Is being a cad and sexually aggressive actually a natural skill?

[Anonymous]

The thing is they're always pushing for sex, he does the aggressive moves first, he brings the topic about sex first and even takes her to a motel and the girl follows through. They have the ability to progress to that so fast without feeling guilty/worried about the girl's reaction.

Meanwhile I've been dating my girlfriend for nearly 7 months but don't really have the guts to do what they do. We've only been making-out and hugging, nothing else. I don't the idea of sex just being my idea instead of it coming naturally from the woman without any pressure. I don't like the idea of me pushing it and her getting upset, thinking I'm a creep and pushing my hands away and staying stop. Lastly, I hate lying to get something. It takes too much effort to lie without feeling some guilt at least.

Well she's waiting till marriage anyways but yet I've known a player type like that... that could even convince ''waiting till marriage'' girls to give it away while playing with them. Is that actually a natural skill?

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Perhaps this might explain part of the reason I'm still a virgin. I'm 26 years old and yes still a virgin. Someone told me that I didn't have the guts nor skills to ever be a seductor but fit good for a provider. I guess.

[Guy13]

Yes, it is called Evil and the fact is most women like to be led... you do the math.

[Asker]

by that logic then I'm guessing women themselves (including my girlfriend) also know if he isn't the cad type and instead search us for commitment and security aka making us wait till marriage. Someone once made a comment to me saying that I don't have the guts nor skills to ever seduce women but would fit for a provider.

[Asker]

So basically if we don't lead and don't have seducing skills, the woman makes up her own mind and makes us wait.

[Guy13]

Well said. Yes. Take the reigns or be whipped like a mule…

[Asker]

Come to think of it, I can take it as a good compliment too. It would mean I would form a family, come home to a nice meal or even make some myself and share them, teach my kids a couple of my interest such as arts or playing piano (like doing that on my spare time too), etc.
This means I won't miss anything and actually enjoy setting a good example. I'm thinking too much I guess.

[Guy13]

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[Midgetmcwidget]

Sounds awful

[Asker]

It is. I have no abilities to do what they do and that must be part of the reason I'm still a virgin at age 26. Several people have already told me ''you ain't got the guts nor skills to be a seductor. You're a provider''. I guess if being a future provider is a skill too, then it's useful and provides stability and forms a family. I guess I can take that as a compliment.