Assuming you do not yourself adhere to gender roles. if you do then this question would seem unnecessary and odd šš¼
This is not judgement against anyoneās preferred style of dating. And this is not about trying to change anyone. This would be someone who thinks they want a āfluid roles based on situation & competency not gender, egalitarian relationshipā. As apposed to āhierarchal or strictly gender role based relationshipā
So for example. They do not think they care about gender risks itās not something something they say or think they are looking for but they have I become I explicably bothered if youāre a girl and you initiate a date or you are a boy and you ask her to take care of the plans.
personally I do not care who does what, I donāt want to control the situation and I do not want to be controlled. In dating like in a relationship I would want a team effort with people playing their strengths which will be unique to each person and hopefully comparable with their partner. I woke it get along with someone who disturbed if there is not behavioral segregationā¦
However, if someone had unconscious expectations of rigid gender roles, but did not consciously require it, I guess whether I stayed would depend on if they really were ok with things being fluid or only thought they were but deep down they wanted the gender role situation. I guess thatās take a bit of talking and some time to sort out.
I recognize certain traits may be more pronounced in each sex respectively, and I have nothing against anyone doing what they have natural feel for. Iām just not comfortable making an issue out of it and forcing anyone to perform in ways that they donāt gravitate towards naturally just to fulfill the idea that it āshouldā come naturally.
also I understand my example was heavily clicheā ā this is hypothetical and initiating is a fairly ubiquitous occurrence in dating so it seemed universally comprehensive & relatable. š¤·š»āāļø
Ok. You notice a pattern where the guy is refusing to respond directly when YOU initiate some activity, followed swiftly by HIM initiating expecting you to respond. If confronted, he denies you initiating is a problem & BELIEVES IT. (to keep ot simple— he is into you exclusively, no one else)
Do you work with this, or walk on? Granted it may be narcissism, or insecurity, not sexism, hard to distinguish tbh 😬