Would you accept a date with a guy if he says he wants to have sex with you?

[Anonymous]

If say you have been talking on and off with a guy for a few months and he brings up having sex the next time you meet would you ghost them or think about it? I asked him if he would still want to meet even if it didn’t go anywhere and he said sure but that he wouldn’t mind a kiss. He already knows I haven’t made up my mind but I’m still interested to meet just to see where it goes.

[quaranta]

I would, if I am looking for sex only, no strings attached, and I can keep dating other guys I see as dating material (not him).
So if you don't consider him dating material, all fine.

While if I'm looking for a relationship, that is the wrong way to go because if he is looking for sex-only it means we're looking for different things and that when he gets sex he is done with it and won't bring it to a next level like I'd hope instead.
It happens to so many women, don't make this mistake of thinking that if you give him what he wants he will give you a relationship in return. He has to want a relationship already, you don't have to "manipulate him" into that, it just doesn't work and it traps you there instead, after spending effort and receiving nothing you get addicted to spend more and more, clinging there to get some result in return. So if you want a relationship, then require clarity about his feelings and make sure he is on the same page as you before wasting effort on him. And especially, if he won't commit to you, don't make him your only guy you're dating. Exclusivity comes with his commitment, don't waste yourself cheap.

[Asker]

Yeah I wasn’t really thinking doing sexual things were the foundation of a real relationship. It is more like I’m interested to gain experience because I had some guys tell me it was obvious I didn’t. Like I want to improve my skills in that area you know? Though I don’t expect a relationship I guess it would be hurtful if he was rude to me after. Like some guys condescend you after that you know? So not saying I think about a relationship at all but I’m scared he won’t respect me or something

[quaranta]

What would be not respectful for you after a sexual experience with him?

[BrookeAZ90]

I think he's made his intentions clear and sex is his priority. If yours is something else, I'd stay away from that.

[MrCommodore]

Its really up to you and what you want, but at least make sure he isn't a guy who will disrespect you, like use you like a piece of meat and pull his pants back on and leave.

Hooking up is fine, but its ultimately about what you want. Personally I'd suggest you find a guy you really like, but its your call.

[Juxtapose]

If I'm going out with a guy then yeah, I want to fuck him.