Too set in my ways for a meaningful relationship?

[whiskeygirl33]

Pushing my thirties longest relationship ever was a year. Met someone that is really wanting a serious relationship with me. Has anyone else ever found it kind of hard to mesh into that lifestyle after being single for a extended period of time? Having a little trouble with it freaking me out some...not sure why.

[The-Romanian]

The only difference in lifestyle I've come across was my food goes twice as fast, toilet paper goes real quick, and I have to take consideration about needing to spend time with someone else. Other than doing what I normally did when I just felt like it. And other things along those lines. But, the fact of being with someone, and having something like that is good. Only if the relationship itself is good. Unless it's just done out of convenience of just wanting to be with someone.

What kind of serious relationship are you, and they wanting? Is it the same? Is it different? Detail it.

[whiskeygirl33]

My passed relationships seemed to go as far as friends with benifits as times. We were close, but at the same time not that close in the sense that we never became more then just a casual dating couple. I never considered moving in or going away with them for vacation that was just the two of us. This guy wants that a serious relationship, he knows he wants to have kids and get married. I guess I've never had anything even close to that so its just seems a little hard to adjust to.

[The-Romanian]

If this is really what you want with this individual. Your fear of it would scare him off. Because to him, you seem capable of being what he wants. You aren't accustomed to it because of how your track record has been. If he isn't aware of how your past is. Make him aware you're not used to much longevity. Make it clear that this is new territory. And you two then make the relationship. He may not be used to what you are, and vice versa. But, don't let serious commitment be an issue.

[rgtsc01]

I have dated some women where they had been dormant for some time. Most had been pretty busy occupying themselves with other activities, friends for example. A relationship, especially when it becomes physical, can occupy a vast amount of time. It's wonderful of course, but your friends will understand and may even be slightly jealous.

Just be sure to set some time aside to contact your friends and do the things you like doing. He'll understand as there will be things he likes doing.

You'll be fine. Enjoy!

[whiskeygirl33]

Yeah it just feels like I have spent a lot of time keeping myself busy with the things that I like to enjoy while I've been single and not dating someone. Now I don't know how to not give them up, but manage it all I guess.

[Whistling_Dixie]

Don't worry! You'll be surprise how easy it is for you to adapt.

[whiskeygirl33]

I'm hoping lol