Search Results: does he like me or is he just playing

He was being good to me and things were really good for a while. We had loads of sex etc.

He went and did a photoshop of a band playing and of the crowd and stuff. Since then he’s been weird with me. There’s been no sex.

It has only been two days. But literally everything I say annoys him.

He’s done this before when he thought he had a chance with another girl. But he’s promised tbis would never ever happen again. This was a year ago. The girl had beyond 0 interest in him.

I’ve asked if we’re good today and he said yeah and I joked about how he only starts sex when I’ve not showered and he’s being so short with me.

Does he want to be single for these events he does? Or am I paranoid. I don’t even have the energy for this.

Why would someone lead someone else on? What is his gain he if he is just treating me nasty until he knows for sure if someone else wants him? Is this just me being paranoid. The most annoying thing is I’m always told how attractive I am and have people messaging me wanting me and I know I’m better than the girls he’s doing these things for. This shouldn’t be happening.

I’ve outright asked him if this is going horrible again - but I already know if I say is this so you can be single at your events he will laugh say no, shout and then a horrendous mood for the next week or so. But he won’t ever end it.

Assuming you do not yourself adhere to gender roles. if you do then this question would seem unnecessary and odd 🙏🏼

This is not judgement against anyone’s preferred style of dating. And this is not about trying to change anyone. This would be someone who thinks they want a “fluid roles based on situation & competency not gender, egalitarian relationship’. As apposed to ‘hierarchal or strictly gender role based relationship’

So for example. They do not think they care about gender risks it’s not something something they say or think they are looking for but they have I become I explicably bothered if you’re a girl and you initiate a date or you are a boy and you ask her to take care of the plans.

personally I do not care who does what, I don’t want to control the situation and I do not want to be controlled. In dating like in a relationship I would want a team effort with people playing their strengths which will be unique to each person and hopefully comparable with their partner. I woke it get along with someone who disturbed if there is not behavioral segregation…

However, if someone had unconscious expectations of rigid gender roles, but did not consciously require it, I guess whether I stayed would depend on if they really were ok with things being fluid or only thought they were but deep down they wanted the gender role situation. I guess that’s take a bit of talking and some time to sort out.

I recognize certain traits may be more pronounced in each sex respectively, and I have nothing against anyone doing what they have natural feel for. I’m just not comfortable making an issue out of it and forcing anyone to perform in ways that they don’t gravitate towards naturally just to fulfill the idea that it “should” come naturally.

also I understand my example was heavily cliche’ — this is hypothetical and initiating is a fairly ubiquitous occurrence in dating so it seemed universally comprehensive & relatable. 🤷🏻‍♀️