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So my roommate’s bf’s best friend is super attractive and checks off a lot of my boxes personality & life desires wise. I very much want to pursue something with him, but I’m super nervous since I’m in my mid/late 20s & have only ever had 1 boyfriend (who I dated off & on for a few months at a time for a few years, v toxic), he’s 1.5 years younger than me & has only ever had 1 girlfriend (only dated her for a couple months), & we’re also in a friend group together. I have more hookup experience than him, but I don’t really have a lot of dating experience, especially not healthy dating experience. The few times I have dated in the past, I’ve been told that I’m too clingy or move too fast to be serious bc I’m very touchy when I like someone. My love language is physical touch & sex is how I express a lot of affection, & sex early on doesn’t mean I’m not trying to be serious, it means I’m interested in you. If I can’t express myself in that way, then we’re not compatible.

He invited me over to his place the other night to watch some tv, & I went over & we drank some wine. I was holding his hand, put my head on his shoulder, cuddled up next to him, etc. I was expecting him to make the next move if he was interested in doing so. I’m very nervous about making all the physical moves bc I’ve been told in the past that I’m too cuddly & too physical. Well, he has even less experience than me & I don’t think he really knows how or when to move it to the next level. Long story short, I ended up leaving the other night without so much as a kiss from him, despite me being very cuddly. He seemed receptive to me touching him and when I even asked if I was doing too much he told me no, he just didn’t make a move to move things forward.

Is he uninterested & just wanting the attention? Or does it seem like he’s nervous too?

I’m in a relationship for 4 years now. My boyfriend and I have some incompatibilities like different interests, sex drive, and financial stability. The things I want to do, he doesn’t want to do which is also one of the causes why I feel bored. Or maybe I’m just bored and grown out of this relationship. There's not much wrong with my relationship, but sometimes I don’t feel like I want to be in a relationship. I want to date more people and see if there’s better out there. Is there any advice on what I should do because he’s a good guy, we get along, we even have a good time sometimes. I want to break up but then I also don’t. I don’t know what I should do anymore.

Pros:
- Very thoughtful towards my family and spends time with them, pays for them when going out
- Loves me, always checks up on me and takes care of me.
-We also have fun joking around and talking to each other
- Sometimes surprise me with snacks so I don't stress out too much in school
-Very good with kids and always trying to make me happy when I communicate my needs and
concerns

Cons:
-Doesn't have similar interests together (I like sightseeing, exercising, and going out, he likes staying home and spend time with fam)
-Doesn't have a stable career or any ambition
(Makes minimum wage and tells me he will find a better job but nothing changed after a few years,
I'm still in school trying to become a nurse)
-Incompatible sex drives (I get sex deprived bc we only have sex when he wants it and we don't do it as much)
- Doesn't prioritize me (last minute cancelled on my bday bc he doesn't want to do what I want to do and is tired that day)

Overall it's not a bad relationship. He's a very sweet guy but sometimes I don't feel like we're compatible and lately, I feel like im slowly falling out of love. Especially since he's not even trying to improve himself with a better career. But then at the same time I still have so much love for him and don't want to regret leaving him. We've been together for a couple years so I don't know. Is this relationship worth staying in or should I find someone more compatible?