What do you do if you’re unsure if he’s genuine or not (gut feeling)?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been chatting to this guy since October last year. We finally met 6 weeks ago, caught up once a week since.

I have this gut feeling that he’s just using me as a temporary or just for sex.

The last time I asked him I told him I found him confusing and he said he does like me a lot and yeah if he wasn’t interested he wouldn’t keep coming around mine. But we have sex every time so I can’t believe in just that.

How do I ask him again or ask for reassurance?

[Anonymous]

It's important to trust your gut feelings and take them seriously. If you have concerns about the guy's intentions or aren't sure if he's being genuine with you, it's worth having an open and honest conversation with him about your concerns.

You could start by saying something like, "I really enjoy spending time with you, but I just wanted to be honest and say that I have some concerns about our relationship. I sometimes feel like I'm not sure if you're being genuine with me, and I want to make sure we're on the same page. Can we talk about where we stand and what we're looking for in this relationship?"

It's important to listen to his response and ask follow-up questions to clarify his intentions. If he is unable or unwilling to provide reassurance or clarity, it may be a sign that he's not taking the relationship seriously or is just interested in using you for sex. Remember that you deserve to be treated with respect and honesty, and that it's okay to set boundaries and end a relationship that isn't meeting your needs.

[Vikkrram]

Everytime you would ask him he would reply the same thing the best would be to avoid sex for some time then see what he has to offer then