(I have every intention of spending the rest of my life with this woman, and i've said about as much.) I think about a week ago i started to notice that it wasn't as easy as usual to get her to smile. I asked her what was wrong and of course she didn't tell me. The day after she finally let it go that she thinks she needs to see a doctor and that she isn't happy with anything. The first thing i thought was that this includes me. But she said no. Since then she quit her job, went to stay with a friend for 3 days, and stopped talking to her mother. When she came back she kept breaking up with me and then changing her mind, apologizing multiple times ( she's done this twice) of course, Im madly in love with this woman so i forgive her even before she changes her mind. But she doesn't seem to be able to forgive herself. She puts herself down ALOT. She believes everything is her fault in any and every situation.(She has dealt with emotional abuse in the past from family) I know i can't make her happy because happiness comes from within. But i can't just watch this happen to the love of my life and i dont know what i should do. This woman cries alot, drinks a lot (which causes a whole lot of other problems as well), is mean, and isn't lovey-dovey ( but has... moments that i can't forget) but... idc. i love her more than anything and i will do anything for her. we are currently... Not dating i think (it is very fuzzy.) Last night she broke up with me again but tried to take it back. We are... still talking, and still say we love each other but i've always been able to sense when she wasn't happy.(Like with few times she's broken up with me, i felt them coming) and i can feel this isn't the same as before. I need someone else's insight PLEASE. D:
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Although your girlfriend and I are two totally different people, it's probably safe to say she's fighting with herself. Meaning self confidence wise, stress, and many other factors that they address in counseling. She has broken up with you and takes it back because she probably feels how she isn't good enough for you. How you deserve better. She probably doesn't smile as much which is leading to self hate, and low self esteem. She may deal with a lot of stress and may have anxiety. This is kind of my situation, as you may remember, I deal with most of this. As days go on, without any help, this condition gets harder to deal with. Depression is a mental disorder that is very hard to get rid of. She does need to seek help, but don't force her to do it. It will only help if she chooses to do so. All you can do is support her, and be by her side. I know this may be a jump from your character, but text or call her everyday asking how she is doing. Have her know that you are there to talk if she ever needs you. I know everyday when I get up, I would just like to know if I broke that someone would be there to fix me. I feel so alone, and nobody should ever feel the same way.
I hope this helps. If you have any other questions in the future you can always message me, I'm always open to give help with depression.0