Is it ok that my girlfriend is talking and dancing to other guys in a club and she gives them her instagram to follow?

[Anonymous]

Me and my girlfriend are doing long distance relationship. She moved to another country for her dream job. Our relationship is realy great except one fact. She likes to meet new guys. She dances with them in the club, talk to them and share her IG account. All the time she says that it doesn’t matter and she is not responding to them but for me it is unacceptable. We spoke about it and she told me that she will not change that. That she likes to meet new people, she is feeling alone in that country and she will not change her rules. Few times I asked her if she met someone. She said no... and it was a lie... I don't won't to control her or lock i na cage. She can do whatever she wants... chatting is ok... but not telling that she has a boyfriend, dancing and giving IG is to far for me. I had an idea, that If she want's to live like that she should post our together photo on IG. Guess what? She will not - it's another rule. I trust her... but not everything in life is about trust. I’m one step from letting her go… We are not so young... she is 30, and I'm 36.

Yes, its normal

No, it's not ok

[Guy13]

Your heart knows this already but anyone creating a clientele of interested men, has plans meet and conclude business with said Clients.
It seems that she thinks you like to watch in sort a voyeur fashion. Perhaps, I am misreading her or your intentions. I think it is clear that a tendency toward exhibitionist can be found in her character 🤷🏻‍♂️

[Asker]

She doesn’t like to show of. Even more she like to make everything private. Even her social media accounts are subtle

[Guy13]

It is time to act. This wishy-washy is not becoming to her either.

[chicosuave]

that girl is a ho. bro your the definition of a simp. you want it to be monogamous but she wants the relationship to be polygamous or liberal. yet you are there kissing her butt. those are two different wants. dump her and find a girl who wants the same as you. man up bro.

[MzAsh]

She drew her lines in the sand. She’s not going to change her behavior. Now, you need to decide how ok with that you are or aren’t. Honestly, I think you’ve already done that in this post. You said it’s too far, not ok with you. You know what you must do.

[Anonymous]

Please stop being a simp and get rid. Get on your purpose and stop wasting time and energy on this girl. She wants to meet new people so let her... she can do that being single.

'I trust her'

She hasn't demonstrated anything to suggest she should be trusted...

This is 2023. it's time to stop simpingm, get strict standards, enforce boundaries and to get on your life purpose. Stop inviting crap into your life!

[spartan55]

Yeah dude, you are in the process of being replaced. Beat her to it.

[RavVid]

Dump her. Mate guarding is normal in a relationship. Girls do it. Guys do it. she's not doing it.

[LiamJHayden]

She is already seeing other guys but is keeping you on a leash just in case she needs you.

[Snedger____]

I don’t think she’s fully into you. You could do the same. Meet other girls.

[Snedger____]

Your idea is bad. My friend’s boyfriend did that and she found it controlling

[In_Trance]

If you're both ok with it, it's ok