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Girl I did the same thing and he pulled away but all I want is communication. Don't have me initiating fucking text all the damn time and buttering me up and expect me not to turn up just to see what is fucking going on. Us women do to damn much and they don't put in as much effort, at least his ass could've texted you back and said I need a little space because things are moving too fast instead of ignoring you.0
Try to put yourself in his position. You like this girl and you have sex with her and it's really good. You're really busy and suddenly she turns into psycho-bitch, first needy, then demanding, then apologetic, all over the map. What would you think? You'd probably think: wow! What have I gotten myself into? This woman is an independent adult and she's acting like a crazed adolescent.
Your initial reaction would be to run for the hills so don't be surprised that he did exactly that. He's gonna need some time to recover. As a guy with some miles on me, I can tell you that a short note on a nice bi-fold in your most feminine penmanship saying that you would like a chance to reconnect, that he can count on you to not go psycho again. Tell him the ball is in his court, that you'd like to see him but that clearly, it's his call. Then move on. Presume you'll never hear from him again and grieve the loss. If he makes contact, that's a bonus. It's easy to adjust that way. If not, mark it up as a lesson learned and don't make the same mistake again. One mistake clearly was going off the deep end. Maybe another was sleeping with him too soon. Just give it all some thought. Godspeed.10
Yeah, that was SUPER clingy and off-putting. At this point, he's not even going to listen to what you have to say. Leave him alone for a while, if he doesn't contact you, you can assume what his opinion of you is. Next time, regardless of chemistry, keep it cool. It is never okay to act like this after one night together.1
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Just let him respond. You are putting a lot of pressure on him. This is natural especially if you feel so strongly for someone.0
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I can totally understand wanting reassurance and freaking out a bit when you didn't hear back from him. However, having been on the receiving end of a barrage of texts/emails/calls very quickly into getting to know someone, I can honestly say it is incredibly off-putting. It makes me want to run and I'm a woman.
I'm not without sympathy at all! I just had my boyfriend, who acted like I was the greatest thing ever for 7 months, break-up with me abruptly and with no sign what-so-ever that he wasn't thrilled to be with me. He did it the day before Thanksgiving! I'd told him I loved him 2 weeks earlier and I think he freaked. My emotional/needy/grieving impulse was to call him up and say "This has been so good...don't do this just because you're scared." However, I didn't, because what would be the point?
My point is this: If someone wants to be with you, they will. You shouldn't have to cling, beg, etc. to make it happen. If you do then one of two things are going on: He's not the right guy for you and his lack of contact is a sign of that (no matter how great you thought it was). Or, you have issues of insecurity that make you terrified he won't be into you, stay with you, or whatever. Either way...is that the foundation you want to build a relaitonship on? Chalk this up to a learning experience and move on if he doesn't contact you. At this point though, I definitely would NOT contact him again, no matter how benign or well-intentioned.