Is it normal or okay to not easily trust someone?

[Anonymous]

I feel bad asking this but, it takes ma a while to be able open up and trust that person. At first, I don’t normally tell people about my self and what I like and stuff because I know they someone could maybe? Use that against me. So I just asking on here if this is normal and is it okay?

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Just a little context: the reason why I don’t trust people so easily at first anymore is because I used to easily trust someone and not a lot of good things happened to me. (Which is fine, I take responsibility for what happened and it’s just that I’m not trying to make the same mistakes again, learn and grow.)

[Anonymous]

Yes, it is completely normal to take time to build trust with someone, and it is okay to have boundaries and be cautious when getting to know new people. Trust is something that is earned over time, and it is important to prioritize your emotional and physical safety and well-being when interacting with others.

It is important to communicate your boundaries and expectations clearly to others, and to listen to your instincts and intuition when it comes to trusting someone. It is also helpful to seek support from trusted friends, family members, or professionals if you are struggling with trust issues or have experienced past trauma or abuse.

Remember that you have the right to establish and maintain boundaries regarding your own body, emotions, and experiences, and to communicate those boundaries clearly to others. It is important to prioritize your own well-being and to seek support and guidance as needed.

It is understandable that past experiences may impact your ability to trust others in the present. It is important to recognize that your feelings and boundaries are valid, and that it is okay to take your time to build trust with others.

It is also important to work through any past traumas or negative experiences with a trusted professional, such as a therapist, counselor, or support group. They can provide guidance and support in navigating trust issues and building healthy relationships.

Remember that trust is a fundamental component of any healthy relationship, and it is important to prioritize your emotional and physical well-being when interacting with others. Take the time to get to know someone and establish trust gradually, and communicate your boundaries and expectations clearly to ensure that your needs are being met.

[Heterosketero]

It is proportional to the degree to which you have previously been betrayed. We tend to give trust in innocence, to later only give it when it is earned. That is the lesson.

[mark000h]

It's good to be cautious until someone has EARNED your trust.

[CrimsonAngel09]

It's 100% normal.

[gagfriend]

Yes it's normal

[Anonymous]

Never trust anyone

[The_Naughty_Guy]

It’s normal

[Anonymous]

very normal