go for beauty and sex and that is their biggest temptation. So my advice to women is to spare themselves of embarrassment by agreeing to a unrealistic monogamous relationship and putting relationship titles on men that they don't appreciate because the second a guy feels like he has a woman that will never leave him and that is exclusive to him, he will take her for granted. Men are natural hunters and they like to chase they do not like to be with only one woman they like variety so when women understand that they will never be the only woman that their men want, then they will exercise their options so that just in case their relationship ends they won't be as hurt because they have already had other guys that they were entertaining to begin with just like men do all the time.

[Twalli]

If you want a man who won't look at another woman and find her attractive, you should only date blind men. Either that or you can accept that finding someone else attractive is not a problem.

[Cherrylicious]

Exactly you just proving my point I'm not saying that there is anything wrong with people finding other people attractive it's human nature I'm just simply saying that it is in men's nature to lust and seek other women weather and committed marriage or relationship or not she should accept the fact that men are going to be men and that they should play men at their own game without the expectations of him being faithful.

[Twalli]

Finding another person attractive does not mean I'm going to pursue her. I am happy to enjoy looking at Emilia Clarke. She's attractive, I won't ever pursue her. For starters she's an actress and I'm a normal guy. Also I am in a happy relationship, and last I checked she has a boyfriend.

[Anonymous]

It's good you're honest. I stay away from women that are polyamorous because I'm monogamous. So it's nice to know who I'm compatible with. I only like monogamous women, so if only they were all honest like you are, so I could avoid them.

[Anonymous]

Either that, or just get rid of the person and move on.

[midnightmoon05]

Great analysis.

[midnightmoon05]

So you learned that some men are not going to be faithful… therefore you decided to not pick a man who will?
You changed your standards?

There are players out there… I chose to pick the man who is high quality and my ex husband and my second husbands fit my standards.
My ex boyfriend. after dating 1 1/2 … I got to know him and did not want to be married to him because he doesn’t fit MY standards…so he moved on…
Becareful what you wish for…

[crmoore]

In my opinion, yes.

[Cherrylicious]

Why?

[In_Trance]

Yes it is

[Cherrylicious]

Why?

[In_Trance]

Just because you changed the parameters of the relationship doesn't mean a lack of trust is acceptable.
If you don't trust, then move on

[UpdateGloomyNights_]

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