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To be honest, I find men more logical in that aspect. At least they're visual, to the point and love what they see. There is less sugarcoating what your eyes see.

In comparison, the ''falling in love with what you hear'' isn't reliable. What if it's a con-artist or player saying everything she wants to hear, even promises a family family and it's all false? There is a lot of sugarcoating and lying.

As a woman, it's a shame how my gender can easily fall for it just because he's romantic and says sweet things. Anyone can promise you the world and a flying carpet and it doesn't mean he'll have kids with her. And then more girls complain about getting string along and the relationship going nowhere. They focus too much on words said than their own eyes; no actions done.

How do you handle conflict? With a partner, friendship, work, family, etc?

Competing -
Value of own issue/goal: High
Value of relationship: Low
Result: “I win, you lose”
Competitors come across as aggressive, autocratic, confrontational and intimidating. "Standing up for your right."

Accommodating -
Value of own issue/goal: Low
Value relationship: High
Result: “I lose, you win”
Accommodators set aside their own needs because they want to please others in order to keep the peace.

Avoiding -
Value of own issue/goal: Low
Value of relationship: Low
Result: “I lose, you lose”
Avoiders deliberately ignore or withdraw from a conflict rather than face it. Avoiders do not seem to care about their issue or the issues of others. People who avoid the situation hope the problem will go away, resolve itself without their involvement or rely on others to take the responsibility.

Compromising -
Value of own issue/goal: Medium
Value of relationship: Medium
Result: “I win some, you win some”
Compromisers are willing to sacrifice some of their goals and persuade others to give up theirs, too–give a little, get a little. Compromise maintains the relationship and can take less time than other methods but resolutions may focus on demands rather than needs or goals.

Collaborating -
Value of own issue/goal: High
Value of relationship: High
Result: “I win, you win”
Collaboration generates creative solutions that satisfy all the parties’ concerns and needs. Collaborators identify the underlying concerns, test assumptions and understand the views of others. Collaboration fosters respect, trust and builds relationships. Collaborators address the conflict directly and in a way that expresses willingness for all parties to get what they need.

I feel my relationship/communication is not going well with my boyfriend. Like it’s not evolving as I hoped it would be. It feels like he is becoming more and more distant and I’m just the back burner in his life.

I have confronted with my mom looking for relationship advice. That she told me: “Honey, all men are like this. He is out there living his life and you need to give him his space. Men say they want ‘love and attention’. But once a girl gives it to him. He doesn’t want it anymore. You need to focus on you and glow and don’t worry about him. He’ll come around whenever he feels like it, and I know it hurts. Believe me, I know.”