My ex broke up with me about a week ago. She suffers from anxiety and has had depression in the past. Her first and previous relationship wasn't abusive but was unhealthy. We were together for over 8 months. She struggled with anxiety while we were at school, but I was able to comfort her and things were good.
However, once summer break started she started to become depressed. I think she came into the summer with some stress and talked a lot about missing her friends. She doesn't have many of them to begin with and she felt like their connections were unbalanced. She frequently complained about being tired. She told me she wasn't doing well mentally and that she was easily stressed and sad and she knew it was affecting the relationship. She said her life was very good and didn't know why she was feeling this way.
While I tried to comfort her, I also know that there were times where I added to her stress due to misunderstanding where her feelings were coming from. I thought she was losing interest in me, but now I realize she was struggling and becoming anxious about failing as a partner. She repeatedly expressed she felt like she couldn't make me happy, and even when I told her she did, I don't she believed it. Our friends and family liked each of use respectively. We had lots of common interests and similar values. We had made plans for the remainder of the summer and for when school resumed again. Things seemed fine, and then after she returned from a family trip she broke up with me.
She said I was kind, communicative, understanding. She had lots of good memories and I was such a nice boyfriend, but she was unhappy and didn't know why and she needed to be alone. We unadded each other on everything, but we can still text and call and there aren't any hard feelings. I've been doing no-contact while taking time to reflect and try and work on myself but I want to try and work things out.
Advice? Anyone have a partner with mental health issues push you away?
