Hello everyone and thanks for your help.
I am 32 years old and my partner is 30 years old. We have been together for 1 and 1/2 in this relationship.
The issue we have is communication. For example, she mentioned “ I sensed that it upset you yesterday, but don’t worry about it “
For me, yesterday was amazing, even though I was sick I enjoyed our time together. The hard thing for me it’s to understand what in specific she sensed that make me feel upset.
I asked for clarification but she said she already did it… in the end we always enter in a loop where we start arguing…
Another thing is that sometimes she does not believe my words. She said it is really hard for her to read me. She said that I have a poker face…
she expects in a way that my face shows affection, even though my actions are showing it. I cannot change my facial expressions as they are already like that. It’s not like all day I have the same focus face or relax face.
I have told her many times that I love her and I want a future together. That she is the first person I have ever considered this… however she tries and wants to read my expressions.
she said the expressions really show if you are enjoying or not. On my mind it’s like if i don’t like something I say it, but my sad/angry/happy face is not going to last for hours.
I have been trying everything from my side, also I am taking therapy sessions to help me understand better my relationship. However never works.
We are very different, she unconsciously expects for me to show some expressions. However, I do show expressions and actions as well—I act naturally. But as she can’t read me it troubles her making think that I’m rejecting her.
I think we are just hurting each other, I have asked her many times that she needs to have therapy sessions to release past blocks or relationship experiences.
What do you think? Am I doing something wrong? I started thinking that this could end the relationship…
Thanks for any help/suggestions
I am 32 years old and my partner is 30 years old. We have been together for 1 and 1/2 in this relationship.
The issue we have is communication. For example, she mentioned “ I sensed that it upset you yesterday, but don’t worry about it “
For me, yesterday was amazing, even though I was sick I enjoyed our time together. The hard thing for me it’s to understand what in specific she sensed that make me feel upset.
I asked for clarification but she said she already did it… in the end we always enter in a loop where we start arguing…
Another thing is that sometimes she does not believe my words. She said it is really hard for her to read me. She said that I have a poker face…
she expects in a way that my face shows affection, even though my actions are showing it. I cannot change my facial expressions as they are already like that. It’s not like all day I have the same focus face or relax face.
I have told her many times that I love her and I want a future together. That she is the first person I have ever considered this… however she tries and wants to read my expressions.
she said the expressions really show if you are enjoying or not. On my mind it’s like if i don’t like something I say it, but my sad/angry/happy face is not going to last for hours.
I have been trying everything from my side, also I am taking therapy sessions to help me understand better my relationship. However never works.
We are very different, she unconsciously expects for me to show some expressions. However, I do show expressions and actions as well—I act naturally. But as she can’t read me it troubles her making think that I’m rejecting her.
I think we are just hurting each other, I have asked her many times that she needs to have therapy sessions to release past blocks or relationship experiences.
What do you think? Am I doing something wrong? I started thinking that this could end the relationship…
Thanks for any help/suggestions
