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So this is the same guy from my last post, I’ll just start by saying both of us have a massive ego and a lot of pride esp when it comes to texting first.

He works in a fast food shop where I’m a regular customer at. Anyways recently he started ignoring my texts (he told me he doesn’t make time for people that don’t make time for him as I wasn’t meeting him outside work) so I stopped messaging him, he barely messages me first unless it’s to tell me to sneak out of the shop to meet him for a little while as his boss doesn’t allow us to talk. That’s what’s so confusing he can sound so cold and uninterested but will literally risk his job just to see me for a little bit. Needless to say, we haven’t texted in 3 weeks (and I’ve not gone to his shop during this time either) since I stopped messaging first.

i haven’t met him outside work although he’s asked to see me , due to our schedules not being compatible and every time he asked to see me he was inviting me over to his place but it’s like he never wants to talk over text and doesn’t seem interested (over text) . Thing is though he gets so jealous when other guys hit on me and he always stares at me and when we have phone calls he’s so sweet and different.
I sometimes wonder if he’s trying to use reverse psychology to get with me or just trying to get in my pants. However if it was sex he wanted why would he still be talking to me 6 months later when he hasn’t gotten anything sexual from me and I’ve told him I’m waiting until marriage.

He always asks me to come chill at his place and said he’d cook for me and we could watch a movie or something but I don’t go to his place as I don’t want to get used for sex and I can’t tell if that his intention or not. Thing is he works night shifts and sleeps through the day or when he’s free I have classes so that’s really only the option he has but I still think if a guy really likes you he will make time.

Please be brutally honest so I can save myself the heartbreak.

So this is the same guy from my last post, I’ll just start by saying both of us have a massive ego and a lot of pride esp when it comes to texting first.

He works in a fast food shop where I’m a regular customer at. Anyways recently he started ignoring my texts (he told me he doesn’t make time for people that don’t make time for him as I wasn’t meeting him outside work) so I stopped messaging him, he barely messages me first unless it’s to tell me to sneak out of the shop to meet him for a little while as his boss doesn’t allow us to talk. That’s what’s so confusing he can sound so cold and uninterested but will literally risk his job just to see me for a little bit. Needless to say, we haven’t texted in 3 weeks (and I’ve not gone to his shop during this time either) since I stopped messaging first.

i haven’t met him outside work although he’s asked to see me , due to our schedules not being compatible and every time he asked to see me he was inviting me over to his place but it’s like he never wants to talk over text and doesn’t seem interested (over text) . Thing is though he gets so jealous when other guys hit on me and he always stares at me and when we have phone calls he’s so sweet and different.
I sometimes wonder if he’s trying to use reverse psychology to get with me or just trying to get in my pants. However if it was sex he wanted why would he still be talking to me 6 months later when he hasn’t gotten anything sexual from me and I’ve told him I’m waiting until marriage.

He always asks me to come chill at his place and said he’d cook for me and we could watch a movie or something but I don’t go to his place as I don’t want to get used for sex and I can’t tell if that his intention or not. Thing is he works night shifts and sleeps through the day or when he’s free I have classes so that’s really only the option he has but I still think if a guy really likes you he will make time.

Please be brutally honest so I can save myself the heartbreak.

My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years. I initiate literally all our dates (the last time he planned something for us was probably 2 years ago), I usually am the one to initiate sex, I ask him how he is and about his day and he rarely asks me how I’m going, I sometimes talk to him and he actually ignores me. When he’s away working or on surf trips, I will ask him how he’s going but he never asks me how everything is back home. But he still says he loves me. And sometimes he says he misses me. We’ve broken up before because I’ve told him that I feel unwanted at times and that the live isn’t reciprocated and he didn’t really do anything to try and mend our relationship. I feel like I’m trying really hard now to keep our love alive but it feels so one-sided. I have even tried to back off because I don’t want to come across needy. I have my own life - my own hobbies, my own career, my own friends, and I do many things without him. I have been genuinely choosing to be with him because I want him, not because I need him. I love him very much but I don’t feel appreciated or valued and I don’t know what else to do. I’ve spoken and even cried to him about feeling unloved and he says he understands and that he loves me but that something might be wrong with him. When I ask him what he thinks is wrong, he doesn’t know. I’m 32 now and really want to find my person. I’m starting to doubt if he is the one for me but I still love him very much and want to make it work. But I also love myself and don’t want to waste my time if it’s obvious to everyone else that he’s no longer interested in me.