Is it normal for my married male coworker to ignore me when his wife is around lol? he usually asks me to grab coffee with him?

[Anonymous]

why would he do that?

[spartan55]

Because he doesn't want to piss his wife off?
So, you really expect him to invite you to join them for coffee? Come on.

[Asker]

he invites me for coffee everyday, except for that few days that she comes to the office.

[spartan55]

Lol... why would you want to go with him and his wife? That's crazy.

[Asker]

no i don't want to go with them! i just don't get why he feels the need to "avoid" it when she's around since we're only colleagues

[spartan55]

Because he doesn't want her to get the wrong idea. I'm really baffled how you don't get this.

[spartan55]

Pro tip: don't entertain married men.

[Drachen]

Since you asked this you like him, stay away from the married man.🙄

[Asker]

he's the one who's constantly pursuing me lol and we're just friends, nothing happened. but why does he avoid me infront of her?

[Drachen]

It's more interesting why you're still questioning it.

[Asker]

i'm dying to know why he does that.

[spartan55]

@asker
You really are clueless.

[Anonymous]

He has a jealous wife. @Drachen might well be right, but my wife's been very antagonistic to women I had no interest in.

[Asker]

yeah maybe. and why does he continue talking to me so much if she's the jealous type? wouldn't he feel suffocated eventually?

[Opinion Owner]

Do you want an intimate relationship with someone who has a wife?

If not, accept the distance when she's around and carry on as normal. If you do, well, you're going to get cheated on.

[Asker]

"If not, accept the distance when she's around and carry on as normal. If you do, well, you're going to get cheated on"... what does that mean? can you please explain? accept the distance and carry on as normal.. meaning what?

[Opinion Owner]

Just be normal co-workers. He's just worried about his wife getting the wrong idea.