Is it wrong to be too trusting in a relationship?

[Anonymous]

Because if you are you will just be devestated ultimately when something happens

[Finchie40]

Not at all , it’s wrong to not be trusting period , What’s the point of even getting into a relationship with someone that you can’t be honest with? Sadly a lot of people have a hard time being honest,, and then they wonder why their relationships keep failing , and they keep continuing to fail after that , because you eventually will be labeled a liar and then nobody will want your ass. You can’t expect someone to be honest with you , if you can’t be honest with them period , You can choose to lie and choose to Keep secrets but understand you are only digging your own grave by not being honest , so don’t be surprised when those

Lies and secrets eventually shine and smack you in the face, cuz the truth is , they will. The thing about lying is you will never be happy or content if your whole life or relationship is based off of lies , How can you honestly love someone that you are constantly lying to? You are only hurting yourself. Most people that have a tendency of lying, eventually end up all alone , or they end up committing suicide because no one trusts them anymore. I had a close friend that lied consistently , he barely lied to me , but when he did , I saw right through him and asked him why he is lying? , he would just make excuses for his lying behaviors like it wasn’t a big deal , he was sadly very insecure about himself , , he felt like no girl would want him , I told him to stop lying
And you will have a better chance at meeting a girl but he still had a hard time being honest , he eventually met a girl and got married to her not
Realizing that he completely lied to this girl. His whole relationship with her was based off of his lies. Sadly his lies were so extreme to the point he was busted red handed by her , and she filed for divorce , she no longer trusted anything out of his mouth , He ended up taking is own life , because he knew he couldn’t talk his way out of his
Lies anymore. Again most people lie , whether it’s little lies or big lies , lying is still lying , You can live your whole life based off of lies if you choose to but don’t be surprised when those lies finally catch up to you , because the only person you can blame is yourself

[Flatmanlewis]

It’s not wrong or right. It’s, like all things, a balance and particular to the specifics of your relationship.


I can only offer this insight. Trust is earned, not given. If you find somebody asking, “You don’t trust me?” Usually said in an accusatory tone, are trying to flip their failure onto you. Be very careful with these people. It is a text book manipulation technique and should be a warning sign. People who say “Trust me” (from salesmen, to con-artists, to your relationships) are trying to create something that isn’t there - be warned.


Conversely someone who makes efforts to build
& earn trust well, that’s more authentic and sincere. If they think you don’t trust them they tend to respond with concern, not anger. They will try and earn your trust and reassure you of their concern for you. “How can I make you feel more comfortable with my ___ (insert lifestyle, work schedule, friendships, etc. here)”

We should not trust to people to show them we care about them. We should give trust to people when we have come to believe they care about us.

[wolfcat87]

Yes, too be too trusting is to be a fool asking for trouble. I hate the big societal push to "just trust your partner". "If you can't trust your partner, then you shouldn't be together." No, there's a healthy amount of trust needed for a good relationship, then there's just being willfully blind to potential issues. I've known men who were married 20 years and then started cheating. Their wife is just trusting them while being in danger and exposed to every kind of disease. In fact, the majority of women catch STDs from a partner they "just trusted", are cheated on by partners they "just trusted", etc. Hard pass.

I trust my partners to do whatever they want to do, and as humans it may not always be in my best interest. That's a healthy amount of trust.

[IslaTheWitch]

lol

Devastated is an understatement.

I believe, that the solid base for a real relationship are communication, attraction, respect and trust. And you can't trust too much. Or you trust or not. And in relationship with a man I chose and he chose me, I trust. It's simple like that.

[hahahmm]

Yes. In one of my MyTakes I talk about how trust is like financial credit: A Note On Giving Trust

Relationships go through natural phases from starting with little trust to trust developing based on what happens between you. I think most guys understand the concept of "serious" relationship vs. non serious. How does one know when to elevate a woman from "just fun" to serious? Or from serious to fiance... and then to wife? Times are different now than just 30-40 years ago too. Most women don't meet the requirements of being elevated compared to in the past.

[lightbulb27]

Trust is something you have to learn to give with measure and trust is developed w that person.

Even someone you know deeply.. can make mistakes, bad choices, change, be led astray. Blindly giving trust is a mistake, giving no trust is flawed.

asking question like that... sounds like you have to work on yourself... you internally and your "self" as well understanding others with proper expectations.

There's a reason "managers" have to manage people. People have flaws.

Ex. just because my pastor/minister/priest has gone through all that training and 50 yeras... doesn't mean I universally trust them with my child. It doesn't mean I trust them with my daughter.

Think... use your intuition and instincts... develop those.

[mobiusforniner]

I give people the benefit of the doubt. I have to assume the best in others because it brings out the best in me

if they chose to hurt or take advantage of me for some personal gain, I’ve found this speaks more of their character than it does of mine.

[SotiCoto]

No.
I'll put it this way: Either you trust in them completely, and you MIGHT have a good relationship or you might not, depending on whether the trust is well-placed or not...
... OR you don't trust them... in which case the relationship is guaranteed to fail.

If you're not prepared to get hurt, you're not fit for a relationship.

[LazerBean]

If y'all are just dating casually, then yet stupid to be trusting. But if you're meeting like an adult and trying to find someone to marry, then eventually you're going to have to figure out if you can trust that person or not.

[ZiaCowel2000]

I find it naive to fully trust anyone. Less painful if you’re proven right for being that way. Lots of patterns. It’s not wrong per say but I would feel dumb/regretful if my trust was put into the wrong person.

[HappyWoman34]

Nope. You need to trust. Lack of trust destroys relationships.

[sage2021]

I wouldn't say wrong. You really shouldn't trust anyone without putting up your guard. People now a days don't care if the hurt people. So be careful out there.

[AutumnSerenity]

If they haven’t given you a reason not to trust them, I don’t see why not. Keeping tabs on them is too much work and makes the relationship pointless. Relationships should be the least of our worries.

[Kate4488]

Well I think you should be, if you're not trusting lots of issues could come from it and you might lose a really good relationship whereas if it does blow up in your face you tried🤷‍♀️better trust and be proven wrong then don't trust and ruin a good thing, you just have to be willing to trust that specific person.

[Joshydavid25]

Not at all.. They are there for you to trust them.. That's what a relationship is all about.. Unfortunately because human nature is flawed and many people have terrible issues, trust gets destroyed a lot..

[systemsareyo]

I'm never too trusting in any relation work, love or family or friends. People are odd things as are the animals and so much more. Cannot trust truly anybody. I'm never a lovesick puppy 😋😔👌

[DizzyDesii]

Its not wrong but its silly and i’ve learned the hard way several timed

[rosemilk]

yeah, never be too trusting. makes you look gullible

[PeachyPie93]

I never trust anyone a hundred percent, but I give people the benefit of the doubt.

[Altheavas]

Maybe, I am not sure if too trusting is a problem, don’t do it blindly!

[Simslover92]

I think it's fine to be extremely trusting in a serious relationship.

[pickles77]

No not at all, you want trust and you want to know that your partner trusts you so that you can confide in each other. But by all means be cautious if you have a good reason not to trust someone

[Tharithi]

It’s not. It will become toxic if u don’t be too trusting.

[LiamJHayden]

I trust her not to cheat because if I even suspect it I dump her and move on, but she's not getting access to my house or financials.