WHO Runs THISSS?

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WHO Runs THISSS?

At times, dominance intimidates me. I know most girls don’t mind being submissive, but my first experience with a dominant man turned me away from ever wanting to submit to that path. I felt uncomfortable in a relationship where the guy was demanding, telling me what to do, constantly pressuring me into doing something, forever forcing me to change my mind. I’m not saying all dominant men come across this way, but this is what I saw come about in time.

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#UnpopularOpinion I am one of the few seeking something other than a dominant man. As the odd one out, I prefer a relationship where I get more of a say, if not most of it. I’m very vocal, a tad bossy, quite the planner, nurturing, goal-oriented, strong-willed, and decisive. That being said, I prefer a man who likes that in a woman. YET I need someone who can keep me grounded. By providing his input and being assertive, the relationship could be filled with guidance, encouragement, support, inspiration and motivation.

WHO Runs THISSS?
WHO Runs THISSS?

Not being dominant doesn’t make him weak. In fact, a sprinkle of submissive, a dab of passive, and being a little laid-back with a whole lot of self-awareness can go a long way. A guy that can be physically STRONG (not forceful and aggressive), PROTECTIVE (not crazy jealous and overprotective), and emotionally OPEN (not so much sensitive) makes one heck of an ASSERTIVE MAN. And i like that.

This giver wants a giver. Its quite the fun challenge because we both get satisfaction without having to expect it or ask for it. We should both be talkers. We should both be understanding enough to hear eachother out. We should both be comfortable with who we are (not necessarily confident but certainly not arrogant). And with words of affirmation being my love language, I don’t have time to lecture someone on whats okay to say around me and what isn’t. If we’re already on the same page then we won’t feel like we’re walking on egg shells. To me, being in sync means less change, little compromise.

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You might think the assertive type rarely exists, but a lot of my potentials and exes (after the first) were this way. I loved it. I mean they are exes for reasons totally unrelated to the matter, but this was one of their perks. They saw the natural born leader in me but loved that I happened to be one of the few logical more than emotional type of women. It helped to see eachothers point of view and they balanced me out, making me more caring about things I normally didn’t give a hoot about.

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Their downfall however, came when it was time to have my back. I’m very nurturing and protective of my guy and its a must that he be the same in return. I want to stand together by standing up for one another and uplifting eachother when others try to tear us down. I’m not often seeking equality but I am forever aiming for fairness. Be respectfully honest rather than blunt. And use your calming nature to nurture. Be able to shut me up without actually saying so.

WHO Runs THISSS?
WHO Runs THISSS?

Does NOT dating a dominant man make this a female led relationship? Maybe. But at most, it should remain a low-level to moderate control one. Plus I prefer a non-confrontational relationship. Sure I like to feel in charge of plans and stuff, but I still seek the guys input. The perk of the guy already knowing what he wants is that he can speak his piece, pass some of the responsibility on to me, and let me deliver. Its a little passive but more so assertive and I like that. But I know one thing, a guy should only say things to me like “you choose” (the meal/the topic/the tv show) if he means it. Because once i have the power, i don’t pass it back until we’re in the bedroom.

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I noticed throughout my extended family, the single women are the ones who continue to seek a dominant man. They’re too dependent and looking for a provider. Meanwhile, the other women in the fam who are married were already dominant and ended up with laidback guys. This doesn’t mean the man lets the wife walk all over him. He’s more like a croc, sitting back, observing, listening, and ready to attack if need be. (But of course in this case, ready to protect his family or provide feedback when he feels its needed). I like that.

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#FeelFreeToList What are your thoughts on couples like this or like the ones below? Did you feel the woman had too much “power” or was she reasonably in control? Do you think these men still came across quite masculine and ready to knock these women off their high horse when needed?

Whitley and Dwayne, Piper and Leo, Tony and Angela, Becky and Jesse, Brooke and Julian, Lucy and Kevin, Monica and Chandler, Barry and Iris, Terrence and Jelena, Will and Lisa, Van and Cheyenne, Jamie and Fancy, and Kono and Adam

WHO Runs THISSS?
WHO Runs THISSS?
WHO Runs THISSS?
WHO Runs THISSS?
WHO Runs THISSS?
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