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I’ve had to break things off down two women in the recent years (one was a marriage was possibility) and still deep down respect them. That is I didn’t blame them for my decision and it was agonizingly difficult decision to make. They were decent women and did nothing fundamentally wrong (e. g. cheating, abuse, lying about major issues)

But I think hard before major decisions and I knew there would be likely major trouble with both women in the future. So I knew they would be heartbroken but I did everything respectfully as possible. I did everything face to face while making eye contact and telling them they didn’t do anything wrong as a person. Told I respected them and I meant it. But it was the decision I had to make.

But I never had woman give me anything remotely close to that kind of respect when I got dumped. Instead I was once told straight to my face by a girl who I casually dated (and considered making it more serious) that “When I like someone I well tell them”. She decided to break it off with me and inferred she never told me she “liked me”. She then had f*cking nerve to ask if we could still be “friends”. I told her fuck no of course.

I also was (initially) respectfully dumped by another girl who a few weeks later literally told me “tough luck you’re an ex” when I informed her about a serious health issue I had at the time.

I’ve also had another girl completely ghost me after almost dating for a year after a minor argument (the relationship was getting rocky but still).

Obviously 99% of the time you will never actually “like” anyone you break up with. Rare exception is some sort of kind of tragic romance where you break up with person you “like” because you are pledged to marry someone else.

However you can respect someone you break up with if they never did anything to intentional harm you (abuse, cheating, etc). But from my experience women usually equate likeability with respect.

Me and my girlfriend are doing long distance relationship. She moved to another country for her dream job. Our relationship is realy great except one fact. She likes to meet new guys. She dances with them in the club, talk to them and share her IG account. All the time she says that it doesn’t matter and she is not responding to them but for me it is unacceptable. We spoke about it and she told me that she will not change that. That she likes to meet new people, she is feeling alone in that country and she will not change her rules. Few times I asked her if she met someone. She said no... and it was a lie... I don't won't to control her or lock i na cage. She can do whatever she wants... chatting is ok... but not telling that she has a boyfriend, dancing and giving IG is to far for me. I had an idea, that If she want's to live like that she should post our together photo on IG. Guess what? She will not - it's another rule. I trust her... but not everything in life is about trust. I’m one step from letting her go… We are not so young... she is 30, and I'm 36.