So this is the same guy from my last post, I’ll just start by saying both of us have a massive ego and a lot of pride esp when it comes to texting first.
He works in a fast food shop where I’m a regular customer at. Anyways recently he started ignoring my texts (he told me he doesn’t make time for people that don’t make time for him as I wasn’t meeting him outside work) so I stopped messaging him, he barely messages me first unless it’s to tell me to sneak out of the shop to meet him for a little while as his boss doesn’t allow us to talk. That’s what’s so confusing he can sound so cold and uninterested but will literally risk his job just to see me for a little bit. Needless to say, we haven’t texted in 3 weeks (and I’ve not gone to his shop during this time either) since I stopped messaging first.
i haven’t met him outside work although he’s asked to see me , due to our schedules not being compatible and every time he asked to see me he was inviting me over to his place but it’s like he never wants to talk over text and doesn’t seem interested (over text) . Thing is though he gets so jealous when other guys hit on me and he always stares at me and when we have phone calls he’s so sweet and different.
I sometimes wonder if he’s trying to use reverse psychology to get with me or just trying to get in my pants. However if it was sex he wanted why would he still be talking to me 6 months later when he hasn’t gotten anything sexual from me and I’ve told him I’m waiting until marriage.
He always asks me to come chill at his place and said he’d cook for me and we could watch a movie or something but I don’t go to his place as I don’t want to get used for sex and I can’t tell if that his intention or not. Thing is he works night shifts and sleeps through the day or when he’s free I have classes so that’s really only the option he has but I still think if a guy really likes you he will make time.
Please be brutally honest so I can save myself the heartbreak.
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Based on what you've described, it's difficult to determine whether this guy is truly interested in a relationship with you or if he's just looking for a physical connection. It's possible that he enjoys the attention and the chase, but isn't willing to put in the effort to truly get to know you or to build a meaningful relationship.
It's also possible that he has a lot of pride and is hesitant to make a move, but if he truly likes you and wants to be with you, he should be willing to communicate openly and honestly with you about his feelings and intentions.
Ultimately, it's important to prioritize your own emotional wellbeing and to set boundaries that align with your values and goals. If you're not comfortable with the idea of going to his place or engaging in physical intimacy without a deeper emotional connection, it's important to communicate that to him and to be clear about your expectations.
If you're feeling uncertain or anxious about the situation, it may be helpful to take some time to reflect on your own feelings and to seek support from trusted friends or a therapist. Remember that you deserve to be with someone who respects and values you, and who is willing to put in the effort to build a meaningful and fulfilling relationship.