How to be cold when your too nice to people (mostly to guys)?

[BG_21]

Lately I’ve been getting into situations where a guy will act interested and the next inconsistent. Then hot and cold, gaslighting/guilt tripping me and just using me for sex or some kind of intimacy. I’m a virgin and I’ve been used by guys twice. How does a girl become cold and mean to a guy that doesn’t want a friends with benefits relationship but a real connected relationship where is just not sex all the time? Or just wasting their time in general. Am I suppose to be mean to a guy if I don’t want something? I’m too nice sometimes and I just want to get my point across of what I want and don’t want.

[ImalwaysrightOK]

How are you a virgin when you said they use you for sex?

[BG_21]

I didn’t have sex. We only cuddled and kissed. And they went down on me but it never lead to sex.

[spartan55]

This post makes zero sense. Probably another troll job

[BG_21]

Sorry I was just asking if I need to be cold towards a guy who only wants me for sex and not an actual relationship. I’m not really good at explaining things.

[spartan55]

I wouldn't recommend being cold towards a guy at all, unless you don't like him. Just remember that ALL guys want sex. Some want a relationship too.

[BG_21]

Oh okay.

[spartan55]

Hope that helps.