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I met a guy online who told me he stayed on dating sites for 3 years. He told me he never had sex with anyone except for one girl three years ago. He travelled all the way to my city for four hours just to meet me.

When I first met him, I did pull away, but then he tried to prove that not all men are the same. He didn't force me to have sex with him. But then he told me something that somehow scared me—he doesn't want to commit. I did not bother to think about it and just had a good time with him. We shared a lot of talks, fun, and walks. We were both happy and just sending out positive vibes until we had sex together.

After the two days we spent together, he said he had to leave me to visit his friend "girl" in another city, which is 30 minutes away. I was curious about it, but he said she is just a family friend, and they have been friends for many years and are very close. Her family is already his family. He stayed there for three days, and I did not bother to overthink it.

We still communicated together right after he left, and we have been calling and texting each other for three weeks now, getting to know each other better. He eventually told me that he wanted to get serious about me; he sent a lot of kiss and hug emoticons. We become more comfortable with each other.

Now, he told me he wants to drop by to see me in the city next week. I asked him, "Where are you going?" He said to his friend, "Girl," again for two days, but his ultimate goal is to meet me.

I felt uncomfortable and scared if he was telling the truth, and I somehow doubted that this girl could be his girlfriend or fling. I pulled away again from him, even if it did hurt me a lot, and said I needed space.

Now my question is, do I need advice on whether I shouldn't be jealous of this friend's "girl" OR should I be suspicious and cautious of this guy?

My boyfriend and have been arguing non-stop because of a problem we didn't get through the first time we started dating. The first time we started he would say rude and insensitive things to me usually after hanging out with friends or going to a party. Usually at these he would drink or smoke weed a lot and turn verbally violent. Even after addressing it with him he brushed me off, until one time he stopped for a month and then continued his problem. Over the summer we broke up and stopped talking completely, but after the summer we were forced to spend time together which rekindled old feelings even though I was kinda moving on. Long story short we ended getting back together and he is showing old patterns. Last week, we got in a argument when he made a insensitive joke to my friend when she was talking about getting a girlfriend (he didn't know he was a lesbian.) He said something on the lines of "I guess men weren't good enough for you and I should keep you away from my girlfriend then". My friend looked super uncomfortable and decided to leave, after she left he said it was a joke and that she's to sensitive. Last reason I think I should break up with him is because after the argument about my friend he started bringing up trans people and about how people being gay was okay but being transgender was inhumane. After every argument he continues to say he loves me and he is so grateful to have me in his life. So should I break up with him?

I look at it this way

As example someone is "involved" with 4 people. By this I mean either talking or initial dating.

That person has to split their time between work or studies & these 4 people.

Eventually the best of those 4 will get fed up with that person's inability to give them time / put an effort (similar effort) into the relationship so the best will leave & all that person is left with is the dregs that can't get any better themselves.