If I suspect my man likes another female coworker, should I start dropping him at his office premises to be seen with him, grabbing coffee with him?

[Anonymous]

I think my man likes another woman from his office, and that it's serious. I also think that this other woman really likes him.

SHould i start showing up more at his work premises, dropping him off and getting coffee with him for this other woman to leave him alone? Maybe if i show up with him more often, she'll get the impression that we have a good relationship and that she should stay away from him, and actually scare him too.

[Guy13]

Use some common sense but why not act like a happy couple and do some of that….

[Asker]

what do you mean by use some common sense? Do you think he will hate it/me for doing that?

[Guy13]

I don’t know what he will do. You know him better than I. I would not have a problem with you at work with lunch etc.

[Asker]

It wouldn't suffocate you?

[Asker]

it's a doomed marriage from the beginning. I got married at 21 and he was 27. Was way too fast. But we have 2 kids now

[Guy13]

Oh, I see. Yeah, that would be too much at work too.

[KrakenAttackin]

Maybe you should work harder to keep his attention.

[Iron_Man]

No discuss it

[Asker]

We did it. He denied it completely. But i sense it and I feel it like crazy. Why don't you think I should show up at this office premises and grab coffee with him in the morning, in order to be seen with him infront of his colleagues? How would you feel if your partner/wife did that?

We've had our challenges (got married a bit too young/early/fast), but we have two kids now. Long story short- we also did long distance for a while (i had the kids with me) and he stayed home, and this took an emotional toll on him. But we're back together at home, and it's been 2 years- but it hasn't been easy. Although I'm really making an effort, I can just tell he's very miserable.

Why don't you think i should show up at his office often? wouln't that scare away the other woman? What if he starts avoiding her in front of me? Then i'll definitely know he's up to something.

[Iron_Man]

If he’s a cheater is he really worth it

[Asker]

i wouldn't say he cheated already. but he likes her, and she likes him. should it stop if i show up at the office more often?

[Iron_Man]

I don’t know him

[In_Trance]

ridiculous... don't bother

[artsy_dragon]

Talk to him

[Asker]

He denied it. But i can sense it and I feel it.
DO you think it's weird if i start doing that, showing up at the office premises and make sure i'm seen with him more often?

[artsy_dragon]

Break up with him. Trust me jealousy is not worth it. It will make you hate yourself when you find out it is true. So you'll either go full crazy mode like I did or have an absolute breakdown. It is not worth it.

[Asker]

I wouldn't say he cheated already. But there definitely are feelings involved.
Do you think being seen with him at the office will stop the situation from escalating?

[artsy_dragon]

I understand where you're coming from but this may make it worse

[Asker]

HOw so?

[artsy_dragon]

Well you're defensive of your man. He is lying to you and you wanna get to the bottom of what the f is going on