Do you think it's smarter to talk with multiple potential partners on hopes of a good one or should put effort into quality not quanity from start?

[Anonymous]

I look at it this way

As example someone is "involved" with 4 people. By this I mean either talking or initial dating.

That person has to split their time between work or studies & these 4 people.

Eventually the best of those 4 will get fed up with that person's inability to give them time / put an effort (similar effort) into the relationship so the best will leave & all that person is left with is the dregs that can't get any better themselves.

Quality over Quanity

Multiple People

[jshm2]

You should only ever engage one at a time, or not at all. This isn't some product line you're getting off the shelf and testing. This is your life, and the life of others.

No wonder you're struggling.

[Iron_Man]

This is not the bachelor. I concentrate on one woman.

[Anonymous]

Variety is the spice of life. More is always better.

[Asker]

And you're a slut

[Pegases]

You nailed it. Most men and women alike are talking to multiple people at a time, more than they can handle, and they end up losing out on all of them.

[Jamie05rhs]

I agree with you.

[Jamie05rhs]

The only problem is when you talk to one and she doesn't reply for days. Then what are you supposed to do? Just wish and hope? Nothing is guaranteed.

[Asker]

My sister's boyfriend is a foreigner. They're going to be married in the spring. When they first started dating due to a problem with his work visa he was potentially going to get deported. They're not getting married due to his visa - that was 3 years ago - but for weeks he barely spoke to her trying to balance work & this problem. And she's not unattractive. It was just an immediate attraction.

If you can't wait a few days then what hope will you ever have in a meaningful relationship?

[Jamie05rhs]

@Asker
1. Were they actually in a relationship at that time?
2. Did she not talk to ANY other guys while he was ghosting her for WEEKS?
(Please message her right now and ask her. I would really appreciate it.)
(And tell her to be honest. No bullsh*t.)

[Asker]

Are you a retarded idiot he wasn't ghosting her

[Asker]

Actually don't answer that trailer trash because I already told you if you're too stupid to realize what I was saying about them you deserve to be a failure in relationships

[Jamie05rhs]

Wow. A lot of hostility here. Not sure why you're so upset. God bless you, though.