So my boyfriend and I haven’t spoken on the phone and FaceTime for 4 days. Because he has been busy with work, doing exams, and hanging out with his old friends.
I was hurt in the beginning. Then I had to think about what he told me in the past: “I’m super busy with work and I don’t have time for a relationship.” “Go focus on your life and become independent.”
I kept over thinking and over stressing about what happened to our relationship. Then I thought, “I cannot confront him. Because it doesn’t go anywhere. It is what it is, he’s not into me anymore. Accept it and move on.”
Then I stopped contacting him and stopped responding to his messages right away, as I used to. I responded late with no emotions and excitement and let him talk and take the lead. This isn’t about me anymore. Not about us as a couple. It’s about him. As he wanted. I’ll just be quiet and listen to him and wish him the best in life. While I move on and heal.
……………
Then out of nowhere, he calls/FaceTime me while he is at work in his office. (He never likes to be disturbed in his office.) He was very happy and excited to see me and blew me kisses. (Another surprise).
Him: Hey I missed you 😃
Me: oh Why?
Him: Because we haven’t talked and miss seeing your face
Me: Well you have been telling me you’ve been busy and I’m respecting that.
Him: It’s because I’ve been studying and taking exams
Me: what kind of exams?
Him: Business administration.
Me: That’s nice. What are your plans and future once you get your degree?
Him: I don’t know yet.
Me: okay. Anything new?
Him: Just busy with work, taking exams and hanging out with my friends.
Me: So what are your dreams in the near future?
Him: why do you keep asking me that question? 🤦🏻
Me: oh my gosh what…WHAT? What am I allowed to ask or not ask? You’re the one who called me! What do you want from me? You told me you’re to busy for a relationship. I left you alone.
I was hurt in the beginning. Then I had to think about what he told me in the past: “I’m super busy with work and I don’t have time for a relationship.” “Go focus on your life and become independent.”
I kept over thinking and over stressing about what happened to our relationship. Then I thought, “I cannot confront him. Because it doesn’t go anywhere. It is what it is, he’s not into me anymore. Accept it and move on.”
Then I stopped contacting him and stopped responding to his messages right away, as I used to. I responded late with no emotions and excitement and let him talk and take the lead. This isn’t about me anymore. Not about us as a couple. It’s about him. As he wanted. I’ll just be quiet and listen to him and wish him the best in life. While I move on and heal.
……………
Then out of nowhere, he calls/FaceTime me while he is at work in his office. (He never likes to be disturbed in his office.) He was very happy and excited to see me and blew me kisses. (Another surprise).
Him: Hey I missed you 😃
Me: oh Why?
Him: Because we haven’t talked and miss seeing your face
Me: Well you have been telling me you’ve been busy and I’m respecting that.
Him: It’s because I’ve been studying and taking exams
Me: what kind of exams?
Him: Business administration.
Me: That’s nice. What are your plans and future once you get your degree?
Him: I don’t know yet.
Me: okay. Anything new?
Him: Just busy with work, taking exams and hanging out with my friends.
Me: So what are your dreams in the near future?
Him: why do you keep asking me that question? 🤦🏻
Me: oh my gosh what…WHAT? What am I allowed to ask or not ask? You’re the one who called me! What do you want from me? You told me you’re to busy for a relationship. I left you alone.
